Anyone getting jealous/unfriendly comments from "friends"?

waitinggame
on 10/26/11 3:31 am - Bowie, MD

She's doing awesome. She's down 80 pounds and looking fabulous. She's rather tall (5'10") so she really carries her weight well. She'd be fine if she didn't lose another pound. She's been in a stall for a bit and doing that thing we all do wondering if she's done losing, but I'm sure the stall will break and she'll lose more. And she is NOT one of the one's making the comments--thank God. I got a great pic of me and her at a party the other week. I'll have to post it with our before shot.

Thanks for checking!

Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.

RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!

*6.5 lost preop

scottswife1997
on 10/26/11 1:39 am - Ardmore, OK

RNY on 02/22/10

I think it's just jealousy coming out. I too feel like I am getting the life that I have always wanted to live. However, my MIL, keeps getting in my way. She tells everyone that my husband and I had let ourselves go and got really fat, so we had to have surgery to help us. At a family reunion last weekend, she passed around a picture of my husband and I before we had gastric bypass. I said to her I really don't think this is necessary...any of it.

I think it should be my choice to voice if I want to share that I had surgery or not. And I'm not ashamed of it. I have been upfront with everyone I know....but at what point can I start taking credit for the hard work that it takes to lose and keep the weight off? The surgery is not a miracle maker. I've known people who manage to put it all back on and then some.

Holly

(deactivated member)
on 10/26/11 2:52 am

VSG on 03/03/09

WOW, kitty got claws, I picked the wrong time to pick a fight. Maybe I will check in later this afternoon to see what the body count is and check for collateral on message board.

Peace out
Bubba

waitinggame
on 10/26/11 3:42 am - Bowie, MD

Yeah, you might not wanna mess with me right meow--I'm in a mood.

Slowly pulling claws back in,

Denise

Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.

RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!

*6.5 lost preop

waitinggame
on 10/26/11 3:39 am - Bowie, MD

Your MIL did that???? So where did you bury her? Kidding!!! Well, mostly. :) That was just uncalled for. Now granted, had she been gushing about how awesome you've done and how far you've come, that'd be one thing, but even then she should have respected your wishes.

Funny enough, the one friend of mine that is the main culprit had her WLS AND plastics and regained a bunch of weight. When I was in the bathroom showing her my body, she literally shoved me to the side so she could get into the mirror and lifts up her shirt and says, "I could look like you again if I wanted to. I just have to lose a little weight." while she sucked in her stomach. Interesting. I didn't suggest that you COULDN'T look like me if you wanted to, nor would I ever suggest that I am so awesome that you'd want to look like me in the first place. Just a very weird response to my showing her my body. How about "Wow, that's great. I'm sure you're happy"? I just sort of giggled and said "Stop, you're fine." So it wound up being about her and not me and that's fine, but I felt like I really couldn't enjoy the moment and it almost made me feel guilty. Weird.

The surgery is by no means a miracle maker. I've got several in my life who have regained. It is painful and sad when it happens because many of us consider this our last ditch effort. Yes, the surgery is a nice springboard, but we put in the hours at the gym, or in the kitchen preparing appropriate food, or on online support forums. WE do the work, the surgery just helps us along and that isn't a forever thing either. I feel like the plastics is yet another level of security against regain, but she's shown me that isn't the case either. We must remain diligent.

Sorry your MIL was thoughtless. You have much to be proud of!!

Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.

RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!

*6.5 lost preop

scottswife1997
on 10/26/11 5:43 am - Ardmore, OK

RNY on 02/22/10

Thanks for your support...Didn't mean to run on your comment. Just came flowing out when I heard about the jealousy of your friend. You have done and awesome job and should feel proud of everything you have done. Don't let your friends words discourage you or get you down. Next time turn it around on your friend and say something back, like yeah maybe if you start coming to the gym with me the results will be noticeable....lol

Keep up the good work!

Holly

waitinggame
on 10/26/11 6:08 am - Bowie, MD

If you can't run on a comment here, then where can you?? Run away my friend!! Good to get it out sometimes!!

Thanks!

Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.

RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!

*6.5 lost preop

(deactivated member)
on 10/27/11 12:44 am - TX

RNY on 03/01/11

I really hate that part of it. When people hear you've had surgery, they just assume you sat on your butt and ate Cheetos and the fat magically dropped off. They don't know how it is - the days of not eating and measuring everything, the protein requirements, the water, being so so tired and having to keep on going, the massive exercise - and its too cumbersome to try and educate every person you pass on surgery and how it works. That is why I don't try to anymore. I just keep quiet about it unless its a friend who is asking.

Laura in Texas
on 10/26/11 4:36 am

RNY on 09/17/08

I'm sorry you're going through this, Denise. I am very thankful that I have not gotten those comments, but most of my friends are thin and have never had a weight problem. So I don't think there's the whole jealousy thing involved. They still look better than me.

I am careful about not talking much about my surgeries, unless asked. And I have not shown my new midsection to any of them.

Laura

Laura in Texas

53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."

waitinggame
on 10/26/11 5:28 am - Bowie, MD

How the heck have you gotten away with not showing them? It's like I'm some sort of circus sideshow the way my friends have clammored to come see the results. All of them knew of the surgery because they were involved in helping out while I rehabbed and would have figured it out soon enough the first time I wore a form fitting shirt. Nice there isn't a jealousy component with your friends--wish I could say the same. Maybe when they realize I'm still the same girl and not getting asked out on dates by Bradley Cooper or Matthew McCoughnehy (sp?) they'll simmer down. For now I guess I'll be trying hard to bite my tongue!!!

Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.

RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!

*6.5 lost preop

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