upset... insurance issues

 I know I need to save, I was just upset, and had to vent... that's all.  I never said I didn't have a full time job, I said in the PAST I didn't have a full time job, and that's how I messed up my credit.

I do work full time, and actually just picked up a second job... 

but thanks

Jezz I know completely what you're going through.  I have a surgery date of October 4th (and you folks will be seeing a post from me on that shortly) - and I am/was infuriated that someone in an office somewhere can coldly decide that despite dramatic weight loss, it's "just cosmetic" - I wanted to drive to their office and strangle them.  The biggest irony for me is that I am a surgery buyer for one of the larger healthcare organizations in my state. 

Don't give up girl, you've fought hard to get to this stage, and I know you'll push past this too!

Many creditors will give credit if you have been on-time paying your bills for 2 years. Hang in there!! I'm a single mom of two with no baby-daddy. If I can get my **** together and make it happen, anyone can!!

Laura

Skin removal IS cosmetic.

Laz22girl, skin removal is not simply 'cosmetic' in nature.  Im one of the few folks who doesn't have skin rashes, irritations and/or infections.  It's a hygeinic issue, which can lead to some pretty severe health problems down the road.

It's also an issue of mental well being.  To lose as much weight as I have (121 pounds since I first started down this road) and have the saggy, flabby bits, nearly counter-balances the triumph of the surgery itself.  To put it another way, I'm 43 years old, and to look in the mirror and see the shade of my grandmother rather than the still fairly young woman I am, is completely demoralizing.

I have no intent or wish to start a flame war, but at the same time, I needed to step in and speak my thoughts on your post.

I totally agree with you Raven...I haven't had a rash in quite awhile...... but it IS a hygenic issue... and my anxiety/issues with self are just as bad as they were pre-gastric bypass... I am only 29 years old, but single, have such anxiety meeting new men, because If I hate the way I look, it's hard to be confident and expect someone else to like the way I look... am so anxious that a piece of my batwing is going to show if my elbow length shirt rides up, regardless of how hot it is, have to wear longer sleeves and be so uncomfortable... I have lost almost 200 lbs, so the skin IS sagging, flabby, makes wearing clothes difficult as nothing fits properly due to the disproportionate body I have, and I just am frustrated and it is disheartening.

Thanks for your reply

I say this with the best of intentions, but have you considered going to counseling? As much I understand disliking the excess skin, it concerns me that your anxieties over your body are this strong. If losing the excess weight hasn't improved your self-esteem, there's a chance that losing the excess skin won't either. You may want to talk to a professional about your confidence issues, because you really have a lot to be confident about. You've lost almost 200 pounds -- that's an amazing accomplishment! And in less than two years? Wow!

Please know that you're not alone in dealing with this, and know that you CAN get through this. It's a frustrating and loooong journey, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Don't give up hope. :)

Arms are cheap, relatively speaking. Usually between 3-6K. Or less if you find a good residency program. My arms cost $3900. I did them first. Did wonders for my self-esteem. Good shapewear held the rest in place until I could afford my lbl.

Laura

 wow... that's all your arms were? A friend of mine went for a consult around here and was told "$5000 per arm", which i think is a funny way to word it, because who would get one arm done??? lol... that's awesome! I can imagine it would do wonders!!!!

Gee, thats strange Laz22, when BCBS approved me for reconstructive surgery they used the terminology medically necessary reconstructive surgery . I guess it's a mind set or an attitude but it was a strategy that I used and was approved for half of the surgeons fee, all of the facility,and 80% of the anetheselogist. Play to win....