cadavor style belt lift

Some people label me as angry or counter productive.  Well,  I'm sure not the same fun loving girl I used to be by a long shot  but I'm  fairly well balanced and have a good sense of humor and I don't go around all angry all the time.  I have been terribly hurt  in a very low down dirty way.  I"m sure my doctors are good surgeons but they were thinking of something else the day they operated on me or maybe  they were momentarily stumped and there just wasn't time in their schedule to deal with it so they hurried through and over tightened to get me out the door.  We all have bad days and make mistakes or maybe their idea of how a body should be is different than mine. This type of surgery is  pretty much of a crap shoot.  Most people are able to admit that something is wrong when it's wrong but not when it comes to plastic surgery -it seems.-even after the stature of limitations is up .  After all, my legs are still hanging on somehow and I can still walk about. A severely burned person might be happy as hell to have a thin sliver of skin like I have (maybe??) now holding their legs pelvis crotch and groin all together "teeter totter style." I think about that a lot.  I wasn't a burn patient though.  My groin was strong and healthy  and supportive. The worst of my problem can't even been seen in photos or in person . When I sit there is no compartment for the front of my upper leg.  It gets pulled down down into my inner leg. This stress has shredded away any adipose in my groin and   inner leg. My sinews and tendons are so tightly trapped in a direction they can't function well in. I even have trouble breathing with  so many very fragile sensitive areas trapped so tightly. Deep pain on each side of  my pelvic mound  like I'm been kicked real hard to the point of seeing stars almost the whole time I'm at work sitting. I have five more years till retirement.  I don't know how I'm going to make it but I've been thinking that way for the past nine years so maybe I can make it another five. Sheesh I hope so.  All I know is that I'm super ready for  complete bed rest  and maybe doing the dishes every other day - but I can't have that life style now. I smile a whole lot through it all - I'm a smiling fool--but I reserve certain times when I don't smile -that's for sure. Sorry about that.  And I'm scared and I can't get any help or  support   I've been to doctors and after they jump back in shock after seeing my pelvis  they compose themselves and say that I seem fine to them.  So I try to think that I will be fine someday but some days I can't believe that because everything hurts so much and is so out of whack. 
  If any one out there is considering having a surgery of the type I had after their weight loss be sure to take one of my pictures on your consulation with a plastic surgeon and tell him/her to look at it and promise that won't happen to you..

Have you thought about going to Mexico for a second opinion?  Don't give up, you've gone through too much to do that.

Laura

I don't really know how to word this without sounding heartless and that is clearly not my intent. I am truly sorry that you are having these issues and are in so much pain. What I don't understand is why on earth anything was done to you besides a panniculectomy or even a tummy tuck. Looking at your before picture that's labeled "before lipo and lift" it clearly shows that your only problem was a little loose skin on your abdomen. I would kill to have a back side that looked like yours. Your butt, hips and thighs were gorgeous.

I guess my point is that as weight loss patients we really need to face reality and know that we can't be perfect. All women have flaws and there are some areas that need to be left alone rather than be surgically altered. I'm not sure how many pre-op consultations you went on but I know my surgeon would not have done a lift on you. I wish your surgeons would have used the same judgement.

Yeah I really miss all those things I had.  I didn't even care about my stomach.pooch.  There is a twist to my story and I've told it a bunch of times before but not for awhile.  A really cruel, sociopathic plastic surgeon, Dr. Mario Baccari, did something really bad to me.  I can't even talk about what he did right now.  My doctors Aly and Cram who did the body lift were supposed to help reconstruct me from what Baccari did and I thought they cared about me, but they did some goofy stuff that had nothing to do with my structure and didn't really help me at all.  They cut off all the good things and sewed the bad areas back together totally against the way my pelvis tilts.  I had a elongated pelvic slope and they just never even thought twice about cuttin 3/4 of the skin from my inner pelvis off  or actual leg opening and pulling it up to my just under my hips.  I think they think that I'm too stupid to notice the difference.  When I communicate with them through emails they say stuff like.... "your incision site is coming along nicely continue with the stretching" and when I tell them how horibbly painful it is I get this...."we all are getting older ..and sometimes  my wife and I think about trying trying 'blue stuff ' that is advertised on television"  So ho hum and cutsey wootsey.  Other doctors I've seen also act like there is nothing wrong with this arrangement.  I guess they like to think Ithat "m just too stupid too let something like this bother me or something.  If any doctors had given me the pain meds I have been needing for so many years I would be probably be a total drug addict by now.  I never did get anything for pain besides Ultram which makes me anxious.   Yeah , bad stuff happens.  A doctor can be a sociopath and just  let loose all sorts of craziness on the right vunerable person and no one will say boo about it.  And a doctor can misinterpret how a woman's figure is or can be.  Hell they study all the time. Seems  only a real womanizer would be able to know what needs to be known about a woman's body probably.  Maybe every plastic surgery office  should have a resident "street pimp' on staff to tell them what to     do to this and that.  My doctors seemed sort of uptight and shy about checking me out in the preop stages.  I remember wondering how in the world they could determine what to do from the exam I got.  I suggested at the time different positions I could assume so they would know more about how things meet up when I sit "indian style"  and so on.  but they said they had ways to determine these things and I should not worry.  I breathed a sigh of relief and trusted that they knew what they were doing.  That was my last sigh of relief ...9 and 1/2 years ago.  Sheesh!!  Guess I'll continue stretching and maybe go totally mad soon.  I will not try the "blue stuff."

oops! cadaver is spelled cadaver not cadavor.  I  thought so , forgot to check before posting.