Did you lose any friends because of PS..
Hi All,
Ok I had a friend whom I thought of like a sister..who has not spoken to me since my PS May 2010. She had a RNY 6 months before me...she gained alot of weight back so shes having a revision by scaring the opening..sounds gross. well I've been successful and she was mad I didn't gain the weight back and when I got my panni & BR done I never heard from her again.
It's been 5 weeks and I guess we aren't friends anylonger..so sad, did this type of thing happen to anyone else ? It wasn't my fault she gained her weight back !
Hugs to all.. Des
Ok I had a friend whom I thought of like a sister..who has not spoken to me since my PS May 2010. She had a RNY 6 months before me...she gained alot of weight back so shes having a revision by scaring the opening..sounds gross. well I've been successful and she was mad I didn't gain the weight back and when I got my panni & BR done I never heard from her again.
It's been 5 weeks and I guess we aren't friends anylonger..so sad, did this type of thing happen to anyone else ? It wasn't my fault she gained her weight back !
Hugs to all.. Des
I've had people I thought were friends turn on me once I reached goal and started planning ps - and meanwhile, they still struggled and turned bitter at any person with a positive outlook. Their issue, not mine - and quite honestly - the best weight I ever lost was them.
I need to live my life the way I want to - and you should too.
Your friend needs to come to terms with herself. I wouldn't say that she is jealous of your success, but thinks more of herself as a failure and resents you, instead of getting her life back under control.
And mommyteacher - get the bodacious tatas and let 'em talk. ****o)
I need to live my life the way I want to - and you should too.
Your friend needs to come to terms with herself. I wouldn't say that she is jealous of your success, but thinks more of herself as a failure and resents you, instead of getting her life back under control.
And mommyteacher - get the bodacious tatas and let 'em talk. ****o)
RNY: 10/11/2001 PS: May 28, 2010: Circumferential body lift with gluteal augmentation and brachioplasty & thoracoplasty June 25, 2010: Bilateral breast augmentation with mastopexy and medial thigh lift
Yes I sure have! I had a bl/ba 11 yrs ago because well my boobs were very saggy. I had so much judgement and rude comments. Even had a lady call me "jugs". and no my boobs were not even big lol.. I learned then be be vary careful who I told..... 3 yrs ago I decided to change my diet and I lost around 70lbs. Ive also had 5 babies (one was stillborn) 4 of which were c-sections. My belly was a mess! I decided to have the lbl 2 yrs ago. I told my close friends and family, who were so excited and happy for me, that they told everyone they knew 
. So again I delt with rude comments from friends and family. 2weeks and 2 days ago I had my bl/ba redone and I told almost no one.. I even changed my name here. Im not going to deal with that sort of thing any more. What Ive had done is not because Im trying to be perfect. After messing up my body with weight gain and loss I just want to feel normal. I know people like you who have been in my shoes understand how I feel. I am so grateful to this community!! My word of advice, tell as few as you have to.
. So again I delt with rude comments from friends and family. 2weeks and 2 days ago I had my bl/ba redone and I told almost no one.. I even changed my name here. Im not going to deal with that sort of thing any more. What Ive had done is not because Im trying to be perfect. After messing up my body with weight gain and loss I just want to feel normal. I know people like you who have been in my shoes understand how I feel. I am so grateful to this community!! My word of advice, tell as few as you have to. 
.Happy New Birthday to us all.
..Hugs Despinasdream
Exactly. The moment I stopped worrying about what others thought, then the chains fell off and everything was put in proper perspective for me. Regardless of whether people think ill of me, or really admire me - I can't get wrapped up in their feelings.
Sure it's nice if everyone likes me but the fact is, life isn't like that. But as long as I live my life true to my values and my beliefs, then those who's opinions I value, will admire me. And those who want me to live by their values, well, then it's their loss.
To quote Shakespere from Hamlet "This above all, to thine ownself be true."
Sure it's nice if everyone likes me but the fact is, life isn't like that. But as long as I live my life true to my values and my beliefs, then those who's opinions I value, will admire me. And those who want me to live by their values, well, then it's their loss.
To quote Shakespere from Hamlet "This above all, to thine ownself be true."
RNY: 10/11/2001 PS: May 28, 2010: Circumferential body lift with gluteal augmentation and brachioplasty & thoracoplasty June 25, 2010: Bilateral breast augmentation with mastopexy and medial thigh lift
ANEWMii
on 7/10/10 8:44 am - Phoenix, AZ
on 7/10/10 8:44 am - Phoenix, AZ
Hi Des (sorry this isVERY long, and I jumped up on my soapbox a bit ),
It's a sad situation for your friend. I have come to understand that people are just hurt. Hurt people, hurt people. It's just a fact. She is hurting and she is dealing with that by cutting you out of her life. It's sad, but you are not able to heal the hurts of the world. You can only be who God made you to be. It took me 40 years to learn this. I only need to be who God says I am, and nobody else. I no longer have to try to live up to what people or the world tells me I need to be or need to look like. I also see people for what they are, they are hurt. I now know that most of the time when some one does something hurtful to me, it's not usually about me at all, it is usually about the hurt they carry inside themselves. Instead of being angry or hurt myself, I have a more compassionate view of them. I feel sorry for their pain, and I try to lovingly reach out to them. If they don't accept it, there is nothing I can do about that. As far as my weight loss and plastics go, yeah people talk, some treat me different and whatever but I really don't care. For the first time in my 41 years, I am free! I talk openly about my weight loss and plastic surgery because it is my truth. It is what I have been through, it has been my journey and I earned it and am proud of it. If people don't like it, or they make judgements about me or whatever, there isn't anything I can do about that. I am grateful for what I have been through and for who I am now. I will use what I have learned to try to help others on their journey. I try to be understanding and treat people in a loving way. and I have found hat in a lot of instances once they realize that I wasn't born with this body and they hear my story, it changes their view and they talk openly to me about their struggles and hurt. People will tend to (and I have done this myself) make snap judgements of others. I have had women treat me coldly and give me dirty looks until they hear my story, then they treat me as though I am a long lost girlfriend! It is crazy and amazing to watch. I also accept that I am, and will always be a work in progress, as is everyone. That is how God intended it. I know I don't have it all figured out and I definitely don't have all of the answers but God has showed me truths about myself that are absolute and unshakable. I will be who HE says I am and I will live my life to glorify Him. Sorry if l sound a little preachy it's not my intention, is is just that this has changed my life and is how I live and I wanted to share it. I think each of us who have been through this life-changeing and body-changing experience need to find what they are comfortable with. What you share, how you share it and who you share it with should be your decision. That's why I love this forum! It is a wonderful place to share our views and experiences. I love my OH family! God bless you all!
It's a sad situation for your friend. I have come to understand that people are just hurt. Hurt people, hurt people. It's just a fact. She is hurting and she is dealing with that by cutting you out of her life. It's sad, but you are not able to heal the hurts of the world. You can only be who God made you to be. It took me 40 years to learn this. I only need to be who God says I am, and nobody else. I no longer have to try to live up to what people or the world tells me I need to be or need to look like. I also see people for what they are, they are hurt. I now know that most of the time when some one does something hurtful to me, it's not usually about me at all, it is usually about the hurt they carry inside themselves. Instead of being angry or hurt myself, I have a more compassionate view of them. I feel sorry for their pain, and I try to lovingly reach out to them. If they don't accept it, there is nothing I can do about that. As far as my weight loss and plastics go, yeah people talk, some treat me different and whatever but I really don't care. For the first time in my 41 years, I am free! I talk openly about my weight loss and plastic surgery because it is my truth. It is what I have been through, it has been my journey and I earned it and am proud of it. If people don't like it, or they make judgements about me or whatever, there isn't anything I can do about that. I am grateful for what I have been through and for who I am now. I will use what I have learned to try to help others on their journey. I try to be understanding and treat people in a loving way. and I have found hat in a lot of instances once they realize that I wasn't born with this body and they hear my story, it changes their view and they talk openly to me about their struggles and hurt. People will tend to (and I have done this myself) make snap judgements of others. I have had women treat me coldly and give me dirty looks until they hear my story, then they treat me as though I am a long lost girlfriend! It is crazy and amazing to watch. I also accept that I am, and will always be a work in progress, as is everyone. That is how God intended it. I know I don't have it all figured out and I definitely don't have all of the answers but God has showed me truths about myself that are absolute and unshakable. I will be who HE says I am and I will live my life to glorify Him. Sorry if l sound a little preachy it's not my intention, is is just that this has changed my life and is how I live and I wanted to share it. I think each of us who have been through this life-changeing and body-changing experience need to find what they are comfortable with. What you share, how you share it and who you share it with should be your decision. That's why I love this forum! It is a wonderful place to share our views and experiences. I love my OH family! God bless you all!
Sandi
I'm a whole new Mii! From 273+lbs to 145lbs. and a whole new life!!!
Lost through diet and exercise 
( Praise God and thanks Wii Fit! )
Body by God and Dr. Mazaheri!!!!
1st PS 3/30/10 - LBL/Brachio done by the wonderful Dr. Mazaheri
2nd PS 6/1/10 - BL/Thoracoplasty/Full TL of course with Dr. Mazaheri
Thank you God! I will always be grateful for the change you have made in me! All glory is Yours!
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