Sorry........I need to vent!!!!!!!

I just got home a few minutes ago. We live on a small street in a large city where people like to hang out on their porches. My fiancee and I had to walk by a few guys who live next to us (ages 20-21) who obviously had nothing better to do than to hang out on their porch. My fiancee was walking ahead of me because his hands were holding heavy bags of groceries and was in a hurry to put them down on our porch. When I walked by, they started telling eachother, "Look, there's Budha. That right there is Budha." As many of you know, I have had a panniculectomy, as well as have lost over 120lbs. I KNOW I LOOK GOOD!!!! But the funny thing is, my fiancee is very overweight and had a big belly. (due to my panni, I no longer have a belly!) So, why am I Budha, and not my fiancee????? Why was nothing said to him, but I was called names???? This has happened more than once!!!! About 2 years ago, (when I was definately big) my fiancee and I were walking home, and a bunch of guys in a car started shouting "It's the great pumkin!!!!" at me because I was wearing an orange shirt. AGAIN nothing was said to or about my overweight fiancee!!! WHY???????????

Men are such chickens!!!!!!!!!!

That's the only reason why I can figure they would only yell stuff at me and not my man!!!!! Any one else encounter stuff like this where you are with someone else overweight and, yet, YOU are the only one targeted for verbal abuse?

 maybe because they actually like you, boys are like that sometimes until they grow up

Sorry you live near idiots.  For as much as I've been out and about around where I live now (I've been here 6.5 years) I haven't encountered that level of rudeness.   But where I grew up I did.

They picked the easy target.  I've also found that it seems more 'socially acceptable' for men to be overweight than it does women.  They knew the comment would get to you and not bother your fiancee.  You have two choices -

Ignore them
or simply respond "that's the best you can do?"  

Did your fiancee not hear them say anything to you?  

I'm so sorry that you have had to endure such rude comments. I don't know why people feel so free to be so abusive. I was taught better.

I've actually had something almost opposite said, but just as hurtful. After losing more than 100 lbs. and having reconstructive surgery, I'd hear people comment to my husband, "wow, you'd better watch out....Kathie's on the prowl now". How terribly rude to my husband of more than 17 years that now I'm that I'm thin I'm going to be looking for someone better! This was not only rude to him but to me also, that I'd be so shallow to start looking for someone else. My dear husband loved me thin, heavy, fed me when I couldn't feed myself, washed my hair and brushed my teeth for me, emptied my foley bag full of urine....and people think that now I'm going to look for some hunk???

Even kidding, this was inappropriate and I never let a moment pass of not communicating with friends/aquaintenances that these comments were not funny.

We people who have been heavy are perhaps more sensitive than others. There are a lot of jerks out there and we need to find ways of coping with them. That's why we have this forum to vent.

Bring your comments here where we can support one another. All the best to you and your fiance'. You're doing great!

Tell those punks to go screw themselves...I know what it feels like to be singled out .
I was walking across the street at Fenway Park 25 years ago and I was a size 14...and this guy yelled out to me "Hey you lose wieght" I was mortified...there were tons of people around looking at me like 'what ??? I said laughing back "I'm working on it" when I wasn't even heavy..so you know what screw those rude jerks out there...do not let ANYONE speak to you like that again...stand up for yourself..and have your fiancee tell them to shut up !!!

Wow! I am so sorry those "nobody's" said that to you!! Some people can have no manners at all. How dare they! Just keep your head high because you know you are better than them!!