Question regarding changes in friendships

Okay, so I know some of this is a "me" issue but some of it is a "them" issue too.

I have a group of online friends that seemed to have decided that I wasn't part of their group anymore.    I chose to take a break away from the community for awhile to get myself in order prior to undergoing all the plastic surgery.   I took a couple weeks off and have decided to only focus on specific issues within the community.

Since that decision - they really no longer speak to me. Some of them I have met in person, so it's just "virtual friendships."  I know I'm probably making a bigger deal out of this than it is.  And I suppose all a long I was prepared to lose people out of my life because of the changes I'm going through.  I guess I didn't expect to lose so many friends all at once.

Part of me thinks my approach to it is rather cold-hearted - but I'm at a place right now where I am facing huge changes and will be a completely different person.  I have to focus on me or else I will lose me.  (yes I am in therapy to work through a lot of stuff like this)

Do others experience this?  

I mean I'm 42 - why do I feel like I'm in high school all over again?

In my humble opinion if a Friend cannot deal with you needed some "alone" time to work on you they are not really a friend.  A real friend accepts us as we are, faults and all...they are there during the good, the bad and the ugly.

Just my 2 cents.....

I'm going to be seeing some friends I have not physically seen in more than 18 months (I moved)...since then I've reached my weight loss goal and had plastics so I know they are in for a shock....it will be interesting to see how they react and if they still accept me.  I've changed inside and out but my core remains the same.

Hope things work out for you!!

Friends are truly rare.    We are just all aquaintances on here,  so do not take it to heart.    I am greatful for the support here and have paid it forward.   But we all grow and move on. 

Been there done that.   Over it too.   Take care of you and its ok to focus on you sometimes.    

Go out here and cultivate real life friends girl.  Take care

Friendships are for seasons of life....people come into our lives for a specific time and purpose...and we move out of people's lives...it is the natural cycle of life.  The one true FRIEND that is always with us...is ourself....that is why treating ourselves with love and gentleness is extremely important.  Your work in therapy is wonderful...I have benefited from my season of therapy....and yes, it comes around every once in awhile when I need a third party to help me see myself in helpful ways.  This journey we are on is life transforming...inside and out....we need lots of folks to walk beside us....but again, just long enough to get us to the next place....where new folks enter our lives....for a season of time.  BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.  LOVE YOURSELF.  BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF...and others will join you on the journey.  Blessings....

Thank you for this marvelous post. It's very clear that you have treated yourself with all the love and devotion you would extend to your BFF. You have a beautiful soul.

love!!!

Thank you all for the responses.  After today it is truly evident that the time has come for this cycle of friends to end.  I have to admit - I am a different person.  I am better and stronger. 

Friends are likes waves in the ocean. They wash around you  then are gone & a new wave comes in.

Since I started my PS  journey I have joined 3 PS forums. I figure in a year of so when my PS journey is coming to an end - I will no longer post here & will have moved on.

I also travel a lot & belong to a few travel forums. You have to be careful & not mix the the 2!! People you cruise with are not that interested in seroma's, or BA 'sor TT's LOL

Just be thankful that you had the friends at the time when you needed them.