Maybe I don't look as good as I thought...

It's been a little over 2 weeks since my TT. My DH hasn't said anything about my results. I keep waiting for him to notice or to compliment me but so far nothing. I've gotten tons of compliments from people at work and my family. This morning after I got out of the shower I pulled out the big guns (black lace sexy bra and panty, no binder or compression garments) and walked around the bedroom pretending to do stuff and fishing for a compliment or a look or something. Nothing!!!! Maybe I don't look as good as I think I do. Maybe he's grossed out or thinks I look weird. It's really starting to work on my self-esteem. I thought he would be the most excited (besides myself, of course). Then again maybe I am just being paranoid. He might think there is no use in getting all worked up over how I look because nothing's going to happen.
Hmmmmmm????....

 Talk to him.  I have found that I can't get anything out of my DH unless and point blank ask him!!!  Try not to let others govern how you feel about yourself. (I know..easier said than done)  When you look in that mirror, do you like what you see?  Of course you do!!!  You've come so far!  Share with your husband how you feel...i know my husband wouldn't want me to make a huge deal out of the body changes because then I might feel he didn't like what he saw before....he could just be looking out for your feelings all around....Hang in there and enjoy your new bod!!!!

Ask him about it. It will keep eating at you unless you find out what is going on.

I read this to my hubby and his response from a GUYS point of view is two things:

1. It may feel like a loaded situation for your hubby. He is afraid to gush over it for fear you will think he was unhappy before.

2. He's still in "care taker" mode - which is kinda like taking care of an invalid or child - you dont'  think sexually you think - it's hard to look at in a sexual frame of mind. Might take a week or two of you being normal again before he starts to feel that way.
For instance - Im 1.5wks out - my husband just had to help me take an enema - Im betting he's not going to be turned on by me for a few days at the least because of his caretaker role. Doesn't mean he doens't love me or ever feel attracted - just takes a few days.

Thanks and I think # 1 is definitely applicable to my situation. #2 not so much. My hubby has not been my caretaker. So count yourself lucky. I have actually been extremely disappointed in his lack of help and concern. My mom blames me and my fierce independence for his apathy. She helped me for the first 2 days but I have been own my own since day one. I could have *****ed and bantered until he reluctantly helped me but who wants help from someone who isn't willing? He's a tad bit selfish and like Jen Anniston said about Brad Pitt he lacks a sensitivity chip but I knew this when I married him. I went back to work yesterday so I feel pretty much back to normal except for the swelling and occassional twinges of pain.

I'll just wait it out and see what happens...

Wow, that IS a caretaker role! If the issue is being stopped up, you may want to have him go get some Smooth Move Tea. The most amazing stuff that doesn't cramp you or hurt and gets things going!

You are a lucky woman indeed!

My husband is AMAZING. He didn't complain at all the whole time - and even held my hand while I sat hollering on the potty cause the enema solution BURNED coming out!
He didn't flinch - and no matter how horrified I am he just tries to laugh it off. This isn't to say it didn't ick him out - but he sure wasn't going to let me see that and be humiliated!
Im a blessed woman indeed!
I actually think I might have some Smooth Move around here somewhere - have to look - but the prunes and enema together have started things along so Im hopeful!

Don't talk silly....you look very good!
I think maybe he is afraid of hurting you....for some guys after their wife has plastic surgery it takes a while until they thing it's safe and they won't physically hurt you.

Could also be that he is afraid to say too much because he's afraid you will leave him now that you are looking and feeling better....Know what I mean?

As someone else said it could be that he is afraid you will misunderstand a compliment  (worried that you will think he didn't find you pretty before).

I've heard about men who can't go near their wife after seeing her give birth and then be stitched up (down there).....maybe he's got a little of that going on.

MEN, complicated beings.

I would pour 2 glasses of wine, some fruit and cheese... and talk with him....You don't want it building up to the point you explode.

Good Luck!!

Don't feel bad.  Some men are just wired differently!  My ex of 22 years was like that.  I would get my hair colored and cut and he never said a word.  I would finally ask him, "don't you like my  hair?"  And he'd say, "Oh yeah, I think it is very pretty."  BUT he would have never said a word without me asking him.  Then I dated a man who was very attentive and noticed every change.  He would tell me as soon as he noticed a good change that he loved it and I was always so grateful.  Some men just don't see the importance of sharing their feelings with their wives or girlfriends.  I think it might just be the way he is - esp. since he is lacking the sensitive chip.

Enjoy your new body.  Dress pretty and feel sexy!  Eventually when things can get heated, maybe he'll say something sweet to you.

A wife can always dream... right?

It could be that your husband has a problem.  My husband went from being super stud to zero because his body was no longer producing testosterone.  No testosterone=no desire.  Other medical issues and mental issues can cause the same types of problems. 

My husband was angry every time I lost weight, because of his own self-esteem problems.  Whenever he was angry he would withhold all intimacy.

Abusive people deliberately try to lower other people's self-esteem as part of controlling them.  When everybody but one individual thinks you look great, try not to let that one individual's actions or lack therof destroy your self esteem.

My heart goes out to you.  I know it is very hurtful.  I haven't had plastics. But in 1992 I weighed 389 pounds.  I have had 2 weigh loss surgeries and still weigh 230 pounds.  When I weighed almost 400 pounds, he was constantly all over me.  Now, no kisses, hugs, nothing.  For the last 5 years he has lived 250 miles away from me, but he won't divorce me!  When we go to church or are around his friends he acts like mister perfect husband.  I just have to keep telling myself his problems are not my problems!  Look up narssistic personality trait disorder--that's my husband's diagnosis.