Horrible Consult

I'm so sorry that this happened.  I felt the same way when I went for my first consultation.  I felt like I would NEVER be able to get surgery.  and I feel like I have not at all completed this journey.  i know I am healthier, but I still feel really obese because of how I look with all of this flab and skin.  So as crazy as it sounds, I did start looking into Dr S and listened and watched others experiences.  I am hoping to have surgery in late spring.  Not sure I'll be able to pull it off because of finances,  but I could get a TT and a BL/BA for around $10000 or less - I can't remember for sure the prices.  That is very doable!!   it''s worth at least sending him your pics to see what he can do for you.  I did look into a residency program but I didn't feel comfortable with it - it was just a gut feeling I had.  .  At the very least you should consult with a few other plastic surgeon's in your area.  Good luck

Jessica, Jessica, Jessica...you are beautiful, girly!!  Consider getting other consults, residency programs, Mexico, or doing it in stages.  I just got my arms done cause that's all I can afford right now.  I figure I'll just wear longer shorts this summer.  Next summer I plan on getting more work done.

Laura

I wish I could give you a massive hug.  If it helps you dont look anything near a circus freak in your pics. You are stunning!!!! And you've done amazingly well. 

Tell this guy to shove it up his ass and go somewhere else (once you know you can get cheaper of course lol!)

xxx

I'm going to take a different tack here.  Rather than suggesting you rush off to the most affordable plastic surgeon you can find and get as much work done as posibe, I think taking a  little time with "where you are" is the thing to do now.

I have worked with patients with the most grevious deformities from accidents, burns, and congentital defects.  I realized after being around WLS patients for 10 years that there is a similiar process involved in accepting the new self after weight loss.  Like everyone else that walks this planet, you will never have physical perfection.  Your trauma in front of the mirror is not uncommon.

Body image disturbance and similiar issues are very common both before and after WLS. Plastic surgery is by no means a cure for this, and can result in even bigger problems with failed expectations if it's not done in the right person at th right time.

I don't mean to be presumptuous, I don't know you, but I know you are not a "circus freak" and perhaps sorting out where some of that feeling comes first  from will pave the way to a happy and healthy "new you."

Plastic surgery should be more than just somebody looking at you (or photos) and saying "what needs to be done" to make you happy.

Thank you for saying this.  I wish more plastic surgeons would consider the phsycological part of this whole process.  I fear that many people have such high expectations of plastic surgery that they are let down when perfection isn't obtained.

I've lost 95 pounds with the lap band and have an extended tummy tuck scheduled for April 12th.  Part of me wants everything now...That instant gratification!!!  I've spent a lot of time and research (and prayer) and I've decided to take things one step at a time.  This summer my stomach will look fabulous (compared to now) and my thighs will look bad.  I'm still me and I'm still happy...and I'll still wear my bathing suit!!  I'll never be perfect, but I'll be better.

Maybe next year I'll get  my thighs done.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience at the plastic surgeon's office.  I know how you feel though.  I am not at goal yet so have not started researching seriously plastic surgery, but I have been feeling like you are feeling to some degree, I look at my saggy arms and thighs and just about want to cry because not only can I imagine having the money to get them fixed but I'm a bit nervous about the pain and recouperation as well.  But I still know that I look and feel better than I did when I weighed over 200 pounds so I'm working to accept where I am right now and deal with the rest as it comes along.  I've already decided that if I had to make a choice my number one thing to fix would be my arms, so if I could only have one thing done and had to just live with the rest that is what I would do.  Guess we'll see when the time comes.  I agree with the others about getting second opinions.  Good luck on your journey.

Jessica....who did you go to for your consult? I have a couple set up in the next couple months, 1 with Dr Anain and 1 with Dr Schultz

I so know how you feel!! I went to a PS here in CA becasue I wanted my arms done (bat winds)

After he dropped the gown to the floor (man that office was cold) he suggested a TT as well - he was using a marker to draw on me - as hubby watched - he drew lines around & then he would grab a handfull of flesh on my waist/hip area & say "We'll need to lipo this too".

I was in tears when I left his office!! I broke down when his financial counsleor told me he wanted $ 16,000.00 for the TT & arms & this was his fee ONLY!! The hospital, anesthesi, garments, drugs - would be more.

I FREAKED!! After I quit crying - I started telling everyone who would listen & I was directed to medical tourism. I am going to Costa Rica & have added BA to my procedures. For all 3 of them plus lipo - will be $ 9800.0!!

I am so excited!!

So - check around - get someother opionions!!