My son does not want me to have surgery

Hey everyone! I am new to this board. I am scheduled for Surgery on June 1st. Just 5 more days! I am very excited about it and a little nervous from time to time. When I first told my son that I was thinking about having it done, he cried so hard. I could not figure out what was wrong at first. He finally told me that he is afraid his mommy will change too much. He is afraid that I will not look like his mommy anymore. I have explained to him all the good things that can come from this surgery. Including the fact that I will be so much happier and be more willing to get out and have fun with him. It really has shocked me at how he has reacted. I thought he would be my biggest "cheerleader". He finally said the other day that he would support me. But you can tell he is not crazy about the idea. He is 9 years old. I am 29 years old and it has been basically the two of us most of his life. The hardest thing about all this has been that he is not happy about it and the thought of something happening and him really being upset with me. But in my heart I know that all will be fine and he will see what a positive change this will make. Then he will be glad I made this decision. Have any of you had this same situation with your children?

Christina, Well, how are you? How's your son? My son is also a worrier. I'm sure you'll have positive responses from him after you are healed and feeling better! Can't wait to hear how your surgery went! HUGS Kimberly

Hi Kimberly! Everything went great! I could hardly believe it myself. My surgery was 9 1/2 days ago and I am feeling pretty good. I think I would feel completely normal again if my incision was completly healed. As of today I have lost 21 pounds so far. I am never hungry at all. I eat what I am supposed to just because I know I have to. Sometimes I wish I could drink a little more at a time...but that will come with time. My son has amazed me since the day of the surgery. I called him on the way to the hospital. My friend called him once I was out and everything was fine. I tried to call him as soon as I woke up, but he was in church. When he tried to call me back at 8:45pm, I was already out walking the halls! That scared him when I did not answer. He left me the saddest message I had ever heard. But I quickly called him back to put him at ease. I still have not seen him since the surgery because he is at his dad's. But he comes home tonight! I can not wait to hug his neck. He ended up making all the difference for me. He has called me every chance he could since the surgery. Sometimes even three times a day. You can tell in his voice he is now as excited as I am about losing weight. I think he can tell how happy it will make me...and that makes him happy. I had people telling me at the hospital that I looked like I had not even had surgery. I think the key to that was WALKING! Walk as soon as you can at the hospital and as often as you can. Don't do just what they require. The only part that was a little hard to me was the incision. It is uncomfortable getting in and out of bed. But that soon gets easier and easier. I saw your picture. You are very pretty! Good luck and stay in touch if you can. -Christina

Christina - I know you are having a blast with your son home! I'm so relieved to hear that he feels better about the surgery. I will take your advice and walk walk walk! That's what everyone seems to keep telling me. I'm so excited for you on the weight loss already! That's so cool! HUGS! Kimberly