NOW WHAT DO I DO???

I have an extremely intelligent 4 1/2 yr old daughter. She and I are always honest with eachother. I told her that i was going to go to the hospital to have an operation and that she shouldnt worry because her favorite babysitter would be with her. (My most trustworthy friend) And her dad would be there too. My problem now is that she is so scared. She is always telling me that i dont need the surgery because she thinks im beautiful and she loves me the way i am. She begged me not to do it. I told her all of the things that i would be able to do with her when i lose the weight, but she doesnt want to hear it. I think i may have made a mistake telling her the truth this time. I didnt want her to wonder where i was for 2-3 days. I am a stay at home mom and she would probably freak out. Should I ask my surgeon to reassure her? He is a wonderful man, Im sure he would. Any suggestions???? I know...I should have never told her. I put way too much pressure on her. Now i have guilt. HELP!!!!

Pamula, i too have 2 small children. my oldest wasnt quite 3 when i had my surgery. i too told her i was going to the hospital to help me lose weight..she didnt understand that..so i said mommys going to get skinny so she can run and play with you in the playground for a really long time. i switched to lapband 5 days before the surgery..either way it was a 3 day admission. when i got home the 18month just really missed me and my 3yo saiys"mommy you didnt get skinny yet" i had to laugh. All the Best! Tracey

Two of my children are young as well. I have not told them and I dont plan to say much at all. I will tell them I am going to the doctor to have a "boo-boo" on the inside repaired. And when Mommy comes home, she will kiss you and still love you, but please dont jump on me. That is it. Your child is still a baby...She does not understand. She will not understand, even if the doctor talks to her. She does not know this person as she knows you. It is my belief if she cannot believe you she probably will not believe the doctor either. It may even frighten her more. She is scared as she should be. At that age, the world begins and end with her parents. You are perfect and a doctor does not need to do anyting for you, in her eyes. I suggest you just try to reassure her you will be fine. And then, reassure yourself! Let the guilt go. You will lose weight and it will still eat at you. Nia

Nia, I did have a hernia repair at the time of the lapband surgery. so me having a sore stomach area at the same time was somthing they did understand.unfortunalty the hernia that was repaired with mesh had come back by 7 months, and now i have to wait till i reach my goal to have it repaired with a tummy tuck. All the Best! Tracey