Here we go again
One thing I do know from your posts and the way others speak of you is that you are a GOOD mother - don't ever question that - if you weren't you wouldn't give a damn where she was or who she was with.
Hugs, Kathy
ps: while turning to sticky buns isn't the greatest option in the world, it beats the heck out of drugs or alcohol!!
on 1/19/12 10:10 pm
The other thing that works on dog training and kid raising is NILF. Nothing in life is free. You start with no privileges and earn them a little at a time. You want a movie then you need to do this.... could be a perfect week at school or on time everyday.
Structure and consistency are key plus you have to set it up so they don't feel like anything they do is a waste of time or they will give up.
Question, why KidsPeace?
"If I only had three words of advice, they would be, Tell the Truth. If got three more words, I'd add, all the time."
— Randy Pausch
We started there after we had a rather physical altercation followed by a trip to the Muhlenberg psych ER.
Is there somewhere else you are thinking of, Roger?
You're doing a wonderful job, all the right moves and I agree with what has been said. Hope your talk went well. . . more importantly, I hope the help you ultimately get, helps Siehara to get to a more even keel for herself. . .
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
on 1/20/12 8:36 am
"If I only had three words of advice, they would be, Tell the Truth. If got three more words, I'd add, all the time."
— Randy Pausch
Lisa, I am sorry you are going through these rough times with Siehara. I am scared for her myself deep down because when you spend time with her you would never know she has these troubles.
You ahve been very proactive in working with her. You make a point of spending time with her when you are not at work. I think she is just going through a very rough emotional time and with you being away from all of us we can not offer the physical support only the emotional support in words. I am with Steffi have you thought about moving closer to all of us so you can get the help in person.
As I was readung I ws thinking I guess we're locking up the laptops and desk top in a few weeks and we will do anything you need when she is here with us. Which you know we will do for you if you ask.
I get so scared for her not being a parent I take on the worries of my friends in the kid department,. I think all the things she may do thinking it will be acceptence and not the right thing. THen find herself in a place she really doesn't want to be.
Love you and Den and I are here for you