Don't know what to do!
just some random thoughts
pretty is as pretty does. wow that would make you Gorgeous. You can't fit such a big personality in a little package there you would have to be huge
name it and claim it, just keep telling yourself you all good. Look up" pretty girl rock "on youtube then keep singing it to yourself. soon you'll believe it
then also on youtube look up Bruno mars "just the way you are" i am sure that's how you husband thinks.
pretty is as pretty does. wow that would make you Gorgeous. You can't fit such a big personality in a little package there you would have to be huge
name it and claim it, just keep telling yourself you all good. Look up" pretty girl rock "on youtube then keep singing it to yourself. soon you'll believe it
then also on youtube look up Bruno mars "just the way you are" i am sure that's how you husband thinks.
God you are sooooo good for my ego! :) Thank you thank you thank you! As for my big personality - sometimes the opposite is true too...........I can be just as hard on myself with this personaility! :) Not always a blessing. I will look up those things at home, can't here at work, but thank you for the reminder!
Here's my 2 cents.
I gained 12 pounds post TT. Not sure exactly why. Am I perfect with my foods? Nope. But I surely don't eat crap and the gain is a little puzzling.
While we are should be proud of our successes, it's also not an excuse to get lax and avoid future successes. When I voice my complaints about my gain or food issues, I always hear, "But you are doing good, you've come so far, be happy with what you've done". Sure, I am, but that doesn't mean I want to ignore the signs of the scale and clothes not fitting. To me, those things mean I am on a slow ride back to where I started. And I refuse to let that happen.
I didn't struggle, fight and work for 6 years just to slowly creep right back. Advice? Same as it has been since our first "diet" we ever went on. Burn more calories than you take in. It's such an easy statement to make and one of the hardest to actually follow through with.
Second piece of advice, STEP AWAY FROM THE POPCORN! LOL.
Running from carbs is the number ONE hardest thing for me. But it's also the one thing that holds me back.
I hope you are feeling better today. I hope your talk with Larry went well. And really, CALL me! I'd love to hear your voice and I'd love to be able to talk real about this stuff with you. Sometimes all it takes is hearing what you already know to get your ass moving.
Love you!
I gained 12 pounds post TT. Not sure exactly why. Am I perfect with my foods? Nope. But I surely don't eat crap and the gain is a little puzzling.
While we are should be proud of our successes, it's also not an excuse to get lax and avoid future successes. When I voice my complaints about my gain or food issues, I always hear, "But you are doing good, you've come so far, be happy with what you've done". Sure, I am, but that doesn't mean I want to ignore the signs of the scale and clothes not fitting. To me, those things mean I am on a slow ride back to where I started. And I refuse to let that happen.
I didn't struggle, fight and work for 6 years just to slowly creep right back. Advice? Same as it has been since our first "diet" we ever went on. Burn more calories than you take in. It's such an easy statement to make and one of the hardest to actually follow through with.
Second piece of advice, STEP AWAY FROM THE POPCORN! LOL.
Running from carbs is the number ONE hardest thing for me. But it's also the one thing that holds me back.
I hope you are feeling better today. I hope your talk with Larry went well. And really, CALL me! I'd love to hear your voice and I'd love to be able to talk real about this stuff with you. Sometimes all it takes is hearing what you already know to get your ass moving.
Love you!
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!
"But you are doing good, you've come so far, be happy with what you've done". I do say that to myself when I am beating myself up for something.....And I am trying NOT to ignore the tight pants clue that maybe I am slipping. I am rather proud of myself that I am catching this now and dealing with it the best way I can. (And I don't just mean by *****ing about it!) For breakfast this morning, while I am in DC, I only ate 1/2 a bagel. I have my protein bars with me, because I needed some protein this morning and knew that I am not able to get all my protein with a bar - too sweet....
And, I thikn I am going to ignore your popcorn statement - hee hee hee! :) And yes - I do know that I need to do that - I need to cut back, ot eat it every night, I need to go back to having a sugar free pudding at night. And, my talk with Larry was awesome. He is just what I need to rebuild my ego while balancing his concerns with my old bad habits creeping back in. Of course, I also need to be in a place to hear it and I was during our conversation!
Thanks for loving me enough to be honest and ass kicking! :) I love you that much too! :)
And, I thikn I am going to ignore your popcorn statement - hee hee hee! :) And yes - I do know that I need to do that - I need to cut back, ot eat it every night, I need to go back to having a sugar free pudding at night. And, my talk with Larry was awesome. He is just what I need to rebuild my ego while balancing his concerns with my old bad habits creeping back in. Of course, I also need to be in a place to hear it and I was during our conversation!
Thanks for loving me enough to be honest and ass kicking! :) I love you that much too! :)
Dear Steffi, you and I have become pretty good friends and as you know I am usually flirty and funny and all things nice. However, my reply today is going to be a little more real. Here goes.
Lets take a look at where you have come from first. You decided to have bypass surgery to help you lose weight. It was scary but you did it and you followed the rules and were able to lose weight and feel better about yourself. After losing the weight you decided that you wanted to have plastic surgery. It was scary but you did it and you were able to reshape your body and feel better about yourself. These were two very important decisions you made to feel better about yourself and to become a healthier person. You have an incredible amount of time and energy invested in yourself. You know it and everyone you know knows it. I know you want to succeed but I also know there is a lot of pressure for you to succeed as well.
Ok, lets fast forward to the past couple of months. Have things been busy and hectic? YES! Have you made bad food and exercise decisions? YES! Can you do something about it? YES! Have you been down this path before? HELL YES! What im trying to say is that this is nothing new for you. This is not your first rodeo. You are not lost but I do think you are having some distortions that you are choosing to follow rather than being more real with yourself and making the tough decisions. It really comes down to managing yourself better. You are choosing to do the wrong things and then are finding a way to justify it. Bad food choices and bad exercise choices. You could decide to eat well and exercise more. Its become a priority thing. Food and exercise are not a priority for you.....right now. But they can be. You have to choose to make them priorities. None of us got fat because we had too much sex or were too busy. We got fat because we made poor choices, over and over again. The difference between us now and then is that we now have learned how to be successful and make the right decisions and we have to tools to be successful. So what has to change?????? OUR CHOICES! Rely on what you know! Rely on your past success! Rely on your experiences! Rely on your family! Rely on your friends! Rely on yourself! You have it all already.
Your not lost, you are unfocused. You can do it!
Swede
Lets take a look at where you have come from first. You decided to have bypass surgery to help you lose weight. It was scary but you did it and you followed the rules and were able to lose weight and feel better about yourself. After losing the weight you decided that you wanted to have plastic surgery. It was scary but you did it and you were able to reshape your body and feel better about yourself. These were two very important decisions you made to feel better about yourself and to become a healthier person. You have an incredible amount of time and energy invested in yourself. You know it and everyone you know knows it. I know you want to succeed but I also know there is a lot of pressure for you to succeed as well.
Ok, lets fast forward to the past couple of months. Have things been busy and hectic? YES! Have you made bad food and exercise decisions? YES! Can you do something about it? YES! Have you been down this path before? HELL YES! What im trying to say is that this is nothing new for you. This is not your first rodeo. You are not lost but I do think you are having some distortions that you are choosing to follow rather than being more real with yourself and making the tough decisions. It really comes down to managing yourself better. You are choosing to do the wrong things and then are finding a way to justify it. Bad food choices and bad exercise choices. You could decide to eat well and exercise more. Its become a priority thing. Food and exercise are not a priority for you.....right now. But they can be. You have to choose to make them priorities. None of us got fat because we had too much sex or were too busy. We got fat because we made poor choices, over and over again. The difference between us now and then is that we now have learned how to be successful and make the right decisions and we have to tools to be successful. So what has to change?????? OUR CHOICES! Rely on what you know! Rely on your past success! Rely on your experiences! Rely on your family! Rely on your friends! Rely on yourself! You have it all already.
Your not lost, you are unfocused. You can do it!
Swede
HW=400 SW=383 CW=252 GW=240
Pounds to go=12!!! Pounds Lost =148
Really?!?!?! You are USUALLY funny and all things nice?!?! wow!!!! News to me!!!! (HAHAHAHAHAH) 
No, really though, I soooo totally appreciate the words and the "real" stuff. We have had so many conversations over the last year, on here, by text, on facebook and even by voice - go figure! As much as I hate to do this on a public forum, oy.....I HAVE to agree with you....(I think I just choked a little!) You are right, I have done this before, I have made some bad decisions, I, of course, like to call them, "inappropriate" in lieu of bad...but whatever,
I am quite gifted in justifying what I do. Not something that I am so proud of, but it is what it is - and in all my prior experiences, I didn't have you and everyone else to REALLY understand what that means and make me accountable. I was only accountable to myself, and we see where THAT got me.
I now have a VERY good friend who is struggling and was advised that it is possible he may need to look into bariatric surgery. It is freaking him out and is allowing me to relive that part of my life. It is yet another wake up call for me. I can watch "me" again and remember the pain, the challenges and all the difficulties that I went through to get to this point. While I am completely concerned for his well-being, it is also a way for me to look forward to what I have to get done. This time I am the one who is the expert - very strange......
I will continue to rely on what I have done, past success and experiences. I will also be sure to rely on you as I have done in the past. You hit the nail on the head with the unfocused comment. You know where my head has been lately and while I am enjoying that - it needs to NOT be in place of what is the healthy way of living I need to be doing. Thank you for your honesty, your friendship and your love. THIS is the most important part of this journey for me - the way we are intertwined with each other. I will continue to be honest and real and will expect that in return.
No, really though, I soooo totally appreciate the words and the "real" stuff. We have had so many conversations over the last year, on here, by text, on facebook and even by voice - go figure! As much as I hate to do this on a public forum, oy.....I HAVE to agree with you....(I think I just choked a little!) You are right, I have done this before, I have made some bad decisions, I, of course, like to call them, "inappropriate" in lieu of bad...but whatever,
I am quite gifted in justifying what I do. Not something that I am so proud of, but it is what it is - and in all my prior experiences, I didn't have you and everyone else to REALLY understand what that means and make me accountable. I was only accountable to myself, and we see where THAT got me. I now have a VERY good friend who is struggling and was advised that it is possible he may need to look into bariatric surgery. It is freaking him out and is allowing me to relive that part of my life. It is yet another wake up call for me. I can watch "me" again and remember the pain, the challenges and all the difficulties that I went through to get to this point. While I am completely concerned for his well-being, it is also a way for me to look forward to what I have to get done. This time I am the one who is the expert - very strange......
I will continue to rely on what I have done, past success and experiences. I will also be sure to rely on you as I have done in the past. You hit the nail on the head with the unfocused comment. You know where my head has been lately and while I am enjoying that - it needs to NOT be in place of what is the healthy way of living I need to be doing. Thank you for your honesty, your friendship and your love. THIS is the most important part of this journey for me - the way we are intertwined with each other. I will continue to be honest and real and will expect that in return.
Steffi;
Wanted to send you a hug. Your are a beautiful woman!!!!!!! I know "we" never see in "our" mirror's what others see about and in us. You are a great inspiration and support to those of us that are following in your footsteps, never forget that. If only we could buy the same mirror that would show what the rest of the world sees when looking at us - imagine......
Hugs,
Ida
Wanted to send you a hug. Your are a beautiful woman!!!!!!! I know "we" never see in "our" mirror's what others see about and in us. You are a great inspiration and support to those of us that are following in your footsteps, never forget that. If only we could buy the same mirror that would show what the rest of the world sees when looking at us - imagine......
Hugs,
Ida
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