Confessions of the Post op *****

right now you just think you are a bit* h. take the test and find out for sure. there really is a bit** test.    just google bit*h  test or go to www.*****test.com this is free and fun 

sorry i thought it would let the word stay because it was a link.

Hi Maura,
Being a psychotherapy lifer, I would not be as stable as I am without my therapist and psychiatrist.  I am not saying you are crazy at all.  I am just suggesting that you talk to someone about the anger that is surfacing and find its root, and work through it.  My experience with my food/alcohol addiction was that the anger I expressed inappropriately was really just deeper stuff coming to the surface, that I numbed with food, alcohol and other stuff.

I hope you get a handle on it soon, for your peace of mind.

Hugs,
Trish

I agree with the others.  And you should be ok being kinda *****y with your friends because.. hey we are your friends and will understand and forgive.

You must vent at time so that it does not fester.  and .. yah for you for standing up for what you think is right. 

(I blame the other people)

"I think that THIS is the hardest thing I've ever done, the one thing I NEVER thought I could do and if I could do IT don't you think you can fill the damn ice cube trays?????"  just sayin.....

P.S. - This thing never ends girlfriend so don't expect to get back to how you were...your body will follow that mindset and you don't want that trigger.  Instead, think back to when you "dated" your hubby.   Be impressive with him; he deserves the best YOU you can give him; afterall, he's a saint ;-)   You can get another job and lots of new friends, not so easy to replace a good man that loves you.

Thanks for all of the insights everyone and I realized that I forgot to say what I meant by DIB - Defensive, Impatient & *****y....  that was my original post, but I opted for post op *****

I also wonder maybe it is just so new I am just not good enough at it yet to have refined my "fu" with smile....

I was on the phone with someone today at work that, IMHO was being rude and I told him so.. the bad news - he is an employee and a senior director.. but he was rude.. I worry about being too flip.. but the part that really gets me is when I am impatient or snotty to Mark..

We were working on a project last night and I picked and picked and picked at everything he did.. why are you doing it that way, aren't you done yet, no, no, no, sigh, stomp, sigh, give me that - I'll do it myself, - what is he a child?  NO!- how demeaning of me.  My husband is a saint - he is supportive, not critical, loving, always happy, my biggest supporter and fan - I always say he tempers me.. I don't get why I do this to him.  I love him more than anything in this world.  I have tears in my eyes just typing this....  I almost wish he would get mad at me so at least I would feel like I got the smack (followed by hug of course) that I deserve.

thanks for listening everyone..

p.s. Norm - I do wish I could click like on your comment

 

Maura,
I think you are a beautiful person and your post says it all. You recognize that you are being impatient with Mark and you want to nip it in the bud before it becomes a problem. You are really really lucky to have him in your life. Be kind to him and yourself.

Hugs

Thanks Shilpa! xoxo

Maura,

You're pretty normal and I think hormones might be causing some of it, the fat releases stored up ones and then you still have the monthly flux, which thankfully is something I don't since I am 55 (lol), something good to be said about aging (lol). . .  just try this old one on for size. . .

Treat others the way you want to be treated and before the words fall out of your mouth ask yourself whether you would like someone to talk to you the way you are thinking of saying what you are thinking. . .

Hugs, Laureen

So many of the feelings we ate to cover up or soothe come back with a vengence.
Feelings of a need for control and protection can turn to nastiness where are before the armour was fat. The fact that you are aware of it is important because then you can change it. Talk to him apologize and see if you can work on some kind of " Safe word " he can say when he sees you go into SUPER ***** mode, that will get your attention so you can have a time out.

Therapy may be in order to help you sort through the feelings that are arising

Maura,

 Reading that you were near tears made me cry. I so understand that feeling of wanteing Mark to snap back to as I think put you back in line. Dennis will also toletrate my moods and attitude. He says I roll my eyes like a pro. Yet he never gives it back to me.

I love that Mark loves you that way....Unconditionally! 

Love to you my fellow Biotch!