Reflection - Neither Inferior or Superior
--Italian proverb
Much of our time has been spent saying, "I'm not good enough for that job," "She's too good for me," or "I don't deserve that compliment." Sometimes we have been very status conscious because underneath we felt unworthy. Many of us have taken either superior or inferior roles with everyone we've dealt with. We ended up with no one who could be our peer or our friend.
True humility occurs when we stop shaming or inflating ourselves and begin accepting ourselves as no worse and no better than anyone else. Then all people are our peers. At our meetings, our powerlessness puts us all in the same box. In the sight of God we are all equal - and status games, which have seemed so important are ultimately silly.
Today, I will remember we are all brothers and sisters in the sight of God.
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
I'm so glad that you posted this.
I have never let my weight stop me from trying to do anything, but others have tried to make my weight an issue. I know that others think I'm not unworthy, but I know I rock!
But because of other's worldview they look at someone who is fat and think lazy (gee thanks), but I know that I am one of the hardest working people at my company. Yesterday I got my first praise about my work that I do here and what is sad is the new CFO hasn't only been here a few months and she saw it, where as the others that I have been with have not.
But an area that I am working on is when someone tells me that I look nice, or that is a cute top etc. I know because of my toxic coworkers I know a lot of times they are just saying that to make fun of me later, but you know I don't care anymore they can suck it and I am going to take that compliment. God sees me for who I really am, I am special, I rock, and He loves me for me. And really His oppinion is the only one that really matters in the end.
I relate to the toxic work environment, but have recently found out that there are a select few here I can trust. Work I must, but succumb to the childlike environment because of mainly one bad apple, I think not. . . I was actually complimented yesterday, when the managing partner took me aside to discuss the changes happening here, changes I am not thrilled with, but am accepting as the Universe telling me I need to do something to get where I want to be, anyway, he said, he really admires my ability to stay away from the cattiness of this place, you never know who is watching, I really did not realize that he was aware of my desire to stay out of the fray. . . In that regard, I've always tried to see something good in people, but sometimes, you have to scrape the bottom to find something (lol). . . anyway, your last sentence kind of says it all. . .
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
