Stress with Siehara
Our Sierras must have been cut from the same mold! Mine does not like activity either...looks like me...acts like me...eats like I did. Weight issues like I did. dropped out of dance last year because she couldn't dance with her friends. gave up on all things active. on and on and on. This year I insisted she do SOMETHING or she was spending her whole 10th grade year at home. Inactivity was the devils work for her last year and I could have sold her to the gypsies! Actually, I'd have given her to them. This year she's a cheerleader and thank gawd it's a year round activity! WHEW!!!
There is a local lady that is very into the Feingold diet for her son. He's a lot younger. We luckily recognized Sierra's issues from about 2 years old with dies. She doesn't avoid them now...but, she does understand that if she's going to drink a red slushie be prepared for the wrath that is mom when she goes too far. If she can't control it or hide in her room, she better not eat it.
The other nice thing I've found with Feingold is that the candies and junk they're used to actually come in a safe form and they'll tell you where. I don't know if that's the local lady or Feingold. I'll send you any info I get thru facebook.
One thing I do remember is that candy at Aldi's grocery store is made using natural dies. Not all of it. (do you have one of those over there?) They have candy from Germany, I think the brand is Route 1, all their candy is safe and actually delicious! I did the chew and spew...see my next new topic post regarding this. HA!!!!
kutzro...I'm going to look into the book you recommended. I can't have enough information about this. Thanks!
There is a local lady that is very into the Feingold diet for her son. He's a lot younger. We luckily recognized Sierra's issues from about 2 years old with dies. She doesn't avoid them now...but, she does understand that if she's going to drink a red slushie be prepared for the wrath that is mom when she goes too far. If she can't control it or hide in her room, she better not eat it.
The other nice thing I've found with Feingold is that the candies and junk they're used to actually come in a safe form and they'll tell you where. I don't know if that's the local lady or Feingold. I'll send you any info I get thru facebook.
One thing I do remember is that candy at Aldi's grocery store is made using natural dies. Not all of it. (do you have one of those over there?) They have candy from Germany, I think the brand is Route 1, all their candy is safe and actually delicious! I did the chew and spew...see my next new topic post regarding this. HA!!!!
kutzro...I'm going to look into the book you recommended. I can't have enough information about this. Thanks!
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R K.
on 10/14/10 12:56 am
on 10/14/10 12:56 am
It's tough being consistent. Knowing the consequences ahead of time gives her the choice to decide her own fate. Earning new privileges is also important because it gives her short term goals to strive to attain.Don't set the bar too high or she'll just figure WTF I'll never do it.
My middle son has ADHD and is sort of obsessive compulsive. He wasn't diagnose till college. He learned great coping skills, refused meds and any types of consideration from ESU. Never could he have been on the Dean's list but he did his best and got his BS and is very successful.
Firm but patient.
My middle son has ADHD and is sort of obsessive compulsive. He wasn't diagnose till college. He learned great coping skills, refused meds and any types of consideration from ESU. Never could he have been on the Dean's list but he did his best and got his BS and is very successful.
Firm but patient.
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"If I only had three words of advice, they would be, Tell the Truth. If got three more words, I'd add, all the time."
— Randy Pausch
Hi Lisa,
When I was teaching middle school, I had quite a number of students who were on different meds for different diagnoses. It is more common that a lot of people realize. Of course, I understand her stigma feelings also.
It sounds as if she may be making progress in the fact that she turned around and apologized on her own this morning. Making mistakes in old behaviors will happen to all of us. Acknowledging them and changing our attitudes is progress.
Hang in there Mom. You will be fine.
Hugs,
Trish
When I was teaching middle school, I had quite a number of students who were on different meds for different diagnoses. It is more common that a lot of people realize. Of course, I understand her stigma feelings also.
It sounds as if she may be making progress in the fact that she turned around and apologized on her own this morning. Making mistakes in old behaviors will happen to all of us. Acknowledging them and changing our attitudes is progress.
Hang in there Mom. You will be fine.
Hugs,
Trish
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thanks for the confirmation that there are many others out there. I told her that just because she doesn't see anyone taking meds, doesn't mean they aren't taking them.
Her psych also told her that she is much better than a lot of the kids who come in their door. She is NOT on tranquilizers as some of them are. She has a MOTHER who loves her and takes her for help. He told her that a lot of his patients live with their grandparents or other people because their parents don't care enough about them to do right by them.
He also reminded her that it doesn't matter what anyone else is doing, that she should only be concerned with herself and her own behavior.
Things are definitely much better than they were a year ago. I'm looking forward to more progress!
Her psych also told her that she is much better than a lot of the kids who come in their door. She is NOT on tranquilizers as some of them are. She has a MOTHER who loves her and takes her for help. He told her that a lot of his patients live with their grandparents or other people because their parents don't care enough about them to do right by them.
He also reminded her that it doesn't matter what anyone else is doing, that she should only be concerned with herself and her own behavior.
Things are definitely much better than they were a year ago. I'm looking forward to more progress!
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Lisa,
Just a quick note, my son's pediatrician recommended I give my 6 yr old melatonin an hour before bed because he was having issues with sleeping and as a result causing him to misbehave in school. I have to tell you that stuff is WONDERFUL. He takes it before bed and within 30 mins, he's relaxed and ready to fall asleep. I've noticed such a significant change in his attitude and behavior. Our next step would've been a child psychologist because the Dr. thought maybe he was exhibiting symptoms of oppositional defiant disorder.
I'm so not looking forward to the teenage years.......my thoughts are with you! :)
Holly
Just a quick note, my son's pediatrician recommended I give my 6 yr old melatonin an hour before bed because he was having issues with sleeping and as a result causing him to misbehave in school. I have to tell you that stuff is WONDERFUL. He takes it before bed and within 30 mins, he's relaxed and ready to fall asleep. I've noticed such a significant change in his attitude and behavior. Our next step would've been a child psychologist because the Dr. thought maybe he was exhibiting symptoms of oppositional defiant disorder.
I'm so not looking forward to the teenage years.......my thoughts are with you! :)
Holly
Lisa, I would also suggest that you talk to her in a calm moment about using the words "I hate you" when she speaks to you, even in anger.
The truth is, she could apologize 100 times, but needs to understand that between you guys....that's just not okay. Even impulsively, or even in anger, the words hurt you. And she needs to work on being respectful of that. Besides, it will be one less thing she has to apologize for!
Maya Angelou advises us all to be careful of the words we say, because once said, they are out in the universe and cannot be taken back....even if we meant them in fun, or without real harmful intent.
Just my 2 cents worth.
The truth is, she could apologize 100 times, but needs to understand that between you guys....that's just not okay. Even impulsively, or even in anger, the words hurt you. And she needs to work on being respectful of that. Besides, it will be one less thing she has to apologize for!
Maya Angelou advises us all to be careful of the words we say, because once said, they are out in the universe and cannot be taken back....even if we meant them in fun, or without real harmful intent.
Just my 2 cents worth.
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