scared to go back
Susan,
In you, I see a shining example of discipline and determination. Thank you for being honest that it doesn't come easy, I need to continue to hear that so that I don't let my guard down. We need you as much as you need us. These boards and the support groups are a perfect symbiotic relationship, we all get benefit.
Thank you again and continue your resolve - the results of others are not an indicator for what will happen to you.
Maura
In you, I see a shining example of discipline and determination. Thank you for being honest that it doesn't come easy, I need to continue to hear that so that I don't let my guard down. We need you as much as you need us. These boards and the support groups are a perfect symbiotic relationship, we all get benefit.
Thank you again and continue your resolve - the results of others are not an indicator for what will happen to you.
Maura
Maura
PLEASE if you have put on some weight dont be embarressed to come back, now is the time you need support.
I needed to hear this. Fear and embarrassment has kept me away from Barix support groups. Well, that and the fact that I developed alcoholism after GBS and have been battling that disease first. But I did promise myself that once I had 90 consecutive days sober (I now have 105) that I would once again concentrate on my food intake.
The word "relapse" has new meaning for me these days, but I can see how it relates to old food habits. I don't eat much sugar, but I do eat it. I have a problem with carbs and portions once again. I have re-gained some weight -- to be perfectly honest I don't even want to weight myself to find out how much.
I keep telling myself I'll start again tomorrow, or Monday -- all those old diet habits coming back to my brain. I honestly have trouble putting one foot in front of the other when it comes to food and exercise. I try to be self-accepting above all else, but I think I might really just be in denial and self-abusing with food.
I've tried making a daily pledge to follow my food plan, but so far have failed daily and it just frustrates me. Again, the old diet mentality -- I failed; I'll keep failing; I'm a failure; what's the point? I know my tool works. I just keep using it the wrong way or not using it at all.
AA has been a wonderful way for me to get and stay sober. Perhaps adding Barix support to my schedule will help me jump start my way to healthy eating again. I don't know, but I felt compelled to respond to your post.
I needed to hear this. Fear and embarrassment has kept me away from Barix support groups. Well, that and the fact that I developed alcoholism after GBS and have been battling that disease first. But I did promise myself that once I had 90 consecutive days sober (I now have 105) that I would once again concentrate on my food intake.
The word "relapse" has new meaning for me these days, but I can see how it relates to old food habits. I don't eat much sugar, but I do eat it. I have a problem with carbs and portions once again. I have re-gained some weight -- to be perfectly honest I don't even want to weight myself to find out how much.
I keep telling myself I'll start again tomorrow, or Monday -- all those old diet habits coming back to my brain. I honestly have trouble putting one foot in front of the other when it comes to food and exercise. I try to be self-accepting above all else, but I think I might really just be in denial and self-abusing with food.
I've tried making a daily pledge to follow my food plan, but so far have failed daily and it just frustrates me. Again, the old diet mentality -- I failed; I'll keep failing; I'm a failure; what's the point? I know my tool works. I just keep using it the wrong way or not using it at all.
AA has been a wonderful way for me to get and stay sober. Perhaps adding Barix support to my schedule will help me jump start my way to healthy eating again. I don't know, but I felt compelled to respond to your post.
Blessings, Jill
WLS 5/31/07. Maintaining a weight loss of 141 pounds and feeling amazing!
Hi Jil
by replying to the post is the first step in realizing there is a problem.
you should come back to the meetings there r a lo of new people and if u feel funny none of them kno u so they wont know u gained weight unless u tell them and we r all not here to j udge you.
CONGRATS on being 105 days sober keep on successing Good Luck hope to see u at a meeting
Susan
by replying to the post is the first step in realizing there is a problem.
you should come back to the meetings there r a lo of new people and if u feel funny none of them kno u so they wont know u gained weight unless u tell them and we r all not here to j udge you.
CONGRATS on being 105 days sober keep on successing Good Luck hope to see u at a meeting
Susan
Susan......I adore you and this post.
This topic hits hard with me. As 4 people I know in my personal life have had the surgery, just to abuse the "loop holes" and gain it all back.
I agree that acceptance of change is important.
I agree that support groups are important.
I agree that compliance of food intake is important.
However, I will admit to breaking ALL of these rules and still maintaining my weight loss after 6 years.
Why? Because no matter what bridge I come to, or demons I come across, I KNOW...........I never want to be fat again!
Sometimes I fell bad for thinking that way. But ya know what? MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER! I know that. So even though I have NEVER attended a single support group in my life, and I know, I make a few bad choices..................But over all............I also KNOW that this new life is better than the old one. And when I make mistakes, I am honest about it, I own it and I move on to a healthier and happier mind set.
Bottom line.............the surgery is more about a person's mindset to change than anything else. It's the hardest battle of the enitre process. But it's the most important.
I hate to say it, but frankly, more people are given the surgery than deserve it. I have seen first hand the abuse of the tool and it sickens me. And those same poeple have the nerve to cry about why they have failed.
REALLY? Was it the constant ice cream and candy you tempted yourself with? Was it the cheeseburgers you stretched from 1/4 to an entire one? Was it all the testing and trying you experimented with? Uhhhh, hell yeah!
Susan, you WANT to succeed. You STRIVE for a better and consistant life with your new body and soul. BE SCARED! Be VERY AFRAID! It's the fear in us that keeps us motivated to STAY healthy, happy and fat-free!
Sorry if I repeated anything. I seriously didn't have time to read all the posts, bu****ed to respind to YOU!
You are amazing, you are a success, and you will continue to move forward and LOOK FABULOUS!
This topic hits hard with me. As 4 people I know in my personal life have had the surgery, just to abuse the "loop holes" and gain it all back.
I agree that acceptance of change is important.
I agree that support groups are important.
I agree that compliance of food intake is important.
However, I will admit to breaking ALL of these rules and still maintaining my weight loss after 6 years.
Why? Because no matter what bridge I come to, or demons I come across, I KNOW...........I never want to be fat again!
Sometimes I fell bad for thinking that way. But ya know what? MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER! I know that. So even though I have NEVER attended a single support group in my life, and I know, I make a few bad choices..................But over all............I also KNOW that this new life is better than the old one. And when I make mistakes, I am honest about it, I own it and I move on to a healthier and happier mind set.
Bottom line.............the surgery is more about a person's mindset to change than anything else. It's the hardest battle of the enitre process. But it's the most important.
I hate to say it, but frankly, more people are given the surgery than deserve it. I have seen first hand the abuse of the tool and it sickens me. And those same poeple have the nerve to cry about why they have failed.
REALLY? Was it the constant ice cream and candy you tempted yourself with? Was it the cheeseburgers you stretched from 1/4 to an entire one? Was it all the testing and trying you experimented with? Uhhhh, hell yeah!
Susan, you WANT to succeed. You STRIVE for a better and consistant life with your new body and soul. BE SCARED! Be VERY AFRAID! It's the fear in us that keeps us motivated to STAY healthy, happy and fat-free!
Sorry if I repeated anything. I seriously didn't have time to read all the posts, bu****ed to respind to YOU!
You are amazing, you are a success, and you will continue to move forward and LOOK FABULOUS!
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!
thanks Jo Jo, you know I just now came in from geting an MRI and i have been NPO, while under the machine I was thinkng of what I would get when I got home. Would I stop & get a soft pretzel? well I thought about it and said home is not far I will go home and I made for myself
1 egg ,1 egg white and a piece of cheese and now i m so glad i didnt have the carb monster
Susan
1 egg ,1 egg white and a piece of cheese and now i m so glad i didnt have the carb monster
Susan
I am in that place but I do not drink alcohol my downfall is chocolate chip cookies believe it or not. And I so need to get back to the support groups . I would hate to think that I went thru all of this and not succeed. Is there anyone here who would please PM me with the support group dates please. Susan you are my rock and it takes alot of courage to post this. I needed a reality check and you just gave it to me and I am sure to so many others. I have had to make alot of emotional choices and haven't done so well with them.
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