** Magnificent Monday Roll Call **
apparently, I have had this window open for awhile waiting to post roll call, but silly work got in the way... well that and making sure Siehara's name was on her underwear.. LOL
Today has me working til 3:30
store for some much needed groceries and looking for a skirt thing to put over Siehara's new one piece. She doesn't like the way her legs look..OYE.
I want to get to the gym for spin and was thinking about adapting body pump class. I will not do any shoulder work and will take it easy on upper body stuff
more organizing and packing for camp
quality time with the girl
Today has me working til 3:30
store for some much needed groceries and looking for a skirt thing to put over Siehara's new one piece. She doesn't like the way her legs look..OYE.
I want to get to the gym for spin and was thinking about adapting body pump class. I will not do any shoulder work and will take it easy on upper body stuff
more organizing and packing for camp
quality time with the girl
My tracker
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Good morning, PA!
This morning we were woken up by one of Bethlehem Township's finest, saying they recovered our GPS which was stolen out of our son's car overnight. They caught a couple of kids with the stuff, so he was returning it and advising us to lock our cars at night. Fortunately nothing else was taken and no damage to the car, as it was left unlocked.
Today I plan to do some packing, organizing and a little cooking. I have only about a wee****il I move into the store, and three weeks until surgery. So I have to pack things up to move and I have already started my pre-op Atkins diet. I want to be sure all my little projects around the house are done too, as I will be returning to full time work after being home a year and a half.
Hope everyone has a great day!!
Deb
This morning we were woken up by one of Bethlehem Township's finest, saying they recovered our GPS which was stolen out of our son's car overnight. They caught a couple of kids with the stuff, so he was returning it and advising us to lock our cars at night. Fortunately nothing else was taken and no damage to the car, as it was left unlocked.
Today I plan to do some packing, organizing and a little cooking. I have only about a wee****il I move into the store, and three weeks until surgery. So I have to pack things up to move and I have already started my pre-op Atkins diet. I want to be sure all my little projects around the house are done too, as I will be returning to full time work after being home a year and a half.
Hope everyone has a great day!!
Deb
Morning, everyone!
Ah, Steffi - my sympathies. you have such a difficult life. My heart goes out to you. Haha. I was on my way into Wegmans yesterday and saw an "I heart Camp Harlam" bumper sticker and thought of you.
Pam - glad to hear you're feeling better!
Today's my first day back at work since vacation. So far, I was late getting in (couldn't get organized), forgot my office keys, had to have my monitor replaced as it was misbehaving, and found a rather significant bug in one of my programs. Ah. So much for post-vacation relaxation.
The scale was kind this morning, showing a 2-pound drop from my 5-pound vacation gain. Starting my 5DPT today to try and get back fully on track.
I hope you all have a wonderful day!
Karen
Ah, Steffi - my sympathies. you have such a difficult life. My heart goes out to you. Haha. I was on my way into Wegmans yesterday and saw an "I heart Camp Harlam" bumper sticker and thought of you.
Pam - glad to hear you're feeling better!
Today's my first day back at work since vacation. So far, I was late getting in (couldn't get organized), forgot my office keys, had to have my monitor replaced as it was misbehaving, and found a rather significant bug in one of my programs. Ah. So much for post-vacation relaxation.
The scale was kind this morning, showing a 2-pound drop from my 5-pound vacation gain. Starting my 5DPT today to try and get back fully on track.
I hope you all have a wonderful day!
Karen
Morning all!!
I've been more or less just lurking recently. I'm realizing I haven't been in a good place for a week or so, and I guess just backed off a bit.
Been dealing with family issues, all because of my surgery next week. Mom has been bossy and downright nasty at times. She has the tendency to just take over and treat others like they're incompetent and will do things behind people's backs. (When my dad died, I learned Mom was telling people she was taking me home to Lancaster with her for a few weeks. WTF??? I was supposed to just walk away from my job???) Anyway, I've been dealing with Mom's moods, and she's making it quite clear that she doesn't like Paul and doesn't want him around during surgery. Every time I talk to my brothers, this issue comes up again and gets me angry again. Mom is going to be away this coming weekend, so I've decided to leave her a voice mail that I've cancelled my surgery until I get a job and don't have to worry about spending the money for my deductible. Then I'm going ahead with the surgery as planned. She'll be angry if she finds out, but she's going to be even worse if I just tell her to stay home. And she won't listen to that anyway---she'd still show up. I'm so angry that I have to have all this stress surrounding surgery.
ETA: Ok, I put on my big girl panties and called my mom today. I asked her not to come to the hospital and said that I really just want Paul there. I explained that he understands about my diet and meds and knows what to do. She seemed to understand and said she'll honor my wishes. She had been thinking about 15 years ago, when I had aneurysm surgery and had no one around to help me afterward, so she was just automatically going to step in now. So, hopefully she'll honor my wishes, and I can just relax and get this procedure done.
I discovered this weekend that someone apparently keyed my car. It doesn't look deep, but it really p*sses me off. I think it was the people in the condo below us 2 weeks ago. We ended up complaining to their rental agent because of the constant noise and trash, and I think they were asked to leave a day early because they were gone that afternoon. But I think they were angry, and we know they knew it was us that complained since we had already confronted them about their behavior twice. Jerks.
Oh well, enough complaining from me!!! Have a great day all!!!
I've been more or less just lurking recently. I'm realizing I haven't been in a good place for a week or so, and I guess just backed off a bit.
Been dealing with family issues, all because of my surgery next week. Mom has been bossy and downright nasty at times. She has the tendency to just take over and treat others like they're incompetent and will do things behind people's backs. (When my dad died, I learned Mom was telling people she was taking me home to Lancaster with her for a few weeks. WTF??? I was supposed to just walk away from my job???) Anyway, I've been dealing with Mom's moods, and she's making it quite clear that she doesn't like Paul and doesn't want him around during surgery. Every time I talk to my brothers, this issue comes up again and gets me angry again. Mom is going to be away this coming weekend, so I've decided to leave her a voice mail that I've cancelled my surgery until I get a job and don't have to worry about spending the money for my deductible. Then I'm going ahead with the surgery as planned. She'll be angry if she finds out, but she's going to be even worse if I just tell her to stay home. And she won't listen to that anyway---she'd still show up. I'm so angry that I have to have all this stress surrounding surgery.
ETA: Ok, I put on my big girl panties and called my mom today. I asked her not to come to the hospital and said that I really just want Paul there. I explained that he understands about my diet and meds and knows what to do. She seemed to understand and said she'll honor my wishes. She had been thinking about 15 years ago, when I had aneurysm surgery and had no one around to help me afterward, so she was just automatically going to step in now. So, hopefully she'll honor my wishes, and I can just relax and get this procedure done.
I discovered this weekend that someone apparently keyed my car. It doesn't look deep, but it really p*sses me off. I think it was the people in the condo below us 2 weeks ago. We ended up complaining to their rental agent because of the constant noise and trash, and I think they were asked to leave a day early because they were gone that afternoon. But I think they were angry, and we know they knew it was us that complained since we had already confronted them about their behavior twice. Jerks.
Oh well, enough complaining from me!!! Have a great day all!!!
Julia
Julia,
When you're in a not-so-good place, that's the time when we can reach out and help. You're not alone, we're all here for you.
i think you did the right thing by laying it on the line with your mom. As one who can certainly empathize, given my own "mom issues," I think we all know that drama will inevitably follow. BUT, having clearly expressed your wishes, and making sure that the hospital and the doctors and Paul and everyone else know what your wishes are is a great first step. Under HIPPA regulations, if you don't want your mom at the hospital, you ahve every right to say so and the hospital has to respect those wishes. She needs to come to the realization that you are an adult and that she needs to offer you respect as an adult. Whether that will happen, on the other hand, is totally dependent on her.
As to the keying of your car, it's probably worth reporting to the landlord and your insurance company, just to see what's covered. Very immature, very annoying. And you're probably quite right about who did it. Maybe the landlord could put the police in touch with them for a little "conversation" - haha.
Anyway, hugs to you. If you want me to come to the hospital or if you need any help once you get home (I'm sorry - I don't recall what type of procedure you're having and what teh recovery is likely to be like), please let me know!
karen
When you're in a not-so-good place, that's the time when we can reach out and help. You're not alone, we're all here for you.
i think you did the right thing by laying it on the line with your mom. As one who can certainly empathize, given my own "mom issues," I think we all know that drama will inevitably follow. BUT, having clearly expressed your wishes, and making sure that the hospital and the doctors and Paul and everyone else know what your wishes are is a great first step. Under HIPPA regulations, if you don't want your mom at the hospital, you ahve every right to say so and the hospital has to respect those wishes. She needs to come to the realization that you are an adult and that she needs to offer you respect as an adult. Whether that will happen, on the other hand, is totally dependent on her.
As to the keying of your car, it's probably worth reporting to the landlord and your insurance company, just to see what's covered. Very immature, very annoying. And you're probably quite right about who did it. Maybe the landlord could put the police in touch with them for a little "conversation" - haha.
Anyway, hugs to you. If you want me to come to the hospital or if you need any help once you get home (I'm sorry - I don't recall what type of procedure you're having and what teh recovery is likely to be like), please let me know!
karen
Thanks, Karen!!! I know this is the time I most need to reach out to you guys, and I know a lot of folks on here understand "mama drama."
When I decided yesterday to tell my mom I was postponing surgery, I was totally peaceful with my decision. But today, after talking to her, I have mixed feelings about it. I love my mom, and I know she loves me, but as my brother said, she can be overbearing. She swoops in and just takes over, and is sometimes sneaky about it. I'm pretty sure I did the right thing: Mom is 75, has recently been diagnosed with polymyalgia and is in pain most of the time, has COPD; my step-father is also 75 and is in need of new knees, so he doesn't get around too well. I think it would end up being a long day for them, and the surgery should only take an hour or so.
Surgery is a hysterectomy due to large fibroids. (Would never have found them 110 lbs ago.) I'm not in any way worried about it. In fact, I'm looking forward to it being done and feeling better. Unfortunately, it has to be an open procedure due to the size and location of the tumors, so recovery takes longer. Used to be about 6 weeks, so that's what I'm figuring on. Thanks for the offer to visit! Very sweet, but I'm an hour away from you and should only be in for a couple of days. I'm hoping to have my laptop so I can stay connected; at the very least I'll have my Droid.
Unfortunately, the police won't do anything about the car since we have no proof. Been down this road before when Paul's ex-wife vandalized his car, my car, and his ex-girlfriend's car. (She wrote 'fat pig' in ballpoint on one of my rims. Joke's on her now!!! lol But we know it was her since that's how she refers to me in her home.) The scratch isn't too deep, so I think it can be rubbed out. It just annoyed me because those renters were jerks all week---making so much noise that our walls shook upstairs, leaving trash around the building. They were the only renters in that section that week, so we knew who the problem was.
Doesn't help that my unemployment has run out either. I had put off job hunting and school when I found the fibroids and till I get through surgery. Can't exactly go on interviews as a new post-op! lol I know these things always work out, but it's still a bit scary.
Anyway, thanks Karen!!!!! Can't tell you how much your support and friendship mean to me!!!
When I decided yesterday to tell my mom I was postponing surgery, I was totally peaceful with my decision. But today, after talking to her, I have mixed feelings about it. I love my mom, and I know she loves me, but as my brother said, she can be overbearing. She swoops in and just takes over, and is sometimes sneaky about it. I'm pretty sure I did the right thing: Mom is 75, has recently been diagnosed with polymyalgia and is in pain most of the time, has COPD; my step-father is also 75 and is in need of new knees, so he doesn't get around too well. I think it would end up being a long day for them, and the surgery should only take an hour or so.
Surgery is a hysterectomy due to large fibroids. (Would never have found them 110 lbs ago.) I'm not in any way worried about it. In fact, I'm looking forward to it being done and feeling better. Unfortunately, it has to be an open procedure due to the size and location of the tumors, so recovery takes longer. Used to be about 6 weeks, so that's what I'm figuring on. Thanks for the offer to visit! Very sweet, but I'm an hour away from you and should only be in for a couple of days. I'm hoping to have my laptop so I can stay connected; at the very least I'll have my Droid.
Unfortunately, the police won't do anything about the car since we have no proof. Been down this road before when Paul's ex-wife vandalized his car, my car, and his ex-girlfriend's car. (She wrote 'fat pig' in ballpoint on one of my rims. Joke's on her now!!! lol But we know it was her since that's how she refers to me in her home.) The scratch isn't too deep, so I think it can be rubbed out. It just annoyed me because those renters were jerks all week---making so much noise that our walls shook upstairs, leaving trash around the building. They were the only renters in that section that week, so we knew who the problem was.
Doesn't help that my unemployment has run out either. I had put off job hunting and school when I found the fibroids and till I get through surgery. Can't exactly go on interviews as a new post-op! lol I know these things always work out, but it's still a bit scary.
Anyway, thanks Karen!!!!! Can't tell you how much your support and friendship mean to me!!!
Julia
I understand the meddling mom - I didn't tell my mom about my wls until a week after as I knew I would have been more stressed by her than the surgery itself. Mothers don't always understand what they do to us. The only thing we can do is hope to not do it to those we love ourselves and try to minimize hurt feelings, which, unfortunately, many times is unavoidable. You did the right thing.
You will be fine, and with Paul at your side, you will be well cared for. If you need anything, anything at all, please reach out to us and we will be there, ok!
Much love,
Maura
You will be fine, and with Paul at your side, you will be well cared for. If you need anything, anything at all, please reach out to us and we will be there, ok!
Much love,
Maura
Maura
Ah, the Divine Miss M!!!! Love the new avatar!!!
I've been thinking of you this week and was telling someone (Paul? my brother? can't remember) that you didn't tell your mom about your wls beforehand. Came to the conclusion the other day that I'll never tell my family again about health issues till everything is done. I'm not at all worried about the procedure, but it boggles my mind that I'm stressed out over the family issues surrounding it. Mom means well, I think, and she's an awesome nurse, but she's overbearing and just takes over. Paul doesn't deal well with blood, but he's still a good caregiver---he was wonderful last year after my wls. And he understands my medical needs better than anyone else in my family at this point, so it's imperative that he be there and be my "spokesperson" if needed. As I said above to Karen, too, Mom has a lot of health issues, and I'd be worried about her, as well as worrying about her behavior.
Just can't wait till this is done!!!! Thanks for the offer of help---I love knowing my OH family is out there for me!!!!
I've been thinking of you this week and was telling someone (Paul? my brother? can't remember) that you didn't tell your mom about your wls beforehand. Came to the conclusion the other day that I'll never tell my family again about health issues till everything is done. I'm not at all worried about the procedure, but it boggles my mind that I'm stressed out over the family issues surrounding it. Mom means well, I think, and she's an awesome nurse, but she's overbearing and just takes over. Paul doesn't deal well with blood, but he's still a good caregiver---he was wonderful last year after my wls. And he understands my medical needs better than anyone else in my family at this point, so it's imperative that he be there and be my "spokesperson" if needed. As I said above to Karen, too, Mom has a lot of health issues, and I'd be worried about her, as well as worrying about her behavior.
Just can't wait till this is done!!!! Thanks for the offer of help---I love knowing my OH family is out there for me!!!!
Julia
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