A Conversation I Wasn't Meant to Hear...

 This goes to show you that even the most educated individuals are ignorant! WLS is not about controlling your eating habits for some people like me.  I do not eat alot (even my doctor tells me that) however I just cannot lose the weight either. May be after you are this woman's supervisor you can incorporate professional developments on the topic in a round about way? WLS is for your health! I guess if that lawyer or woman were to have heart surgery they would not consider the procedure! LOL I wish you the best! You did the right thing!!!!!!!! Just for spite I would mention in passing about the conversation.  Such as next time you use the phone, make sure you hang up completely so others do not over hear your conversation! It could pose a security risk to the company along with administrative action!!!!!!

Knowledge is power Eileen.
You know that they don't know what they're talking about.
You know that they talked about you like they know what they're talking about.
You know that they question your ability although you are doing the job.
You know that they don't know any of the above.
You have the advantage, what you do with it it up to you. I know you will handle it appropriately.
You can live on with the knowledge of all that and may be some day they will reach your level of goodness.

I want you to be my supervisor.

Dennis

oh screw them both. I'm a big advocate for calling ignorant idiots out for what they are. I'd forward that voicemail to both of them and preface it with "I don't believe this was intended for me to hear" and leave it at that.

Humilation is a wonderful tool sometimes, and perhaps they will think twice the next time they are talking behind someones back.

That $%&! infuriates me.

And I would ship it off to HR as well.

I'm sorry you had to hear that Eileen

OMG!  That was something. . .  I can only imagine your shock at what you overhead, however, I hope you are having the last laugh over it, because in reality, what does it matter, you've worked hard and done a fantastic job and if you were not who you were, you would not be "managing" in the position you are in at your place of business!!!

Just keep me in mind, if they ever start hiring. . .

Hugs, Laureen

Eileen,
I am going to be a bit crude here, but it is what I think of your situation.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. 

Opinions are like a**holes.

Everyone has them, and most of them stink.

Love you,
Trish

Eileen,

I read your post last night when catching up on posts, but didnt write then.  I thought about what you had written all night long and first and formost - I will echoe what alot of folks have already said - 'pay no never mind to the idiots'!!

You know that lots of people say hurtful things behind our backs  - unfortunately it is the reality of it.  BUT BUT BUT you also know that you have real and true and supportive friends right here in this circle.

We luv ya sister and recognize the hard work you have done so far.  We recoginize your successing and dedication to better health and WE are better people by having you as part of our successing community.

The other point I wanted to make is - when you finally become that woman's supervisor - if I were you, I would not waste one second in getting her into a room and repeating what you heard and how absolutly hurtful it was.  Do not give her one second to respond or apologize - say your piece then dismiss her.  By handling it that way - you will leave her to ponder her own actions and no time to try to apologize or muster up fake feelings of guilt.

Kim Z

Hi Eileen, 

I am quite a few days late reading your post and I know you've already gotten so many supportive responses, but I definitely wanted to write you a little something too...

I am so very sorry you had to hear that conversation and I'm really glad that after the initial feelings of sadness passed, you are now able to find the humor in it all.  What you choose to do about the conversation is up to you...I definitely like Heather's forwarding the voice mail back to her/him or both of them idea.  But whatever you choose to do -- even if you choose to never give it any more thought again -- please know that you are the better person and I'm thrilled that you are going to be her supervisor in the coming months.

It really is such a shame how many people equate weight issues with lack of motivation/desire/poor managing skills, etc  I have found that usually, it is the exact opposite and I don't even know how the two of them have the knowledge to make that determination about you.  And even if they did, obviously, it is not true.

You are an intelligent, caring, loyal, beautiful woman and we all love you Eileen.  You have done an incredible job on your journey and are clearly an excellent worker.  I know you will continue successing in all that you do and we are so very proud of you.  I hope you are proud of you too. 

Thank you for sharing your experience with us.  It's such a shame it happened, but I hope we can learn from this.  

Miss you and love you, 
Lisa :)