Barix Post-Op Meeting Wednesday Night/Topics?
Hi Dennis & everyone,
I think I will be attending the meeting this month because I think I had a long enough piddy party for myself. So I am right there with you Dennis in feeling blue but I have been eating WHATEVER I want to help make me feel better. I feel like a failure and I NOT where I wanted to be a year after sugery. SO I AM COMING FOR HELP!
See you all on Wednesday,
Tina
I think I will be attending the meeting this month because I think I had a long enough piddy party for myself. So I am right there with you Dennis in feeling blue but I have been eating WHATEVER I want to help make me feel better. I feel like a failure and I NOT where I wanted to be a year after sugery. SO I AM COMING FOR HELP!
See you all on Wednesday,
Tina
Coming! I need my dose of support and WLS folks too! I'm up a few pounds so I know I need a kick in the pants to get back on track. I still read labels but have been pushing the numbers on the sugars. Tempting fate in a way but also finding my body adjusting to the increase in not such good ways . . . can tolerate and have added a few pounds! YIKES!!
Jan
Jan
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Sorry Dennis, but we won't be making it this month... I've got a nasty dose of the flu maybe? I hope you find the lift you need from the group.. as I'm sure you will. Wish I could be of some help in some way.
Anyway, I'll be missing all of you, and be sure to have a great meeting!
Anyway, I'll be missing all of you, and be sure to have a great meeting!
Success is a journey... not a destination! 
Hello Everyone,
I want to share with you part of a message that Andy Kovatch sent me. I am making it public with his permission. It makes for a worthy topic and questions for Wednesday night.
Thank you Andy. I will reply to Andy privately but I do have my own answers for some of the statements below but I'll save them for the meeting. His message follows:
Anyway, I was actually looking forward to your thread about this month's postop meeting and looking for topics. You see, Dennis, I've been struggling. BIG TIME!!! And I know why. I have lost all motivation and it's no secret on why I'm having trouble getting back on track. You see, I used those Barix meetings - both Chadds Ford and Langhorne - as an accountability thing. I knew that I had to stay on track because I had to fit into those clothes just right or someone would notice. There would be rumblings as to why Andy looks like he gained some weight. I didn't let that happen because I knew every month - sometimes twice a month - I had to show up in front of the group to "be on display" so to speak. Let's face it, we're all "on display" when we show up for a meeting, fair or unfair. I actually liked being on display because it kept me in line.
I am coming to the meeting Wednesday and I did want to bring this up to the group. You see, I am guilty of what a lot of other veterans are guilty of. I used to attend the postop meetings at Langhorne more for a social gathering than for the real reason behind support groups - SUPPORT! I know I'm right Dennis. Think about back when you first started coming to the meetings and how many of the regulars were active participants in the daily discussions. I'm not going to name names, but the same group that has since grown into veteran status, were all once newbies and were a lot more into the "support" part of "support group". Like I said, I'm as guilty as any of them. My topics for this month, if we have time would be the purpose behind attending support groups in the first place. I'd love to see a show of hands of how many of the veterans show up more for a monthly gathering of friends to chit chat, and how many are still as hungry as their first meeting and feel they give and receive support now as much as they did way back when. The other topic I'd like to touch on, and this goes right in line with my first one, is accountability. Do others feel as I do? I know when I first started out in this journey, I read somewhere the percentage of long term success for those that attend and actively participate in support groups compared to those that do not. Do others actually use this meeting to stay on the straight and narrow, knowing that they are always going to be on center stage when they show up for that meeting the third Wednesday of every month? I know one thing. I NEVER had to wear close that were too big on me to hide anything underneath. I was always in shape and fit. Now I find my clothes starting to get a little snug because of me falling off the wagon. And I know I've fallen off the wagon because I don't have any accountability. I need a swift kick in my ass my friend. And I know I can count on you and the rest of the group to give it to me. I just hope other veterans that have been in a situation similar to mine fess up to it because they need the help as well. It's why we meet every month in the first place, or at least it should be the reason we meet. It's supposed to be all about supporting one another. Hell, even AA meetings start off with members saying "Hi, I'm John Doe, and I'm an alcoholic". They're not embaressed, they're crying out for help. And that's what I'm doing right now.
If you want to post parts of this in your thread so others know we may touch on these topics Wednesday, that's fine. I just didn't want to do it myself because I didn't want to take up so much space. I appreciate your time Dennis, you are the best. I miss you something fierce and I truly can not wait to see you on Wednesday. Take care my good friend.
Sincerely,
Andy Kovatch
I want to share with you part of a message that Andy Kovatch sent me. I am making it public with his permission. It makes for a worthy topic and questions for Wednesday night.
Thank you Andy. I will reply to Andy privately but I do have my own answers for some of the statements below but I'll save them for the meeting. His message follows:
Anyway, I was actually looking forward to your thread about this month's postop meeting and looking for topics. You see, Dennis, I've been struggling. BIG TIME!!! And I know why. I have lost all motivation and it's no secret on why I'm having trouble getting back on track. You see, I used those Barix meetings - both Chadds Ford and Langhorne - as an accountability thing. I knew that I had to stay on track because I had to fit into those clothes just right or someone would notice. There would be rumblings as to why Andy looks like he gained some weight. I didn't let that happen because I knew every month - sometimes twice a month - I had to show up in front of the group to "be on display" so to speak. Let's face it, we're all "on display" when we show up for a meeting, fair or unfair. I actually liked being on display because it kept me in line.
I am coming to the meeting Wednesday and I did want to bring this up to the group. You see, I am guilty of what a lot of other veterans are guilty of. I used to attend the postop meetings at Langhorne more for a social gathering than for the real reason behind support groups - SUPPORT! I know I'm right Dennis. Think about back when you first started coming to the meetings and how many of the regulars were active participants in the daily discussions. I'm not going to name names, but the same group that has since grown into veteran status, were all once newbies and were a lot more into the "support" part of "support group". Like I said, I'm as guilty as any of them. My topics for this month, if we have time would be the purpose behind attending support groups in the first place. I'd love to see a show of hands of how many of the veterans show up more for a monthly gathering of friends to chit chat, and how many are still as hungry as their first meeting and feel they give and receive support now as much as they did way back when. The other topic I'd like to touch on, and this goes right in line with my first one, is accountability. Do others feel as I do? I know when I first started out in this journey, I read somewhere the percentage of long term success for those that attend and actively participate in support groups compared to those that do not. Do others actually use this meeting to stay on the straight and narrow, knowing that they are always going to be on center stage when they show up for that meeting the third Wednesday of every month? I know one thing. I NEVER had to wear close that were too big on me to hide anything underneath. I was always in shape and fit. Now I find my clothes starting to get a little snug because of me falling off the wagon. And I know I've fallen off the wagon because I don't have any accountability. I need a swift kick in my ass my friend. And I know I can count on you and the rest of the group to give it to me. I just hope other veterans that have been in a situation similar to mine fess up to it because they need the help as well. It's why we meet every month in the first place, or at least it should be the reason we meet. It's supposed to be all about supporting one another. Hell, even AA meetings start off with members saying "Hi, I'm John Doe, and I'm an alcoholic". They're not embaressed, they're crying out for help. And that's what I'm doing right now.
If you want to post parts of this in your thread so others know we may touch on these topics Wednesday, that's fine. I just didn't want to do it myself because I didn't want to take up so much space. I appreciate your time Dennis, you are the best. I miss you something fierce and I truly can not wait to see you on Wednesday. Take care my good friend.
Sincerely,
Andy Kovatch
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