Hi Judy!

I have meant to respond, but keep forgetting my password. Rather than go thru process of resetting it I have to look it up which half the time I get sidetracked doing.

It is hard living without your parents. My mom has been gone since 09 and I still want to talk to her about things only SHE understood! Plus, like you said at our age alot of ppl are or have passed making life a little lonlier!

Our oldest brother who was an a**hole anyway 'disowned' all of us when my mom got sick. It seems alot of families have troubles when a parent dies. It sucks AND for some reason death and estrangements make me feel older...

I am so glad I retired in 2014 and left MY crazies behind.The stress was awful and it had gotten to point there were more difficult clients than good ones.

Jim and I have started working on making some much needed updates to our house. It was built in 49 and had very few renovations when we bought it. We started with converting my home office (originally a small bedroom) into a walk in closet with a his & hers enclosed closet within the walk in. Just finished Jims closet which is handicap assessible with lower shelves & shirt racks he can reach from his wheelchair.

From now on though wont schedule projects in summer. Cut into our spending money so didnt get to do everything we planned...

Did drive down to Houston this past April for my stepdaughters wedding. Two days on road down and then back. That and those Houston freeways wore me out! Enjoyed the trip, but was glad to get back home. We then attended my nephews wedding in Lancaster, PA that was only 2 hours from here. Spent weekend in a VRBO and really enjoyed it, the scenery, shopping and wedding.

I guess in my old age bigger cities no longer appeal to me.

Anyhow thats about it for me! Getting ready to send Jazz off to 11th grade this week. Dont know where the time goes...

Hi Judy,

My name is Jami. I had gastric RNY January 17, 2000. I lost 130 pounds and regained 30 after my Mom passed away 5 years ago. Like you, it was the best decision ever. I never have regretted my surgery. After regaining my 30 pounds, I have tried everything once again to loose the weight....weigh****chers, HCG, starvation, everything. Then on Thursday, something popped in my head and said "you have a wonderful tool in your RNY that you have neglected. Get back to the basics." So, Yesterday and today, I have gone back to the basics of eating that I followed right after surgery. I'm eating and drinking only high protein soups and drinks for a few days then going to measured out soft proteins before moving back to regular proteins. My surgeon said once on full proteins to follow the 2-1 rule. Two bites of protein to one bite of vegetables. Avoid bread at all cost and if I must, no more than one piece of bread daily. I can already tell a difference. As postop RNY patient's, we can never eat the way anyone else can. I forgot that and ate like before surgery. If we are to stay successful, we have to continue to eat the way our surgeons told us to eat for the rest of our lives. So, my commitment (I'm sure there will be backslides) is to pay attention to my pouch and follow my surgeons rules. Always remember, we have a disease of obesity. I came out of remission for a while and now I will be in remission again. You can do this and I am sorry about your friends.

Yup, realized that from your original response but since you still consider her your DIL respected that. And she must still love you to be around to help. Keep her close to your heart, she sounds like a keeper.

Hi Judy:

You got through it, amazing what hidden strengths we have when needed. Glad you had help, and learned you can never count on men for that kind of clearing up so keep your DIL close as seems you can count on her.

Hope your day tomorrow is better than today...upwards and onwards!

Jen

Hi Pat,

Thank you for saying something to me. Meant a lot! Yes it was my mom that passed away then I also lost my sister not long after that.

Hope you keep checking in and maybe we can get this board going again.

Hugs