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Hi Jennifer,
I remember you posting occasionally, nice of you to come on and share your thoughts. . . as long as I've been part of the board, there are occasional squabbles, but most of the time, we mend fences and move past it and hopefully, thought I don't know the particulars because I think what took place must have happened before I hopped back here, the same will take place. It's never fun when our feelings get hurt or issues cause us to get upset, but if we realize how the common thread here is about support for WLS and caring when one of us is hurting for whatever the reason be, then we know that our backgrounds are all vastly different, making us lean towards different things and that being said, tolerance is needed and adult behavior allows for the differences, most especially within our circle of mature folks (lol).
Happy to see your post.
Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Hi Eileen,
Sorry you are experiencing pain and the other stuff you experienced, thankfully, some people came to your aid with regards to that old boss. . .having someone live with us when we are used to being on our own can take time to acclimate to, so it's probably good that your brother travels some of the time and is doing something he enjoys! Hope you get relief soon from the back stuff, lord knows, I never knew until this past two years how miserable one can be with back related issues! Glad your heart monitor states you are good!
Regards, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Haila,
Don't sweat the writing, just write. You certainly have had your share of problems. I think I have scar tissue because about two or three times a week, I get pain that is so severe, it doubles me over and I cannot take a breath. I am reluctant to start having the doctors look for the cause because my WLS doctor is far away and the ones here won't see me unless it's an emergency so I am waiting for the emergency...sucks but that's what it is...I had so many issues with the original surgery, that I just hate to start having them look for something...
I am so glad you are here and lurk and post whenever you want.
Karen,
I am so glad you dropped in...I cannot tell you how much you inspired me and carried me through this surgery. I saw your before pictures and met you and said, to hell with it, I am going to build up my blood and get it done and did it...you were my main life line....I knew if you said it, it was right. I hope you drop back in frequently and keep us up with what's going on. When are you coming back to AR....I am coming to your neck of the woods, I think, next summer. And we are getting a few states near you this summer when we take two of our grandkids to Yellowstone. We need an event.
I have gone and come back and gone again but DH had transplants and rejections and then every time we thought we were going, his health kept him from going and I couldn't leave him behind....but I am going back in Jan. for a couple of weeks to do some workshops....I am going to Thailand too but next July....I still do some things for short time spurts. We need to get together.
Debi,
you have just inspired me to do better. Wow! Girl, I hope you are able to take pictures of your journey and write about it. That is totally cool.....
Karen,
So very glad to hear your read your update, I have such fond memories of the times we've met and because we are on FB, I see some of what goes on in your life and you are amazing. I'm sure it is hard to give up the house that I remember you had built to move into a Town House, but I think as we get "older" it's probably a better thing to have less to care for. I love my house, but often lament the keeping things up part. Luckily, I have a very hyper grown man, who is sort of a brother to me, my original roommates ex, that helps a lot with the house stuff, otherwise I really think I'd have to sell it, which I very likely will do in a few years, just because I don't want the upkeep in my retirement years.
Honestly, most of the successful WLS people I know are either retirees who have the time to take classes and/or be physically active, younger people or those who live within a short commute of their homes. I have a job that ties me to a desk for 8 hours each day and a commute that is, at a minimum, 45 minutes each way, I try to get out and walk and have been making a minimum of 6,000 steps per day and when the weather permits I am up at 10,000 or better, so changes are being made and the onsite gym my company has in our new building will be a plus.
Anyway, I am not whining, though it might sound like I am (lol), just wanting to be more comfortable and the regain I've had is not helping my body move about the way it did say 20 lbs., so my goal is to shed those pounds and see how it frees me and when I get there, I will then look at the need to shed more. . . small goals. Either way, I agree, I am happy that I choose the path I did and no regrets, I am healthier and made wonderful friends as a result of it.
Kind regards, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
I am Hala. Mostly loorker than poster here. I am also involved in 2 other private groups on OH and there only so much time in my day to post. Reading is easier.
I am originally from Poland, I left Poland when there still was "the Berlin wall.. Ended up in Canada for a few years, and the last 21 years.. I've been here in US..in SC. I am an engineer, working and managing a small fiber optic company. Life is interesting. I don't have any children. I have really nice BF -5 years, and we have 3 cats...
Had RNY in May 2008, when I was 48, and no longer could lose weight... Before that - it would lose 50 gain 60, lose 70, gain 60...etc... I got divorced in 2006..(short marriage) and decided that I needed to do something before my weight kills me. I am stubborn and determined and I lost 110lbs in less than one year...went from size 2X to size 4, small.. 145 lbs. I had a few complications: hernia, GB, another hernia... Etc.. For the last few years since post op RNY: eating =pain.... Maybe that's why I was able to keep off most of my weight?
Long story short - most likely I have SIBO (small intestine bacterial overgrowth) and IBS-C, food allergies and intolerances, and some more issues.. My main allergies are soy and dairy...plus a few more...Plus adrenal insufficiency.
At one time - I started drinking too much....I was dealing with low energy, and pain after eating... It was "get drunk or be hungry.." some days I picked one over the other. But when I noticed that I was missing work because of my drinking, and I was drinking whatever whenever... I knew I need to deal with that. And I did.
I started looking for solution to my issues: I had a surgery to fix gut twist, iron to help my anemia, weekly B12 shots (i need them weekly) Hormones (HRT) ..and last but my least - getting diagnosed with a secondary adrenal insufficiency - and get cortisone for that - all of that - I got life back. I am still in some pain after eating, but it is not too bad, and not enough to drink too much or take too many pills.
At times - I still drink too much..but I don't like how that makes me feel, so that does not happen very often.
I am learning how to manage my IBS-C, and adrenal insufficiency, insulin resistance...plus plus...
When my doc put me on steroids for my adrenals - that helped normalize my BS and BP but it also makes me more hungry... But hunger is not not an emergency, right? As long as my BS Is OK I can deal with that. At least most of the time..
I manage my IBS and weight using IF (intermittent fasting) and low carb- low FODMAP diet (also SCD diet to manage SIBO).
I still deal with severe RH if I eat carbs- starches, .but I learned how to eat around it...if I really want to cheat - I can... I try not to...
I had some regain - but I have been around 165 most of my last few years... Middle of last year - I decided to get back to my "goal" of 155..+/-3 lbs. And I am almost there.. 2 more lbs to go.. At my last doc appointment - he told me I am were I need to be weight wise and I am not to lose more weight..2 lbs would be OK but to not go under 150... I think this is a second time ever in my life when a doc told to not to lose more weight...
I see wonderful group of people here and I got used to read your stories... Real life stories... It makes me humble, makes me appreciate my life and puts "poor me" in perspective.
BTW - English is not my first language, plus I read and type on a tablet (autocorrect- typos) - so be gentle on my gramar/spelling
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Thanks Linda
I remember your sister fighting cancer. Hope those bad side effects leave her soon. George still has limited energy and lots of stomach trouble. After being the patient many, many times during our marriage, I can truly say it's easier being the patient. Not that George is a bad patient, it's the worry and picking up the slack that you do as caregiver that totally wears you down.
Thank you Eileen. We accept prayers, good thoughts and vibes, and swinging chickens. This will be an ongoing process of wait and worry from scan to scan.
