Sunday Blessings

Kathy,

My husband loves gift certificates, and I refuse to go in any of the "manly" stores.  He gets excited when the grandsons come up because they take off and spend the day looking at tools, going to that hunting and fishing store, and hanging out at the lumber store.  I refuse to go to those places because the floors are always so hard on my knees and he takes forever. 

I hope your sister-in-law is not drinking while taking the xanax...that can be so dangerous. My sister-in-law died over 20 years ago and my brother still mourns the loss and has not even tried to build another relationship. I don't blame him...he once told me that there isn't a woman in the world who could compare to Rose.  He said I won't replace her. So, there you go...I think I would be the same way. I suppose that her kids will be the answer and I hope they are helping her. 

I, too, have been thinking about Mary and what she must be going through.  

Hello Kathy....you are lucky that you have a wonderful husband. I sure missed out on a lot!!

I am so sorry your SIL is having such a hard time after her loss. I don't mean this badly but that drug and alcohol is really adding even more to her not getting healed. She really does need to see a therapist. Without a clear head she can't even begin to recover. I hope someone here can give you some good advice. Also she shouldn't be making any rash decisions at this time. Especially selling a house. I do understand why but she should give it a little more time. I will be praying for her, you and all of your family.

Yes...I too am so worried about Mary. She is resourceful and can take care of herself. I just wish we would hear something just to be reassured.

Love you much....hugs.....connie d

I'm concerned about the Xanax too. That was youknowwho's drug of choice, plus he was drinking heavily. I think that led to his kidney failure (he had chronic renal disease) and seizures and his paranoia and dependence on other illegal drugs. He really spiraled downward. I hope she gets some help and fast.

Trish & Jeannie,

Thank you so much for the input...

One of the problems is we don't know if she is mixing the Xanax with wine, but we do know she has stopped the Xanax cold turkey off and on until we pointed out how dangerous that was. Now she appears to be back on it as needed...and we suspect that is probably daily...

My mom was alcoholic, and when dad got difficult with Alzheimer's her PCP put her on zanax. It was the beginning of her undoing. My sister in law lived thru that with us, but seems unable to connect the dots to herself.

My brother and she had one of those unique marriages, and I don't see her ever looking for anyone again. She truly lost her best friend and soulmate. It is early on...only 3 months, but I am not hopeful about her ever getting back to who she was.

Both kids are there for her, but have their own issues. My niece is not much better off emotionally, but is not medicating. She is more in a rage. My nephew has increased his time at work and the gym like men tend to do to avoid feeling.

I just feel so hopeless..

Praying is all I can do...

Hello sistas!

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone!  I ran home to let Molly out for a bit and feed her, so i have access to my computer for a minute.  I tried to post some pictures from my phone here, but no can do.  I only know one way to post them on OFF and that requires a computer.

ANYWAY, as many of you who are friends with me on FB know, Carrie had to have a C-section yesterday.  It wasn't in the plan, but I thank God that it was available when we needed it.  There were several reasons for it, none of them an emergency, but after many hours of contractions and walking and doing everything humanly possible to move her labor along, it just wasn't happening.  The baby hadn't dropped and she was presenting in an odd position.  And Carrie never did get past 4 centimeters, even with the pitocin.  So she had the C-section.  I got to be there in the room, but I nearly missed the birth because my poor daughter was throwing up the entire time they were cutting her open and getting the baby out!  However, I WAS there and it was such a miracle.  I cried and cried, even while I was snapping photos and taking little movies and wiping Carrie's face, etc.  

The good news is that both mommy and baby are healthy and doing well!  Thank you, dearest Lord, for our new blessing!  Carrie is sore and having some pain, of course, but Caralee is just amazing.  So alert and so strong.  Wants to suck and lay on Carrie's breast ALL the time.  She's peeing and pooping and doing everything right.  (Funny story--that little sweetie POOPED all over the delivery room!  Oh, it was everywhere--on her hands, on her face, on her feet!  She was READY to come out!)

Okay, I've really got to scoot but here are a couple of pics.  If we're not friends on FB and you would like to see all the pics, just friend me at Vickie Gibson Poe.  There's a little movie there, too, of our baby just a few minutes old.  So precious!

Love you all!  (We should get to come home tomorrow, and then I can post more and respond to questions, etc.)

She is adorable and your daughter looks radiant as do you....congratulations and we are happy she was where she was when the doctor determined that she needed the section....yeah for modern miracles.