Wednesday Morning Chat

Good Morning OFF,

Be right back.

Good Morning Again,

I am so rattled this morning.  My sister is having a really hard time with Mom.  Mom got hysterical on her yesterday, and it was over something stupid, but Mom is Mom.  I told Eileen that Mom probably needs to get checked for a UTI, coz the last two times she did this, a year ago in February, and then in July, she had one.  Eileen wasn't interested in taking her to the doctor.  When I told her I understood, she told me I can't understand because I'm not living it.  Problem is, and I didn't go off on her yet, everything she is describing was what I went through as a teenager, was the reason I never wanted to move back home after my ex got out of the Army, and the Hell I went through living five minutes from Mom while raising my kids.  

I have a day of resting my foot, coz yesterday I overdid.

Must scoot.

Love,

Trish

Good morning Trish and everyone....

Trish....so sorry about all the hassle with your sister and mom. I know this really upsets you. Take some deep breathes. You gave your sister your advice. Now it is her turn to do what you mentioned or not. Don't keep letting her give you grief. She has chosen to live with your mom.  I am sending prayers for you!!

As for me.... I went grocery sopping on the bus with the other ladies this morning. I couldn't go yesterday because of the weather. I had to do it all myself this time. Not good!! My cleaning fairy came about an hour after I got home. She left about 3:15 PM. I am exhausted beyond words. Nothing else for me today. 

You know how much I care. I just can't reply. I am going to rest and hopefully sleep a little.

Prayers for our sweet OFF Family and their families.

Special prayers for Judy as she has another medical appointment tomorrow.

Love and hugs to all.....connie d

Good morning Trish and sistas!

Trish, I'm so glad you have some distance between yourself and your mom.  Even with all those miles, she still manages to impact your life in negative ways at times.  Just breathe, honey.  Done is done.  And God is in control of the future.

I am up and trying to get motivated to continue packing.  I do better with a definite deadline.  The check for the timber wasn't in the mail yesterday.  Will it be there today?  Who knows?  I hope so.  But because I don't know for sure, I just don't feel motivated to pack!  I'm such a head case at times.

Yesterday I worked really hard and got my bedroom as clean as can be.  My house is in pretty good shape now.  I even hung a few more things on the walls.  I have a stack of framed artwork in the entry hall that I simply MUST do something with!  (Bad grammar, I know.)  Some of those frames mean a lot.  Others not so much.  I need to make myself sort through them.  

Talked to Carrie last night.  She was 1 centimeter dilated yesterday.  Which is a change from no centimeters last week.  But things are moving along in the right direction.  Hopefully Caralee will hold off until I can get there and get the nursery set up.  

It's going to be a long month.  I need to get myself geared up.  But first I need to bubble!  Oh, how I'm going to miss my bubble tub while I'm in Waco.  Nothing but showers for me while I'm there.  I don't dare get down in a regular little bath tub any more.  What if I can't get out?  LOL!

Love you all!

I have a jetted bath tub and I take baths constantly. It is large and deep and I have a method to get in and out of it. I kneel and turn to lay in it, and to get out I turn over and kneel again. I get up while it still has water so that the water helps me to lift up. I have had no problems with this tub. I do know that when I stay in my Japanese hotel in SF for my oncology appointment I can not take a bath in those skinny deep tubs. There is not enough room for me to flip around and kneel. Those tubs were definitely not made for big girls like me!

Hi All,

I have been MIA for a while. Our vacation at the beach was very relaxing and now that I am home I am feeling like getting rid of everything that is cluttering my mind...I can't have the ocean outside my window, but I can certainly get rid of lots of things that interfere with my simpler life. Right now I am trying to get together my Mom's old pictures and things...tossing things that are not important to me, and putting things in one spot so that I can put together some photo albums for my brothers. They would be a very nice Christmas gift next year.

Today I have a hair appointment. I don't need to leave for a few hours so I am trying to get the other project done.

Hop your check comes today Vickie. And Pat, I sure agree with Vickie that the distance from your Mom is much better for you. I know you feel sorry that your sister is handling such a mess, but somehow it will work out.

I'm getting back to my pile... 

Julia

Hi all.

Hope all is going well.

Pat, so sorry for the sad relationship you have with your mom. Heartbreaking to say the least.

Connie, sorry for the loss of the fur animal. I did tell you that I have my daughter's 16 year old dog and I will have to say goodbye to him sooner rather than later. I used to cry so much over it because I adore the dog. But then I see he is half blind, can't move too well any more and it is kind of like losing my parents to old age and sickness. He has had a wonderful life. I have loved that dog, and I have no regrets. But I know it is not easy.

Vicki, we are waiting with bated breath for Ms. Caralee's entrance, so tell your daughter to dilate away, lol. I bet you, she and the family are so very excited. You DO keep busy all the time, bless your heart.

Hi Connie and all the ladies, I send my love to each and everyone on OFF.

I was so disappointed in my daughter yesterday. My former SIL who lives here in PSL has lived with and is marrying soon a younger man. She also lives in a house with her fiance, 2 daughters, grand daughter, son in law, and their two children. The house belongs to her grand daughter but it is the only way for her to afford the mortgage, and the house is very under water. We had a lot of that in FL. homes that plummeted in value after the economic collapse in 2008. Anyways, she, Carla was going to the wedding with her fiance and taking me and you know who. She cannot go now because he cannot get the time off. My daughter, the little brat she can be sometimes, got so upset with Carla. This is ridiculous. She can't go, she can't go. But the issue is she was taking myself and her dad. And we had to make other plans for me and him to get up there. Since I am a low income senior, she had to foot the bill for the plane tickets. I told her I would rather drive, panic attacks and all than to have her pay my way. I talked to Lisa for a long time trying to make her understand that not everyone lives a life like she does. She has always worked her butt off, but she doesn't know very well what it is like to not to be able to do something for financial reasons. I think I finally got through to her. When you love someone, you love them through the good and the bad, through the disappointment and the great times. I have never seen her so emotional in my life. If this is what a wedding does to her, dear God.

She is much better today. Calm cool and collected. But wow. I want her to make up with Carla because life is too darn short. She will. Just not today. Ok off my soapbox.

Sending my love to all, my hope for better days to all, my prayers and thanks. Take care everyone.

Hi Trish and my OFF family:

I have spent most of my day off working on taxes, and discouraged because I have to pay a lot to the feds and $5 to the state. Don't know how this happened. I seldom have had to pay either. The only thing I can see that is making this happen is the employer contribution to health insurance. If that's what is causing it, I have to have more taken out for next year so I don't have to pay. 

So I just don't feel like doing much. Gary is cooking the extra package I bought of turkey wings for dinner. I'm still in my jammies. I had a headache to start the day, and then doing my taxes didn't help it. I put everything down and played some solitaire on my phone for awhile. 

Vickie, I hope you get out to Carrie in time for Caralee. If the check doesn't come soon, you should just go instead without it. That little one might be here soon. 

Trish, I could never live close to my mom. Give me four hours distance at least. And she's nothing like your mom. 

Connie, so sorry about the dog. Those fur babies do put a hold on our hearts. 

have a good day.

Evening OFF Family...need to let off some madness!!!!!!!!!! Just got a notice in the mail about my health insurance...right now it seems they are taking away HALF of my doctors that I got to and half the hospitals...I will know more by march 1st!!!! So if I can't go back to my doctors or hospitals what is the use of having this health insurance????????? Guess if I can't use it and I need to keep going to the dr for my "issues" I will just say F&%K it and let it go!!!!!!!! What else can I do????  The good hospitals are no longer available to me at all. Not sure if the ****ty one here still is...life is just freaking great right now!!!!!!!! NOT!!!!!!!! The monthly premiums went up...the deductables went up...and now this!!!!!!!

So that is all I have to say right now...just upset and needed to vent!!!!!!!!

Thoughts and Prayers for ALL that need them!!!!!!

HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Hello Judy....I am so sorry. I got a letter today that says my therapist is no longer covered....which means my Psychiatrist probably isn't either. I have been there for 25+ years!! I am pissed too!! I won't go to another Psychiatrist or Therapist. I have way to much history with them and I am not starting over anywhere else!!!

I am going to sleep.....hugs and love to you....connie d