Saturday Morning It Is

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to drop in to say hi to everyone. I don't post much, but I am not as busy as most of you are......I have no grandchildren. I would have had another child, but before I divorced my daughter's father, I knew he wasn't there for Lisa, so why should I bring another child into the world that he would neither support and would ignore.

Second marriage, my husband loved and still loves Lisa dearly, but did not want children. Jack, my ex husband, his mother had five children; 3 sons and 2 daughters. Of those five only his brother Jim and his sister Jean had one child each. So no children with Jack, even though I would have. 

I have to redo my mammogram as I stated on FB. It was so long (shame on me) since I had my last one so they have nothing to compare it with. Also I have fibrous breast tissue. It was explained to me that no tumor was found but they want to make sure. So another mammogram and and an ultrasound. Should be OK.

Sending all my love to everyone.

Dear Trish and everyone,

Congratulations on six years of sobriety! I can see through your posts that you have come far. I'm proud of you! 

Im meeting a friend for a movie and dinner. We have been having lots of rain so that makes me happy too. The drought is so severe that rain is welcome anytime, day or night. 

It's time for me to get into the bath and wash my hair so I will write more another day. 

Julia

Good Afternoon Ladies!

I am SO glad it is Saturday! I worked more hours than usual and a couple days were stressful so I am relieved to be able to unwind.

I actually got a speeding ticket while driving on the job...smh..no excuses, but in a small town that makes most of its income from speeding tickets. I swear my eyes are in the rearview mirror rather than on the road bc these kids are always up to something!

Funny thing is how they develop their opinions and outlooks from media. One of my black 13 year olds yelled out I wouldn't get a ticket bc I was white and so was the cop. She said if I was black I'd be in trouble! The racial divide since Ferguson...and lack of regard for the good cops out there is pitiful.

Anyhow, loved having to tell my boss I got the ticket! Mind you, I have had nothing on my driving record for years. She was cool, though.

My other major stressor this week was not only a bomb scare at Jazz's school, but an hour after that a kid got a gun from his friend and fired it in the bathroom! It is being suggested all these bomb threats in the Delmarva area this week is the work of terrorists monitoring our response times, manpower, etc.

We are truly living in some scary times!

We went out for dinner last nite and I ate 3 jumbo fried shrimp and a green salad! I can't seem to stay away from breaded fish! I tell myself it is OK bc I never ate fish before...it grossed me out, but the past year I have been willing to try different kinds....but ALL breaded.

Met w/my Dietician for 1st time since surgery 3 months ago, and she said to work on eliminating anything breaded as well as a feelings journal since I am going thru some depression. She said nothing about calorie or carb limits...maybe next month. I have only lost 25 pounds since surgery...she said 40 would have been a reasonable expectation..However. I am losing inches like crazy!

So the struggle continues...I am glad we are all in this boat together. I don't see myself returning to my old habits, but I know I am a food addict and that is a voice in my head!

Anyhow...Trish...your whole foot situation sounds like a major pain in the ass! I was squirming as you...and later Jeannie...described the Dr. digging around for pins! Ouch! I hope you get back on your feet soon...no pun intended! And major congratulations on 6 years sobriety! Hard work and major commitment...give yourself a pat on the back!

Vickie, I am very interested in the book by Dr. Brooks...will need to get it soon. Meanwhile, the FB group sounds interesting. What do they say about the recommendations to eat dense protein at every meal?

Sure wish I could sew like you and Jeannie...especially given my clothes are swimming on me. You both make it sound so easy! But really...it is an art. Take it from someone who can't thread a needle!

Arlene, wish I had been wise enough to recognize my girls father was not dad material. It would have saved everyone a world of heartbreak. And let me know if you ever find a cure for your anxiety. I am so sick of mine!

Eileen & Connie, I hope both of you can get some relief from your health problems. I fondly remember my father in law saying growing older is not for sissies...it is so true!

Cindi, glad you are home safely and your kitty gave you the business about being gone...lol. Flying is probably a better idea as I would think traveling that distance on a regular basis would be grueling. Take care of yourself and enjoy your nature.

Judy, sounds like your doctor is being proactive with the testing. Hopefully they can identify the problem so you can move on...

As usual forgetting ppl, but I need to get going.

Everyone have a great day!

Good Afternoon Ladies......

First, a shout-out to Trish.  Congratulation on your six years of sobriety.  I know it is a tough battle.  My husband was an alcoholic but I thought I could change him.  He was a good man but struggled for years.  I can't tell you how many times he would have me drive him to the hospital so he could be detoxed -- but he never stayed.  Although he drank all the time to the point where he would pass out, he was able to function - he could not hold a job, but at home he painted the house, shingled the roof, did painting, carpentry, and all the housework.  After 12 years we had a baby, and he was still drinking.  When Maura was just over a year old, I told Mick that he either had to stop drinking or leave, because I would not let our daughter grow up with his drinking. Well, Maura was the apple of his eye - he stopped drinking and was a wonderful father to Maura until the day he died -- 12 years later.  So, I know sobriety is a challenge and you should be very, very proud of yourself.  

As far as replacing your crockpot, I got rid of mine and replaced it with and "Instant Pot", it's a combination pressure cooker, slow cooker, rice cooker, etc.  I also saw a commercial today for a "Perfect Cooker" which was very interesting and a great price. Check them out - each one of them replace several appliances, and there are facebook groups with recipes.

Jeannie - It's so difficult to deal with other peoples' addictions - we have no control over them.  I tried for years to get Mick to stop drinking, without success.  You daughter's bipolar disease is just that, a disease.  And people with mental health issues are notorious for not taking their medications.  Even I don't take my anti-depressants every day, and I really should.  My heart goes out to you and your daughter - and special prayers too.

Vickie - Good Luck on selling the truck and the cabin - how great would that be!!  If only you could buy some "me time" with the money -- you always have so much time doing so much for others.  It's easy to say take care of yourself, but I know you are like me...putting other peoples' need before yours.  I have gotten a little bit better about putting my needs first.  After Jim died, I did a lot of reflecting and realized that by putting him first, I lost so much of myself, and he also cost me a lot financially.  When we met, I owned a three family house, a single family house, and this old mobile home.  And because of my putting him first, I lost both houses and just have this 40 year old mobile home.  Lesson learned, the hard way.  But helping your children and grandchildren and mother is very different.  And I know you're a savvy person!!

Arlene - I've had to have mammograms done a second time because of fibrous breasts.....I have just got back on the program about having them done yearly.  What fun they are!! 

Julia - Enjoy the movie and dinner....I think the last movie I saw a "Titanic"!!

Kathy - You are so, so busy too.  I get what you're saying about breaded and fried seafood.  Yum!  I've been baking or steaming my fish a lot lately.  It's good, but just not the same.

Connie and Judy - Hope you are doing okay - special prayers for both of you.  You both have special challenges of your own.

I didn't do much today.  Had a great sleep, and did some research on non-meat protein....but have a lot to learn.  Last night I went on a carb binge....so dissappointed in myself.  I kept making toast all day long, then ate dry cereal when I was watching tv in bed.  Damn.  But I'm back on track today.  I think "diet" people pack on the pounds because they feel as if they are depriving themselves.....like me with the toast - it's something I shouldn't have, so when I do make a slice, I think I'll have some more because when I go back on plan, I can't have it - so I'll stuff my face with it now!  And as long as I blew it, I should have some cookies too.  And might as well eat some chocolate too.  Oh, and don't forget the ice cream.  Whereas, "normal" eaters know they can have bread tomorrow, and the next day, so there's no need to overindulge.  {sigh}

Mary