Awesome Saturday

Good Morning,

I'm still awake, coz I am having a bathroom issue.  I am taking a pain med that causes me to become constipated.  When I am constipated, I get nauseous, and get the dry heaves.  So, I take stool softeners, and need to use suppositories to get things started.  I'd love it if I could just have a regular bathroom need.  I'm not complaining, 

Well, I spoke with my sister and Mom today.  Mom went home.  My sister refused to stop her.  If it were me, her ass would still be at my sister's.  I told Mom that too.  

I have plans to take the Munchkins to the park with an awesome playground, and lake for swimming today.  Colleen and Trent will be painting one of their rental properties, so I'm getting the kids out of the way.  I am so excited.

I did some cleaning today.  Scrubbed the bathroom walls and floor, cleaned the rest of the bathroom, and did a little rearranging.  Felt good accomplishing that.  

Please pray for Mom.  

Love,

Trish

Good Morning Trish!!  Sorry you're having "bathroom issues" -- our personal plumbing can sometimes become a major issue.  I've made many dashes down the hall because I've had to take one medication or another trying to either get the pipes unclogged, or stopping the flow!! Sometimes it's a no-win situation.

My sleep cycle is off track lately.  The doctors at the hospital have caught me dozing a few times -- The hospital has a 24 hour visiting policy, so I can go anytime.  The other day I arrived there at 4:00 a.m.  I talk quite a lot to my older brother, he's a retired minister and is a good listener and is non-judgmental.  I respect his input very much.  Basically, I've accepted the fact that Jim is responsible for his own decisions regarding his health.  I can voice my opinion, but I can't make decisions for him, unless he goes back into a coma.  

So, I'll be visiting Jim at the hospital, but I'm not going to sit vigil.  If he doesn't care enough to take care of himself, then that's up to him.  I've got to get back to taking care of myself.  I've been neglectful of my program.  Today I'll do a bit of shopping for things I need - like getting another tub of protein powder so I can start making a shake for myself in the mornings, and pick up some fish and some chicken and break the packages down to individual servings like I used to.  I can't sacrifice my needs - I've done that in the past, but if he's not willing to take care of himself, that's his choice.

Sorry if I'm rambling - I'm trying to sort things out for myself.  Pray that I have the strength to follow my plan and put myself first.  Got to pull my head out of sand and shake some sense into myself!!

Prayers and good wishes to all!

Mary

Mary, of course you can't make Jim do anything if he won't have the colonoscopy.  I never heard of anyone purposely not having a colonoscopy.  The worst part is the prep, which you said he did.  

You need to start caring for yourself more, like Kathy said.  And you definitely don't need to sit vigil for him.  If I were you, I'd not even visit him, but that's just me.  

Love you.

Good morning Sistahs!!

i was awaken by my dog and cat spitting at each other!!! That was at about 4am!! So I had to have my cup of coffee!!!

tiday I'm going to a painting party at seven. My Crosstitch store is having it. We r painting wine glasses! My husband is going to do the photography for it. I'm painting!!!

I had a wonderful time in Denver. But ten days in the altitude about did me in. I don't know how I lived there for 24 years. Now I'm gearing up to drive to Chicago for two weeks. It's Vinnie time!!!

we are taking our big car again cause my friend from Denver is flying to Chicago to be there for Vin's second birthday. And I got a ticket for one of Lizzy's childhood friends to come too. Liz doesn't know she is coming. She will be surprised!!! I got lots up my sleeve for that week!!!

im having a scope done on Wednesday. They think I have scar tissue in or near my stomach causing my nausea. I hope they can break it up.

Carla

Good Morning Trish, Mary & Carla!

It has been a crazy, busy week around here.  I am getting ready to head out to yard sale, and then Jazz and I have a baby shower to attend for the lady *****placed me at work. I cannot wait to get to a quiet, no-obligation week! I need my quiet, orderly schedule...lol!

Trish, sorry to hear about your mom. That is always a worry!

Mary, you are 100% on target about needing to focus on yourself. We cannot 'carry' our spouses, adult children, etc. You can support Jim, but you cannot change him. You have been caring, empathetic, giving & kind. Move on to caring as much for you!

Carla, I really wish I had 10% of your adventures! But even then I doubt I'd have your energy!

I will check back later.

Wishes for a great day for all of us!

Good morning Trish and OFF-

Trish sorry you're having problems.  Know the feeling.  Your daughter is lucky to have you to take care of the Munchkins while they take care of their rental properties.  I'll add your Mom to my positive thoughts list.  Mental illness is so hard on people.  My grandmother was bipolar.  My SIL mother is bipolar.  She struggles with her mother's illness.  I'm going to be thinking positive thoughts for your meeting with your potential new therapist.  Just remember you can also continue to search.

Mary- I know it's rough to try to understand why someone doesn't want to seek wellness.  Continue to focus on keeping yourself well.  You'll be in my thoughts.

Carla - I've gone to two paint sessions this summer.  I have really enjoyed the classes and amazed myself with the pictures I painted.  We have another one this coming week.  It will be the most challenging for me.  It's simple just a branch, pine needles, pine cones and a chickadee.  Since it's a bird in the picture my OCD will kick in to make it perfect.  Definately will need a bottle of wine for this picture.

Kathy hope you enjoy the baby shower.  Nice that you are able to take Jazz with you to these events.  

Not much on the schedule today other than........packing.  It's drab and rainy here today.  I will not complain because the winds are out of the north so it's cooler.  Good day to pack.  

Next week will be busy.  Have to shuttle the car down to Bangor for the body work.  Later in the week it goes to get new brakes and tires.  Painting class is in the middle of all this and I have a meeting with my financial advisor to look at how to improve my cash flow.  Ha Ha just stop spending what little money I have or go get a part time job.  At the end of the week I'll drive to Vermont to visit my cousin for a few days.

Well that's all from Maine today.  Thoughts going out to Vickie as she travels today.  Eileen hope you get some energy soon.  Judy hope you're feeling better today and are able to eat something to get rid of that headache.  Connie weather is looking unsettled in your neck of the woods so I hope you're not in too much pain.  I know I've missed someone.

Cindi B

Ladies,

I am so glad the weekend is finally here.  All last week, I went from meeting to meeting and then attended workshops and provided workshops for new faculty and I am beat.  Plus, I hired four new tutors for our center and I found out Friday that I am now also in charge of an employee who has been using an office in our space.  He is one of the college's research people whose sole responsibility is to help faculty and students with their library research so he uses our extra office a couple of hours a day; now, the deans tell me, he is mine to schedule his time, supervise his activities, and provide him with supplies....I didn't have time on Friday to cry foul because our meeting was crunched as it was but Monday, I will need assurances that they are providing more money in my budget because I cannot squeeze another dime out of my existing money.  

Last night, my back went out and I know it's because my knee is acting up.  You all remember that I was supposed to get a new knee this summer; well, we couldn't get my blood work up to a decent count for me to have that major of surgery. I am so anemic they are worried about it but it's been like this long before I even had WLS; in fact, they postponed my surgery twice because of it...Now, I have low Vit D and other stuff so they sent me to an internist who put me on medication and the outcome was everything is still messed up.  So, no surgery until I get to the bottom of normal...that's my new mantra...just the bottom number...that's all.  Well, because of the no knee surgery,my knee has been acting up and as a result, my back is out...way out. I normally can make it on four loratabs a day with me taking one each time I take them...well,sadly, I've been taking two at a time and have been up to ten a day.  Of course,my doctor knows and I can take two every four hours around the clock, if I have to, but I don't like doing that...and, truthfully, they barely touch my back pain.  Last night, I hurt so bad, we ended up going to the ER where the doctor ordered an X-ray and said,wow,your back is really messed up and he gave me a shot of morphine and a shot of nausea medicine so, last night, I went to bed with no pain and slept for about five hours but then the pain came back.  I am making an appointment with my the neurologists who treats my MS to see if he thinks I should try the shots in the back and neck again.   We'll see. 

Trish, I have problems with my bowels and it is mostly related to the acid from my pouch and small intestine...thats why I take the prilosec and tums often.  I can tell you that when I have skipped the prilosec, I get so constipated that I double over in pain...and when I get like that, I use flax seeds.  When I first had WLS, one of the old timers on here sent me a private message about some of her issues that turned out were my issues too and she had hyper acid production and explained the paralysis of the large intestine from that acid and she said, use the flax seeds every day until you get regular then back off to once or twice week....it took two doses and all hell broke loose so I learned to just use a few sprinkles on my oatmeal once or twice or week.  Also, I eat raw vegetables every single day and that does help.  I hope you get yourself regulated because there is nothing worse than irregular bowels. 

Connie, I worry so much about you living alone and having that pain.  Please tell me someone checks on you often....If I were near you, I'd come make sure you were set for the day and then come back and make sure you were set for the night.  With the pain you suffer through and then the severe allergies, I feel like we are twins...

Carla, you are like me, a traveller at a moment's notice. I love that about you.  I was supposed to be going to China in September but I was able to send one of my PhD students instead.  Did I tell you guys how much I hate going to China?  I hate it.  I love the students but hate the pollution and the over crowded streets and you know, just the different culture that is really so different from ours.   I appreciate why they are like they are and I don't look down on them but I am so protective of my personal space and there, personal space management is impossible.  

Vic, I hope you get your groove on soon and get situated. It is so hard to get back on track when pit stops happen at every corner...or interruptions. I hate when I have one little pressing matter that pushes me out of my regular day.  

Connie, enjoy your brother's absence.  I have one brother who I could probably live with but my other three, two are now dead, would drive me nuts.  But the brother that is closest to my age and I could back pack across the US and never once get tired of each other.  We are only 15 months apart and he and I passed for twins all the way through school.  It didn't help that he failed first grade so he was in my class when I started to school.   The teachers used to say that they would look over the playground and there would be Kathryn's babies.  I remember negotiating our play...one day we played marbles and the other day jump rope.  He taught me how to hit the baseball and I taught him how to climb to the top of the elm tree.   So, I can feel your pain...I hope you guys work out the day-to-day issues that you will face.  

Judy, girl, I say it every day, how can you work for those air heads?  Plus, fire that guy...get him away from you and Rick...it sounds like he is sabotaging your management decisions.

I have forgotten what everyone else has posted this week....just have a good day. Ladies...enjoy the coffee

Jeannie...I think you used my name for the second reply and it should be Eileen....it happens to all of us!!

Love you ....HUGS....connie d

Morning OFF family....well I went to bed last night and woke up no headache. No feelings of throwing up either!! SOOOOOOOO Not taking anymore nausea pills!!!

Chase just stopped over to let us know what he heard about yesterdays take next door...almost 500 plants!!! WOW!!!!!!!! Still not sure what else they found over there. Police were there a LONG time!!!

Rick & Chase are now taking that bad ho****er tank back to Lowe's. Getting a replacement one and then installing that.

Talked to mom last night and she said they did NOT give her complete instructions on what to do for her test she was to have done Thursday so they didn't do it!!! She was upset. Can't blame her!!! She is also VERY upset that my sisters kids are NOT answering her calls or returning them. She want to KNOW WHERE Bonnie is at!!! She has been trying for over a week now and can't find her!!!!!! So I made a post on FB that it was pretty good that certain family members can't call their grandma to let her know where her daughter is!!!!!! BAM!!!!!!! My phone starts ringing!!!!!!!! Why are they calling me?????? Their GRANDMA wants to know!!!! Afraid she might chew their ass out???????? So I didn't answer my phone. Let them leave a message!!! See how THEY like that!!! Well I found out where she is and a phone number for her also!!!!!!! Called mom and let her know. BRATS!!!!!!!!!!

Nothing much going on here right now...left alone...OMG...LOL SHHHHHH don't say that too loud or the tenants will invade my silence here!!! LOL

Weather is so nice out today...Rick gets done with that HWT I want to DO something!!! LOL

Thoughts and Prayers for ALL that need them!!!

HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Hi Ladies,

Im at my brother's house for the weekend.  We went to the beach last night and had campfire made hobo pies and smores. Today we might be going to an art fair but right now the grand kids are here. Then tomorrow were going to a birthday party for a 4 year old.

Thoughts and prayers for everyone.

Hugs, 

Yvonne