Howdy Monday

Judy, relax about the complications. They have to say that stuff on all surgeries because things can and do go wrong. They had to say that on the gastric bypass too. So just relax. Take some deep breaths. Have a glass of wine (or whatever). Whatever is going to happen, is going to happen if you worry about it or not. We are all behind you in spirit, holding your hand in cyberland. 

And I hope the new guy works out. 

Hi Judy....I am so sorry you are so afraid this time. I wish they would just quit spending money and do a damn hysterectomy. That makes me so mad!! All the problems with cancer and things in your family should qualify you for that!! Tell them this is the last thing you are doing. If there is still problem you want it all taken out!! If they won't do it then you will find someone that will. I hate to know you are having to go through so much and it is never enough anyway!! Try not to worry about the things that COULD HAPPEN...they have to put all that in no matter what. I will be praying for you until thesis all over!! 

That damn Chase...you should have been cutting his hours or replaced him long ago. So what if he was nice. He was scalping the company for a long time. I am glad the boss finally tried to get him replaced. I hope you like the  guy she has in mind. He needs out of there and should have been gone long ago. He needs too much following up!! Lazy idiot!!

Try to have a good night...I know it won't be easy. 

I love you...HUGS....connie d

Happy Friday Eileen and OFF-

Eileen I feel your pain on the boxes, my house is starting to fill with boxes.

Connie- I wish I had your air conditioner today at my house.  It's hot and muggy here.  I'm going to get in the lake today and cool down for sure.

Vickie- it never fails that when I want to finish a project I make a mistake and have to rip out.  The cushions look great.  Safe travels to Nac.  Maybe Mom doesn't want to go because she really misses Nac and knows that it will make her transition worse.

Jeannie I like the idea of a red coat.  I like Connie love the color red.  My Mom has a red coat that she wants me to take but quite frankly I don't need a heavy wool coat in Texas.  I agree about using the cheap fabric when trying a new pattern.  I've done that on several quilt patterns.

Realtor reported that the couple from NJ have questions about the cabins.  They want to speak to me directly.  I told him no problem as long as they understand that any discussions about price go through realtor.  I guess they are interested.  That would be another load off my chest.  We'll see what happens and whether they call.

Spent about an hour of the phone with Mom yesterday.  She's running out of Poise pads.  So she's agreed to let me order another model so to speak.  Also ordered some Tena pull up pants for her to try for size.  Her doctor has referred her to a urologist but I don't think they are going to be able to do anything.  I've also researched adult size diaper covers or rubber pants as we used to call them when I was a kid.  She doesn't wake up at night so she's leaking through the pads.  Anyway, I know it's embarassing for her but she won't ask anyone else for help.  

I have remote access to her computer when things are working properly.  Poise had sent her a brochure that she wanted me to see.  I tried to access the computer to run her scanner so I could see the brochure.  Unfortunately, the cable modem appeared to be down.  So much for using that method to read for her.  Told her to call the onsite computer guy to verify that the cable modem was working properly, then we would try again.

Why is it that when it's wickedly hot the cat wants to sit on my chest?  He knows I don't want him there but her pursists!  Oye!

Well ladies, I have to go dip in the lake.  I can't handle the humidity any longer and have to lower my body temperature.

Judy I will be thinking positive vibes tomorrow for your surgery.  You are not your sister and you will be fine!

Trish hope your sinus problem is resolving again.

Sorry ladies, I know I'm forgetting someone but I can't take the heat anymore, East Grand Lake here I come!

Cindi B.

Cindi, it took forever to convince mom she needed to wear Depends ... she would get up in the morning and put a washcloth between her legs and walk very fast to the bathroom because she had urgent leakage. Then one morning she was doing that and fell and pulled out the sink (pretty good strength for an 88-year-old woman). They had to call my brother at work at Kohl's at the time and get him to come back home (this was right before Christmas; she had already fallen once before and broken her elbow). This time it was her pelvis and she was in the hospital, then rehab, then 24/7 caretakers. She's never been the same. She would say she didn't need to wear a pad. Well, geez, mom, I wear one and it's not an embarrassment. If you need something, wear it. She was convinced she didn't need one. After that, my brother told her she was wearing them ... plus she had some bowel problems too. Ah well, we all have (well, many of us) have these issues with our aging parents. 

Thanks Eileen for sharing your Mom's story.  Our difficulty is getting the right size of Depends but we're working on it.  I'm definitely learning from this experience.

Cindi

Hi Cindi...I feel for you not having A/C...there is no way I could ever go without it! I would be in trouble!! It was getting pretty warm in here...that is what woke me up!

Enjoy the dip in the lake. I am sure that would be very refreshing!

I am glad those people are showing interest in the Cabins. I hope they don't have too many questions and try to get your price lowered too much. Like you said, it sure would be a load off your chest!! Good luck!!!! I am still sending prayers too!

Have a good evening...love and more hugs...connie d

Got my computer back....let's see how it works out.

Things are not good here.  I had to call an ambulance for Jim this morning.  Yesterday he went into a "stupor" and could hardly communicate....could not put sentences together, did not eat or drink all day or night.  During the night he managed to get up out of bed and went to use the bathroom and fell into the tub...luckily he did not hurt anything.  Got him to eat about 2-3 wedges of an orange overnight, but that was all, along with a few sips of water.  The visiting nurse came this morning, and Jim could not communicate with her at all...just would stare off and kept saying ok or no.  By the time the ambulance got him to the hospital he was even worse.  No communication at all, just pulled out his IVs and the feeding tube they placed to get medicine in.

I had to come home to take care of the puppy we got last month.  Had car issues on the way home so I stopped at my garage....blubbered about the car stalling out on me, but they can't check it out until tomorrow morning, so  won't go back to the hospital tonight.  But I've gotten three calls from various doctors, needing permission to place special lines in the neck or groin. Jim's potassium levels are sky high, they are trying to track down the source of a suspected infection, and they may need to place him on dialysis because he has developed kidney problems now.  I have to do some reading tonight because he may have developed a serious condition called Hyponatremia..  ERROR-- should be Hepatorenal Syndrome---..effects liver and kidneys.  The outlook is grim, but they are planning aggressive treatment.  Since Jim has no family (that he will speak to), I, as his Significant Other, have the job of making medical decisions now.  He always told me "don't let them turn off the machines"........it's a hard spot to be in.  He had a brother who died from surgery complications, and he always was angry at his family because his wife had him taken off life support after he was on it for several days......Jim always said they did it too soon, people come out of comas after years.  I think it depends on "quality of life" myself.  I don't make decisions easily.  I'm sick to my stomach over all this.  Jim and I had "issues" for a long time and I actually had him move out a little over a year ago, but when he got sick, I let him move back in because even though we're not "a match made in heaven" our roots do go down deep and I don't think anyone should be alone when they are sick.  And he did make big changes in his life.  I'm a head case now!

So I'm on vigil now....will see what develops tomorrow morning.  Jim has been in a slow decline for a while....now things to very bad very fast.  I lost my husband in an instant; It's a different story with Jim.  He has been sick for about a year....but not "sick" sick...rather has been getting weaker bit by bit...and now Bam!

Lots of other stuff was going on that I had wanted to share over the last few weeks, but that all falls by the wayside now......I just have to focus on Jim now.  Will keep you posted.  Keep swinging those chickens.

Mary

Mary-

I'll start swinging the chickens now.  You'll be in my thoughts.  Potassium going heywire can cause a lot of problems.  Hopefully they will get it under control quickly and get him stabilized again.  If you need someone to talk to this is the forum to do it.

Swinging chickens in Maine for you and Jim.

Cindi B.

Hello Mary and WELCOME HOME!!!!

I am so sorry about Jim. I know the doctors are doing all they  can. They will do their best. I wish he would have listened to his doctors. I am just as worried about YOU. This must be so hard for you. No car isn't helping. I am sure you would rather be there at these critical times. I am still praying for both of you!!  It will be better for you to be home. Your dog needs attention and you need sleep! I know you would be there if you could. I think Jim will be in the hospital awhile and maybe even a Care Center after that. You can't take care of him anymore and he can't take care of himself. A very sad situation. I am so sorry. 

PLEASE do try to get some rest...you will need it. I hope Jim does well during the night. Let us know if anything changes.

You know will be here if you need me. GOD BLESS! 

Love...Hugs....Prayers to you .....connie d

Arlene here. I don't post much here, but I do read. I am so so sorry that Jim is doing so poorly. I will keep him and yourself in my prayers. Bless you, dear Mary.