Saturday Greetings
I'm back.
Wow, what a busy, fun day I had yesterday. Lincoln had so much fun at the McDonald's playland. He played with two boys around his age. They got along like best friends. He got to talk to Uncle Chris on Facetime for a few minutes. He listened when it was time to go. He picked out a really complex Lego set at Toys R Us. He loved the Cootie game, and Mr. Potato Head I won at the Relay for Life, and the books and Hot Wheels I got. Frankie enjoyed playing with Mr. Potato Head when we got home. They all loved that Cootie, is a homophone of Mommy's maiden name Kuty. Grandpa, Uncles Chris and Sean all have that last name, and all got teased as kids, as did Mommy. I changed my name back to my maiden name after my divorce.
Today, I have to cut the grass, and blitz the house. My back finally feels better, after the shots on Thursday.
I need some advice on two things.
First, is my niece. When I went to her baby shower, I chipped in on a car seat with my sister and Colleen. I also made a baby blanket for her. Neither Colleen, nor I ever received a thank you note. Yet, my sister did. I finally got the courage to address it. I sent her an email, discussing it, but haven't received a reply. I discussed how they could have been lost in the mail, but the odds of two of them being lost at the same time are slim.
The other is a friend here. She has a mild intellectual disability, was raised in a dysfunctional family, is single, never married, lives with her aging mother, and only gets $700 a month on SSI. She's our age, and has only ever worked in childcare or as a nanny. Right now, she has no car, and often her Mom doesn't let her use her car to go to appointments. I take her to some, and we do things together, but often, I'm paying for her lunch and stuff like that. If something doesn't go her way, she responds childishly. Example, she asked if she could join Colleen and me when we go to the Detroit Zoo next week. I asked Colleen, and she didn't like the idea, for a variety of reasons. So, as soon as I told Diane we wouldn't be able to take her, she cancelled plans to go to a minor league baseball game that we discussed last week. She's done things like that before, and I do not take it personally, but am at the point where I desperately need an additional friend, because I'm lonely for a mature, rational friendship. Could you pray for me? Any ideas.
Thanks for listening.
Love yas,
Trish
Albert Schweitzer
Good afternoon Trish and every one.....
Trish...I am glad you and Lincoln had such a fun day!! The presents sure were a hit!!
I am glad your back is finally feeling better. Don't do too much today and get it hurting again.
As for the niece not sending all of you a thank you note...that was tacky!!! She obviously is still not mature enough to know better! I would just ignore it. Time has lapsed and she obviously doesn't care. How does Colleen feel about not getting a thank you? I guess I wouldn't go in on anything with anyone again. Especially if it involved this niece. I still say..Let It Go.
So sorry for your friend. She certainly lives a sad life and a difficult one as well. I would 't mention things you are doing around her at all. At least not if she can't be included. It just upsets her and then things get worse.
As for a friend...I have friends all over but no one close living around here anymore. I dissed my two so called best friends. I have no regrets!! You at lease have a car and can go places. Isn't there someone from your church that you could do things with? It doesn't need to be a best friend. You are always busy with this group or that...no one there? I think you need to reach out to others. There are many people out there needing a "friend". I right now am keeping to myself and I like it this way. Then my health plays a lot into that role! I text and talk to people all the time. It is what works for me. Good Luck...keep positive!! 
Have a good rest of the day!!
Much love and many hugs....connie d
Trish and Off-
Trish glad your grandson liked his birthday with you. He will cherish those memories in years to come. I still remember the times my grandparents spent with me.
As for the lack of a thank you. Don't know what to tell you. I have done several quilts for baby gifts and rarely get thank yous from the parents. Glad you communicated your displeasure in not receiving a thank you. I've gotten to the point where I just tell them that I want a picture of the child on the quilt as a thank you.
As for your friend who is upset, I simply do not know what to say. I am very intolerant of drama created by people these days. Perhaps the lesson learned from this is that you don't make commitments with her until you've checked with the other parties. Sad that we have to continue to do this in our "age" but it doesn't seem to get better as we become mature.
Realtor sent me an email that he will be showing the house this week sometime to a couple from NJ. So my weekend will be spent picking up and cleaning to make it show well. Hard to do when you have boxes all over the place but I'm trying to stack all the packed boxes in the little cabin and tool shed. Got to focus on the front porch today sweeping it and cleaning the pollen off of all the furniture. Tomorrow morning I'll get up early to mow the yard as the heat has finally arrived to Maine.
Thoughts to everyone who is having "issues" like Connie, Eileen and Vickie. Mine are mild in comparison to some of you on this forum. Hope everyone is enjoying their Saturday.
Cindi
Hello Cindi...I hope this showing id the ONE!!!!
When I had homes to sell I always baked some cookies and left some out for them to nibble. The house will smell great and they will enjoy the treats.....just a thought! Otherwise, I lit a few candles, similar scents, that smells good too. I love wild flowers and at times had a vase of those right where they entered the house. Those little things can mean a lot! Just don't have it over powering.
How much longer will you be there? I forgot when you are heading back to Texas.
Sending prayers, love and hugs....connie d
Hello Everyone!
Just sticking close to home today...my sinuses are driving me crazy!
Trish, I believe a few of us posted about the younger generation & their lack of etiquette these days... I have not received thank you's for wedding, shower, birthday & other gifts. Once in a while get one on FB which I don't feel is appropriate, but it is a new age. However, in your case ... she apparently did write thank you's, but you & your daughter were not acknowledged. That is strange. I think based on how close you are to this girl I would either let it go or ask again to see what kind of response you get. She may be embarrassed b/c somehow you were overlooked or she did not remember it was a joint gift from the 3 of you. She may feel it is too late to correct her mistake. Depends on her maturity level.I know it is frustrating when you take the time & energy to get someone a gift & you can't even get a thank you.
With the friend you say she has a minor intellectual disability & other issues as well. If this is new behavior I would question why it is occurring, but if she has always been like a child who is peeved when not included it is probably an ingrained personality trait. Have you tried discussing it with her? She almost reminds me of Jazz & how she reacts when Jim & I have plans of our own. She seems to feel she should always be included. But she is 14, and I know she has her own issues. This has come up less w/her over the years, but even at 8-10 yo she was receptive & understanding when I sat down to talk to her. It also helped her verbalize some feelings about why she felt 'left out.'Good luck.
I also have a low tolerance for drama...over the years there has been enough at my door. I had to really put my foot down about what I would allow in my own home. This extended to family & friends. Connie & Eileen were talking about the type men they attract...I have had ALOT of 'needy' girlfriends who were taking time away from my husband & family. Or just creating drama b/c they enjoyed living in it. I really have not had a close girlfriend since my best friend & sister in law died. I do see my sister & sister-in-laws frequently, but it is not the same. I miss female companionship w/women my age, but I'd rather miss it than resent the 'friend.' I know part of my food addiction was related to some of my relationships & I used food to relieve the stress. I just don't have the energy for BS anymore...
Vickie, I bet you are having so much fun shopping for the baby! Best therapy in the world! Enjoy!
Everyone have a great day!
Kathy
