Monday Monday

Good Morning OFF Family,

Be right back.  Coffee's ready.

I'm back.  It felt so good to be back in my own bed last night.  Things with Mom are as settled as they're going to be right now.  My sister, except for having a house and room for Mom, is basically useless when it comes to doing almost anything else for her.  I researched the legalities of the power of attorney for my aunt, which Mom has, and one for Mom, by calling lawyers.  Eileen looked up stuff on the Internet and argued with me about what I was trying to do for Mom, telling me I was wrong when I told her what the lawyers said.  Argh.

Mom needs to meet with a lawyer to draw up a power of attorney for herself, because the lawyer needs to see if she can understand the process herself.  Problem is, she is the power of attorney for her sister, in a nursing home with dementia.  Other problem is, my aunt doesn't have a secondary power of attorney, so someone needs to go to court to declare a guardian for my aunt, because of Mom's age.  The courthouse is two hours away from my sister's.

That's just one of the headaches I researched.  Then, there is the house Mom currently lives in.  I'll elaborate on that later.  My head is starting to spin, like it did the entire time I was home in PA.  Colleen asked me why I even came home with so much unresolved.  Basically, coz Mom and Eileen wouldn't get on board with anything I was trying to do.  Mom has to make the call to Legal Aid for her power of attorney, and she wasn't willing to do that.  My job was done, for now.  

Today, I have unpacking and cleaning to do.  Plus, my garden to weed.  I'm so grateful that Trent cut my grass while I was gone, given that I forgot to ask him.  I still have to cut it, but it would be worse if he hadn't.

I'm also going to a wrap up meeting for the Relay for Life tonight.

Hugs,

Trish

Hello Trish....Welcome back to OFF!!

I guess from what it sounds like you didn't accomplish much with your mom while you were gone. I am so sorry. I know you tried really hard. There isn't much you can do when there is such resistance from your sisters. I guess what I would do is tell them to handle it all themselves until they come to their senses. Once you aren't there maybe they will get the real picture of how it is. I feel so bad for you! 

Try to let go of it for now...you have done all you can do.

I am glad Trent mowed you lawn while you were away. It really could have been awful by now!! Be careful out there mowing in this heat.

Unpacking is my least favorite part of a trip. I do it right away but I don't really want to!! Too bad you couldn't of gotten your laundry done there before you left. 

Try to unwind today and remember to take care of you first!!

Enjoy your meeting tonight...it will be good to be with other people right now. If nothing else it will take your mind off other things.

Love you...hugs...connie d

Hello again Trish!!!

I forgot to include my post on yours today. Here I am all alone....LOL!!

So.. As for me... nothing much to report. Like a dummy I opened my windows this morning because it was only 68 degrees...YUP...I forgot to look at the humidity. It was 87%. I had the windows open for about twenty minutes and closed everything up again! In that length of time it went from 74 degrees in here to 84 degrees. I am on the south side of the building. The way the wind is blowing I was not getting any kind of breeze at all. I have my blinds almost completely down now!!

I am going to try to set up a ride to Target. My errand lady messed up on her schedule and has two of us at the same time Tuesday. I won't have her until Thursday instead. I don't mind at all. I just need to get out of here for awhile. If they can't fit me in for a ride today I will get one tomorrow.

I am excited for Saturday because my sweet Gracie will be here!! I got her Camp Nana 2015 shirt. She will love it!! I am trying to figure out some things for us to do. I thought we might take the bus to a movie on one day. I have some friends we may do a couple things with them. That week will go by quickly!! I have picked up a few fun things for her to do as well. Amanda and Tyler are meeting Jamie part way to pic up Gracie. They will bring her here and spend the night with us!! I sure have missed them too!! 

That is about it for me...I am feeling like I am dumping but that can't be. I just had a protein drink and bar for breakfast. Too tired to fix anything else! I best go lay down until it passes. My blood was tested not long ago and all was great...no diabetes either....I know some people do get theirs back...I hope I am not one of them. I have already had 50 ounces of water this morning. 

Prayers for all my sweet OFF Family and their family's as well. Special prayers for those in need.   I love you all!!

Hoping you have a good and beautiful day!! 

Much love and oodles of hugs to all....connie d 

Hi Connie,

I am sure you have a great week planned for Gracie.  I recommend the Minion movie.  I saw it with my sis-in-law and nephew, and had a blast.  

The only reason why I have laundry to do is because I got all my tank tops sweaty on the trip home, plus, my nice jean capris were also sweaty.  My house is a disaster, from all the stuff I brought in.

Must scoot.

Love ya.

Trish...that is the movie I was thinking about...I hope she hasn't seen it yet. The previews look funny!

The one thing about summer is that I can't wear clothes more then once. It never feels fresh enough for me. With my walking I am always too warm. Still washing clothes is easier when it is mostly tank tops and shorts. The loads are a lot smaller. It doesn't sound like you have too much laundry to do anyway. That is a good thing.

Love and hugs again....connie d

Connie, 

I was avtype 2 diabetic.  Now, no meds.  Yeah.  Now i jave to watch because i have all the classic symptoms of hypoglycemia.  If i have something sweet or to high in carbs, my blood sugar spikes, then crashes.... :~(. Anyway, now if want anything sweet, must do it with or shortly after protien. My PCP said it is not uncommon to have the shift from diabetes to hypoglycemia with extreem weight loss. 

Thank you Fran...I see my doctor in a few weeks and I will mention this. It makes sense to me!!

Love ya..hugs...connie d

Good Morning Trish & OFF family to follow!

Trish, glad to hear you made it home safely. Sorry to hear you ran into so many problems with your mom & sister. My sister, 3 brothers & myself ran into the same problem when my dad started having serious memory lapses. At that time my mom wound up having a 'medical' breakdown from years of caring for dad, and she was told by her doctor's she couldn't do it anymore. So we were faced with the care of both parents, and all of us had differing opinions about how to proceed. It eventually caused a 10 year rift...and my oldest brother has refused to have anything to do w/the 4 of us since then. He 'punished' 'us' by not attending mom's funeral or even being there when she was dying. HIS loss...

Anyhow, if I (we) had known then what we learned during both parent's process the legal and medical power of attorneys would have been updated and filed with all their doctors, hospitals, etc. My dad became so difficult as he progressed & we waited too long to get the power of attorney updated & out of my mom's name. He was living w/me by then & even though I was taking care of him, taking him to the doctors, hospitals & VA...they could not release info to me directly b/c of HIPPA. Ultimately this led to issues getting him placed in nursing care when we could not continue to care for him at home. Thankfully, I was eventually able to get things in order, but b/c the family was so divided by then I had the full responsibility of doing everything by myself. I was working FT & had 2 yr old Jasmyn...thank God Jim was able to 'manage' dad during the day w/help from the kids when they came over! I had to take FMLA to take care of so many things during that time, and I clearly remember the total physical & emotional exhaustion that was part of my life everyday for over a year.

So I hope you can get something worked out. I always considered our family close & on the same page until all this happened...

Jeannie, I knew I forgot someone last nite when I was responding to posts. Your trip sounded fabulous! My youngest lived in Montana for a couple years & went to the Grand Tetons. She always talks about them, Yellowstone & that part of the country & how much she loved it. Definitely on my bucket list!

We had planned to go to the beach today, but Jazz's mom is not feeling well so we will find something else to do. We have been having a heat wave since Saturday w/heat indexes over 100 degrees. The humidity is stifling!

Everyone have a great day! Will check in later!

Hello Kathy.....I understand both of you with this caring for parents stuff. I did it all for my mom. My brother did for my dad as I lived in Illinois at the time. It sure took a toll on me when it was all over!! My brother had help from the rest of the family. I had none...they thought they did their share with dad so I was alone with taking care of mom's care and financial business. Plus no one helped with the burial either! I could go on for hours!! As you Kathy...I no longer have anything to do with my so called family! 

Sorry you couldn't get to the beach today. That would have been so great on a day like today. I notice you always include Jazz's mom in most things you do with Jazz. I think that is really nice for Jazz. I am sure it really means a lot to her.  You are such a good person...caring and loving to everyone.

Have a good day together!!

Love you....HUGS....connie d