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Hi Ladies...ongoing notebook and tablet problems are driving me crazy.

Jim is not feeling well,..trouble breathing ánd not scheduled for tap until Monday.  Told me today he is afraid to ask doçtor what his prognosis is because he feels so poorly and expects bad news.  What's frustrating is he feels so sick it makes it hard to keep appointments for treatment añd tests too.  Can't walk, has to use wheelchair.  And blood draws àre miserable. I would like to get info from doctor, but have to respect Jim's wishes.

At the other end of the spectrum Maura called.,.took a hóme pregnancy test..... And she may be pregnant,,,.. But she has had false positives before.  Timing would not be great.....but what is meant to be will be.  I've been thinking about her having another baby because Taylor is five now and she'd be a great big sister.  Holding my breath ! 

So things are hectic.,..very emotional and I'm exhausted.  Jim is tired, and cranky, and scared, and I am too.  But I've got to do whatevèr I can to take care of him.  He gets depressed.  If I had more info ffrom doctor it would help.  Quality of life is important.  If prognosis is ñot good, then I say eat the pizza.  But if prognosis is hopeful, then it's put down the pizza and have some of this delicious salad.

Don't know how much sense this post made.,..bear with me!  I'm going to bed!

Mary

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Mary...for YOUR own peace of mind ASK the Dr WHAT is going on with Jim!!!!!!! If He won't ask because he is afraid...YOU CAN!!!!! YOU ARE HIS WIFE!!!!!!!!!! DO IT!!!!!!!! Maybe not in front of Jim but DO ASK!!!! If he is that miserable...TAKE HIM IN NOW!!!! DO NOT WAIT TIL MONDAY!!!!

Thoughts & Prayers....HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Mary: if Jim doesn't want to know his prognosis that is fine and needs to be respected, but as his spouse  you are entitled to know from doctors , out of Jim's hearing, what lies ahead so you can prepare for it. 

Knowledge about what to expect  will empower you, make you strong, and you need not share that knowledge with Jim if he doesn't want to know.  You are his caregiver and driver, you really need to know  as much as possible from the medical team. You can't live day by day like Jim does. Ignorance is not bliss in your case.

wishing you the courage to find out, ask those questions and get the answers you need to provide Jim with ongoing care....Vickie did and she was able to plan ahead,nhate drawing parallels here, as Jim not dying we hope, but he certainly may need more care than you can provide alone at some moment and you need to know in advance what to do.

hugs

jen