Sunday, Already.

Sweet Vickie,

I hope you are able to sit by Butch, and hold his hand as he passes.  But, know and believe that he is well aware of your presence and love no matter what.

Love you.

Nothing much more I can say except you're in my thoughts, Vickie. For some reason, Butch is hanging on. Something left unsaid or undone? Who knows. When my friend Gloria had cancer, she fought to keep going until her son graduated from grade school. After that, she knew she was terminal and she was ready to go. She died a month later. I saw her a couple weeks before that; she couldn't even stay out of her bed for very long. We had pizza over her hospital bed in the home. A few weeks later, she was gone. She won her fight; she had nothing left in her. Don't know what Butch is fighting for. 

Hang in there, Vickie. 

Good Morning Everyone!

Mary, I have gone thru those sleeping patterns & when I look back it was always when I was super stressed out. I am sure you are going thru it w/Jim. Be easy w/yourself...you also have a lot going on. Try to accomplish one of your LONG list of goals & then move to the next one. Exercise is good. I sleep better when I walk or swim, but then again other times I can't get to sleep b/c my body is so awake.

I don't  know if I ever mentioned how sad I feel for you about your husband passing? He really sounded like he was your soulmate! As much as Jim can annoy me I cannot imagine life w/out him. It is simply a way of life you cannot get back. I love the way you describe his ability to get things done around the house...even w/my Jim here & us getting older I often think of our earlier life when we did so much together before his amputation. My heart goes out to you.

Vickie, I agree to follow your intuition. I am sorry I cannot remember who mentioned Cheney-Stokes breathing in a post yesterday, but that is what my dad had about a day before passing. His doctor told me it was one of the signs of impending death. I know how you feel about being w/Butch as he passes. I missed BOTH of my parents. In both cases we left to take a break & that is when they went. My daughter was w/my dad. I remember being hysterical about missing him...I really felt I failed him. But my sister...who knew I was 'daddy's girl' told me something that brought me such comfort...she said he couldn't pass while I was there b/c he knew how hard it would be for me. So as much as I regret not being there I can comfort myself w/that. Should he slip away while you're in the bathroom, walking the halls or talking to someone away from his bed...that is the way it is meant to be...

I need to hop off to make Jim his father's day breakfast. Don't really have much planned for today. Just been swimming, keeping up the house, running errands & chilling.

Will check back later!

Hello Kathy....thanks for sharing about your wonderful relationship with Jim. I am so happy for you!! I have never had that in my life.I know because of Jim's amputation things aren't quite so easy but I know that kind of love is still there! 

I think it was a wonderful way for your sister to tell you about your dad's passing. It certainly could be true. That would have brought me comfort too. I am so sorry you missed being with both your parents at the end of their time. 

When my dad was dying I flew home to MN. At that time I was living way down in southern Illinois the Marion/ Carbondale area. I stayed in MN for almost two weeks. My dad just kept hanging on. My sister's insisted I go back home as it could be a long time yet. I flew back and went to work the next day. The phone rang and I answered it. All I heard was my crazy stepsister yelling in my ear "Dad is dead". I dropped the phone. I lost it...they called my husband to come and get me. I can still hear her saying that yet today. What an awful way to tell someone their dad died! I beat myself up for years because I listened to them and didn't stay at his side. I was daddy's girl too. My mom said, all he hung on for was to have me there. When he knew I was home safely he died. Same kind of thing...it did help me hearing my mom saying that. We all packed up and went to MN for another week. I didn't think I would ever get over his passing, not until my mom died. I was with her every day! That was the hardest time ever in my life. I miss her still today!

I hope you and your hubby have a wonderful Father's Day together!! 

Lots of love and bunches of hugs to you....connie d

Good morning Mary and everyone...

Mary...You sure have a busy week planned. I hope you get all the things you want to accomplish done. That will make you happy!

I hope you can get back in your sleep pattern. Interrupted sleep does make you more tired. We need our restful sleep!!!

Did Maura's boyfriend check out your mower? If I were you I would ask that nice neighbor if he had any thoughts as to what the problem could be. I would wait until tomorrow being that it is Father's Day today! He seemed nice and might have a suggestion for you to try. 

As for me..... I feel like my heart is in my throat...very choked up over the Butch and Vickie's situation and Butch's imminent passing. I couldn't sleep for anything last night. I just laid there and prayed. I feel bad that I didn't get out of bed and check the computer like I always do. I could have been on here chatting with Vickie. She has some very difficult days ahead. I hope that one of the girl's are there and Vickie could catch a quick nap. Although I don't think she will risk it. I just keep wrapping them in prayers and love. There is nothing else I can do right now. 

I will be checking in later. Have a beautiful day everyone.

Happy Father's Day to those here who have someone to celebrate with. 

Prayers for our amazing OFF Family and their families.

Loads of love and hugs to all...connie d 

Connie, Maura's boyfriend is going to check out the mower tonight, and if he can't get it going, he'll take it home and work on it.  I'm sure it's something very simple ... maybe an oil filter or air filter.  The darn think was running like a charm.  I've added gas plenty of times with no issue - the problem started after I added the oil.  I don't think anything is "broken".

Morning...I keep checking and can't add anything but I am Praying hard along with the rest of you...

HUGSSSSSS

That's all we can do Judy; we're all waiting for news.  

I guess all you sweet ladies have said it all, I get on the computer every day being afraid of the news. All we can do is pray for Vickie's precious family and hold them all close to our hearts.

Hugs,

Monique

I want to share about the Relay later, but will do it in a separate post later.  Right now, I'm letting everyone, especially Vickie, that I've been checking in regularly for updates, and praying.

Mary, I've been where you are, and can tell you if you do everything you listed in your goals, you will feel better overall.  Inactivity really messes with me in every aspect of my body.  Movement, reading, changes of scenery, will all contribute to a real change in your well being.

Hugs.