Richard

OMG! Please listen to what the other posters have told you to do. I am a lurker

but read everyday. I was afraid something would happen, I "been there, done

that". It all sounded so familiar, but I was married to the guy.

  Have your locks changed ASAP

  Get a restraining order 

  Make a Police report 

  Do not be alone with him ever again

  Have the Dr. take pictures of your injuries

That man is dangerous, never, ever trust him again!

Monique

Such great advice! Monique please join us on the chat thread too, whenever you'd like.  I'm pretty new to this group (as a poster) but everyone here treats me like family already.  So do join us :-)

and thank heavens you got out of your situation when you did! 

Do NOT let him in, even if he has someone with him.  Get the restraining order -- then, when he wants to get his things, you can have a police officer present.  Don't think it's too much of a bother, or you don't want to create a fuss.  Who knows who he would show up with.  It's tragic that this happened - but it could have been worse.  You must keep yourself safe Eileen.

  Wish we could be there to support you in person - we're all praying for you.

Eileen, I don't have the words to express how sorry I am this happened to you..

You have already received very good feedback I would encourage you to follow. You will need 'evidence' in case this ever happened again (God forbid) or even if it was a different kind of issue like him breaking into your apartment (under the delusion he had the right b/c he still had stuff there) or a random meeting on the street.

I didn't want to go into detail about my dad's dementia, but once any kind of brain changes take place (even a severe concussion) behavior changes usually follow. My dad was the most mellow, sweet guy in the world, but as things progressed he had 'episodes' where he would throw things, call the police saying there were ppl under every window in the house, and later that we were stealing his money and/or meds. A very kind police officer sat us down & told us he needed to be 'placed' b/c his paranoia was out of control & it would only escalate as he got sicker.

It sounds like Richard has more than his electrolytes out of balance, and it seems his behavior has been deteriorating VERY rapidly.

I wish you a speedy recovery from the physical assault, but I think the emotional trauma might be harder to overcome. Take care of yourself, Eileen and be vigilant the next dew weeks.

DITTO WHAT EVERYONE HAS SAID. I feel for you. Go get checked out.  Carla

Eileen...you NEED a POLICE REPORT!!!!! YES file charges on him!!!! IF he wants to come and get his things have the POLICE STAND BY WHILE HE COMES FOR THEM!!!!!!!!! And DITTO on what others have said!!! Thank GOD he didn't rape you or hurt you worse!!!! Go get taken care of!!!

Love you girlfriend!!! HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Eileen Sweetie,

I'm so sorry to hear what happened with Richard.  It sounds like he had an psychotic episode, whi*****luded some violence, and just proved he needs a more structured living environment.  I hate that you got hurt in the process.  I have worked with all types of psychiatric patients, and it can be scary if those dealing with psychosis or mania are not properly medicated.  I hope he's in a psych ward, or heading to one.   Whatever hospital he's in, there should be a social worker on staff that can find him a place to live, after a thorough psychiatric evaluation.  There are group homes, assisted living places, and nursing homes, depending on the level of care he needs.  I agree with getting a restraining order, documenting the bruises, and it's good that you sought medical attention.  Also, getting the locks changed, and insisting that the police accompany him when he gets his belongings.  

I hope you realize that you did a great thing in helping him while you did.  It's his mental illness, and nothing you did.  If he was psychotic, he may not even be aware of what he did.  

I love you, and pray things calm down for you.

Hugs,

Trish

I am so sorry to hear what happened to you at the hands of Richard.  I posted as arlene 0716.  PLEASE don't do nothing.  Please report him to the police, and get a restraining order as others have suggested.  He has mental illness that only a professional can handle.  Hope you take care of yourself. PLEASE don't shrug this off.  Sending love to you and I am so sorry for what happened to you.  You bent over backward trying to help this man.  He needs professional help.

Eileen,

If you haven't already done it, file a police report so that you can get a restraining order on him and so that the cops will know if they are called to your place, they will get there quickly.  I know you must have been terrified and I am so happy that he wasn't able to inflict any more pain on you than what he did.  I agree that you shouldn't let him in to your apartment under any cir****tances and when he does come to move his things, make sure there is a cop there.  If you think he has made copies of your car and apartment keys, get those changed immediately.   I am so so so sorry that this has happened to you and wish I were closer so you could come stay at my place  until you could get moved.   Even if his electrolytes were off, his attacking you was still under his control.  You have a huge heart and have done more for him than his own family so don't let him play on your kind heart....stand firm...and keep something near you all the time like a large stick or a ball bat or a huge knife...also, have a plan on how to get away from him should he come back...let your neighbors know...keep your car keys by your bed when you are in it and by your chair when you are there so that if he does come back, you can sound your car alarm to make enough noise to get attention....call your brother too.