Happy Thursday everyone....what's new today?
Thanks Connie, going to bed early, have to do grocery shop tomorrow for dinner guests Saturday, but if dont feel good Saturday will use credit card and take guests out to dinner...she is bringing dessert, so we be home for that, and I'll make coffee/tea and hope they dont stay...
When tired like this, dont want anyone around me!
jennifer
Connie: We have a summer fireworks festival over 2 weeks, and because had not invited anyone 'coz depressed since this time last summer and my cancer diagnosis, when I felt better this year around June, decided to invite friends in ones and twos to see fireworks over the five days/two weeks in August. So that's the background, have invited everyone so far ( 2 times) and dragged them to a restaurant and back in time here for fireworks from my balcony, superb view.
so still wanting people to come, and although these particular friends ( she from high school days) have never understood my aversion to desserts, sinçe they never get one here, always offers to bring a "light dessert", and she loads me at Xmas with cookies and Xmas baking....I give it all away'!
So will have them here, but take them out for dinner and we watch fireworks, then I give coffee and tea, with the dessert they eat, and then will toss them out. They know I have had gastric bypass and sweets make me sick, and breast cancer and have told them over and over that cancer feeds off sugar, but some people think their desserts can't harm.
I have to be tolerant as they mean well, and believe a meal is not complete without dessert. Before in a restaurant, when I was full and they opted for dessert, they tried to ply me with a huge dessert platter of cheeses as I turned down a sweet..they really dont understand my WLS surgery or cancer! Dessert is sacred to some people.
thanks for letting me vent here!
jennifer
Jennifer...you can vent to me anytime!!
I just don't want you to do more then you have to. You don't want to feel worse then you do already.
I do understand how people just don't get what having WLS involves. I get sick if I eat too much sugar. I have to be very cautious. My friend brought me brownies yesterday. She gave me three, fresh from the oven and frosted. I gave two away immediately. I ate the smallest one by fourths. Little nibbles here and there. I finished the last quarter throughout the morning. I actually felt kind of yuck most of the afternoon. It was very yummy though!!!
I am sure you have other problems relating to the cancer. Eating can't be the most enjoyable time for you.
The fireworks and such does sound really fun....I hope you feel well enough to enjoy it too.
I think of you so often and pray you will be getting better soon.
Have a nice evening....I am heading to bed.
Love and many hugs....connie d
Hi Jennifer,
I totally understand your desire to invite friends during fireworks week. An alternative to eating out, or cooking, is to order take out to bring in. Most big chain restaurants do carry out, where you can stay in and relax while you eat, but still eat a nice restaurant meal. Plus, there's also Chinese take out. That's what I have Colleen do when she asks me where I want to eat for my birthday. Taking a 7. 5. and 2 year old to a nice restaurant is expensive, and a waste. They only get chicken fingers, or mac and cheese, and fries, and it costs a fortune. Plus, it's inevitable one of them will misbehave, and that stresses their parents out big time. It's much easier to just do take out. Plus, for Colleen, take out Chinese is much cheaper on their budget. Just a suggestion.
As for dessert, some people don't get it, no matter the reason. My Mom and sister sure don't. They never understood, and never will. My sister had lap band surgery ages ago. Kept eating dessert, and drinking vitamin water, which has sugar, and also has never exercised, except for the ocassional "walk" with the dogs, which are tiny little things, and in human reality it's more of a stroll. My dog pulls me halfway, to stop, sniff, and pee at every opportunity. Then, I walk in the middle of the street, and we go at a clip. I've walked every dog I ever owned that way. First half, sniff and pee pace. Second half, middle of the street, so they can't smell the other dogs' scents.
As for dessert while at a restaurant, I always order a decaf coffee, and if, and only if, the dessert has certain ingredients, I might take a tiny bite for a small taste. Since it's after I ate my supper, it doesn't hurt, coz the meal gets metabolized along with the bit of sugar I taste. But, I don't have cancer, and the only one in my family tree that ever had it was my 77 year old grandfather, who smoked lke a chimney his whole life, and lung cancer got him. No surprise in that one. My family's medical history is heart attacks, and pulmonary emboli. Which, only in recent years, were caused by a genetic clotting disorder. Since it's only been since the 90's that doctors have been able to test for that clotting disorder, those heart attacks may very well have been caused by pulmonary emboli. My two brothers died from them. My sis and I have survived ours. Mom, who has it, never had them in her lungs, but have had clots in her legs. Sadly, all her brothers, and my Dad, were never autopsied.
Hang in there. I hope you feel better soon. Don't know if you can take any anti-nausea meds, but when I was getting sick before my gall bladder surgery, my doc gave me Zofran for the nausea. Helped me get through last summer.
Hugs,
Trish
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Thanks Trish for advice on getting takeout delivery.
This Saturday doing cheese raclette, actually a winter meal with boiled baby potatoes and molten cheese, with some cold cuts, so not much prep as you put the grill to melt the cheese as a centrepiece on the table. I eat little of it as drops like lead into my pouchie. Everyone serves themselves and are too busy to notice how little I eat.
My nausea doesn't happen when around food, but about half an hour or more after eating. Could be related to IBS, or not. Sometimes also when drinking my water during the day. Weird huh? Do also have a gallstone over an inch in size picked up during breast MRI presurgery last year, have been asymptomatic so far so no rush to remove gallbladder until this breast cancer is resolved. Maybe the gallbladder stone is starting to let me know it wants out, no pain yet touch wood. Spoke about it to surgeon who did my cancer surgery as he also does gallbladders, and he said would order ultrasound when my breast surgery scar tissue and inflammation from radiation settled down, still hasnt.
Again thanks for the food delivery advice, will do it next week for the next fireworks evening.
jennifer
