Friday in Michigan

Good Morning OFF Family,

I'm up early, for a change.  I have another busy day ahead of me.  I have to get to work cleaning this disaster of a house.  I'm also babysitting Frankie this morning.  Love that guy.  He and I are best buds.  Also his brother and sister are too.  

We're going to have a heat wave today.  The temps are going above freezing, for a change.  

Thinking and praying for everyone.  

Love and Hugs,

Trish

Good morning Trish and everyone......

Trish...... I do know how much you love your grandchildren and enjoy spending time with them. They are a blessing for sure!

Later I need to run to the grocery store for a few sale items and things. I sure have an exciting life!!

I need to do a little dusting today. I will also wipe down the bathroom. I clean as I go along with cooking and such. I am a bit of a perfectionist that way. I like things in place, clean, and organized. My mama taught me that. My daughters are the same way. When the children were little of course they had toys around and such. Before bed we always put things away together. Oh well....works for me! I live alone now so it makes things so much easier.

My ex boyfriend stopped by this morning. He owed me money and finally paid me back. I won't loan to him again. My money is tight. It took him 2 months to pay me back! I could have used that money for my move and Christmas. MEN!!!!!! 

Wishing you all a wonderful day! Prayers for so many of our OFF friends in need. 

Love and oodles of hugs for all......connie d

Good morning Trish and Connie and all my OFF sistas!

Trish, we are having a heat wave too.  It's going to be in the 70's today and headed toward the 80's over the weekend.  Whoop!  Now this is what winter in South Texas is supposed to feel like!  Enjoy your time with Franklin today.  I read your post from yesterday and I was just plum' exhausted!  How do you do all of that?  Especially when you don't feel well?  You're like wonder woman.

Connie, I know you love your place.  I know it is just right for you!  But I have to say this--why on earth would anyone in their right mind ask YOU for money?  You have such limited income as it is.  That was really thoughtless (or maybe manipulative) of him!  I don't think much of this ex-boyfriend of yours!  He should have known better.  Surely there was someone else he could have asked for a loan.  And you, sweetheart, should have said NO.  I'll bet he figured you for an easy touch.  Grrrr.  I don't like him doing that to you.

Have to remember to post this as well:  our sweet sista Annette is in the hospital and not doing well at all.  Her granddaughter posted on FB this morning asking for prayers for her.  Not sure what the details are, but please pray for her today.

I had a lousy night last night.  The doctor told me I had to come off the pain pills.  She did give me one more Rx for them (Tylenol III), but I know she won't give me another one.  Well, I really like the Tylenol III.  It's the first pain pill I've tried since WLS that actually works for me.  So I want to hang on to as many of these pills in this last bottle as I can for future use.  Anyway, last night, for the first time in over a month, I tried to go to sleep without taking a pain pill.  I wasn't really hurting, but I did want to "relax", you know?  OMG.  I like to have never gone to sleep.  And I tossed and turned and woke up constantly all night long.  I guess maybe I was a bit more dependent on them than I realized.  I have never been dependent on any kind of a pill before, and I sure don't want to be now, but gee.  I'm determined to get off of them for sure now. 

However, today is my weekly visit to the wound care center, and I will have to take a pain pill right before I go there today.  I hope they don't hurt me today.  After my visit to Dr. Reddy last Tuesday, and being sore as heck all week, I'm really not looking forward to today's debridement at all.  Plus they're going to mess with that lump under my skin today, and I know that's going to hurt.  Ugh. 

So, yesterday we got all revved up about a potential rent house for the kids that came on the market.  Chris had the day off, so she called a Realtor and we tried to go see it, but it just never worked out.  I don't really understand a lot about foreclosures and short sales, etc, but apparently this particular house is now going to be auctioned off.  I have no interest in getting involved in an auction!  You can't even go see the house ahead of time.  It's like buying a pig in the poke.  You just buy it "as is" and let the buyer beware.  No thank you.

But Butch and I are beyond ready to get the kids moved out of here.  Everything Christie does gets on our nerves and visa versa.  Someone is always crying or upset here and I've just about reached the end of my rope.  Butch has too (and might I point out that he's hardly had to deal with it at all!  I've been the one living here with this mess full time for almost 2 years now!)  So we may start doing a tentative search next week.  We really won't have the cash money until the end of this month, but I think it's close enough now to start looking in earnest for a rent property.  Please say a little prayer for us to be successful in finding something that we're comfortable investing in and the kids will be comfortable living in!

Chris overslept this morning, so Butch has gone to take both babies to daycare.  I swear, I don't know how he's going to manage that on his own with his crippled up foot.  It's too much for him, but he won't admit it.  Damn Christie anyway.  She has no idea how much she imposes on us.  I offered to try and go with him.  I thought I could at least walk Benny in to his classroom, but he wouldn't let me.  Insisted I stay home and rest.  HE needs to be the one staying home and resting!  I am so irritated with my daughter!  I have to get over it.  We still have to live together for weeks, maybe months.  I have to find a way to pull it back together again.

Well, my post turned into a gripe-fest and I didn't intend for it to be that way.  I truly hope everyone is doing well and y'all are all happy that it's FRIDAY!  Love you all!

Hello Vickie....Tony should never have borrowed from me.  Worse yet I shouldn't have given in to him. Other times he has paid me back when he said he would. When I found out he was bar hopping last weekend and said he couldn't pay me I blew up!!! Every week has been another excuse. I knew he got paid today and I made him come over right from the bank at 8:30 this morning. I told him to back off as I wasn't interested in dealing with him right now. Maybe not ever!! He was worried when he left!!

I am so happy your appointment went so well today!!! That is really awesome!!! Answered prayers again!! 

I guess you are still being too nice to your daughter, Chris. How the heck can she sleep in with 2 children to care for??? I would give her a date to move  out. I would pay her first month's rent and deposit. I would have her sign a form saying this is all she will receive. She expects way to much from you. She has stepped way too far over that line too many times. You and Butch are not her slaves at her beck and call!! March 1st sounds like a good date!! Plenty of time to get an apartment. This is not asking too much. Tough Love....it must be done!! Sorry...I went to tough love classes...I know how this works....first hand!!  Mike will be paying for 1/2 the rent....not a big deal. Lots of kids are out there with even less. They will find their way. Let them be adults sweetie!! I love YOU!!! 

Love always....HUGS....connie d

Well Connie and Vickie, thank goodness we can vent here!!  Why do we let people take advantage of us?  I'm willing to help people out when they really need it.  But, sadly, there are people who take advantage of our good, kind natures.  Borrowing money, taking over our homes, etc.  They have other options, but know we are softies.  I guess we all need to put our needs first.  But it's not easy.  I try to reflect on why I'm such a push-over.  I was in therapy before, but never resolved any major issues.  I mean, I had a wonderful childhood, a good and loving family.  Maybe it's our weight - it made us feel inferior.  I've read many threads here about people who have finally stood up for themselves, having gained confidence.  I know surgery won't fix all our problems, but it will sure put us in a better position to live better.  

I shocked my SO yesterday.  On the way back from my appointment, I stopped by the bank and applied for a small loan - looks like it will be approved - just have to come up with some paperwork.  

On another note - Debbie, I looked at your quilt pictures.  They are beautiful.  It reminded me of my grandmother.  She had an accident once and was on her back in a nursing home for several months.  One of the nurses taught her how to crochet afgans.  Well, after that you never saw her without her crochet hooks and her skeins of wool, always working on an afghan.  If you got engaged, or got pregnant, or had a birthday, or moved, you could always expect an afghan.  We had dozens of them - all beautiful.  We often joked that when she passed, we would put a crochet hook and some wool in the coffin with her, along with her walking stick.  And her son did just that. 

Had my stress test/echocardiogram (not sure of exact title of this test)  this morning - will probably get results Monday.  This is the only test that worries me due to my past history -- so hope you all will say a prayer that it works out okay.  Nurse said if I had a build-up of blood like I did before, I'd just have to get it cleared again and then I'd be okay for surgery.  I'm hoping it was just a general statement, and not something she said because she saw something during the test.  Why did I allow myself to get so unhealthy?  Why didn't I act sooner.  I kick myself in the a$$ !

Sorry for being so long-winded AGAIN -- you kind ladies are my lifesavers, nowhere else to vent.  Don't get sick of me!!  Bless you all.

Hi Trish and my OFF family:

Just a quick hello ... not much going on here anyway. It's gray and gloomy but 47 degrees. 

Vickie, take care of yourself. Your daughter needs to take charge of her family. You and Butch are doing way too much for her. Time to cut the cord.

Connie, glad to see you are enjoying your new home so much. 

Trish, you enjoy your grandchildren. I saw this t-shirt on FB connected with Downton Abbey: "It's the job of grandmothers to interfere." Thought it was funny ... I love Downton Abbey.

Well, have a good day. Not much happening to me, just work tonight.