New Year's Resolutions

Hello Jeanne and sistas!

Well, my first and foremost resolution is to simply get well again.  Looking at about a 2 month recovery time for this wound in my belly.  So my job is to rest, eat plenty of protein, and continue practicing very careful wound care for Jan and Feb.

After that (although right now my brain cannot conceive of after), we need to get Chris and the boys moved out of here and into a place of their own.  Butch and I just desperately need our home back, just the two of us. We are exhausted from all these surgeries and taking care of the boys on top of that is just waaay too much.  Even though Chris has arranged for Budder to go into day care starting next week, we still have all the evenings to get through.  It's just more than we can handle right now.

And our last, joint, resolution is to finally travel a bit.  We've been waiting all our lives to do this.  We bought the RV last summer.  So far we've taken one little trip to the Frio River in it and that was with Benny.  I've waited 33 years to have some quality time alone with my husband.  If we don't go now, while we still have our "relative" good health, I'm afraid we never will. 

As for the usual stuff--exercise, weight loss, better eating--it's all there, but I'm not making it my main focus this year.  My main focus, for once, is on myself and my recuperation.  I can't take care of anyone else right now.  It's hard to let that go, but I'm doing it.  I feel lucky to be alive at this point.  I feel blessed to actually be recovering.  And I will do what I must to regain my health.

Wishes for a happy and healthy and prosperous New Year 2014 to you all!

Vickie,

You are like me; our daughters have clipped our wings.   I had to finally say enough and as hard as it was, it has been good for both of us.   Getting your health back is your top priority and it looks like you are on the road to recovery.   You are right about getting your house back.   Whenever one of our kids have moved back in, my husband and I go nuts.   It is worth it to just buy them something and make sure they pay some of the payments.   

The travel will do you both good.   I cannot wait to hear about the places you visit.   

Trust me when I say this, when you and your husband can resume the title of grandparents and not caregivers, your relationship with your little ones will be so much  more precious.   At our age, we are not meant to take care of little babies or toddlers.  Our bodies and brains are just not up to it...so when we are put into that position, stress does mount up and those babies can feel it.   When you get the daughter and her family moved out and you go back to seeing the little ones when it is best for you and your husband, the kids will so enjoy those visits.    

Good luck on achieving your health, your home, and your travels.