Oh. My. God.
Vickie,
I know how you are feeling because my daughter has ended up pregnant and not told anyone until I came right out and asked her. With my granddaughter, she didn't even get prenatal care until a month before our granddaughter arrived and she moved in with us before and stayed with us after...now we support her.
Like you, I held my breath and my tongue, walking around on eggshells. Also, like you, I knew that any support (monetary, emotional, or physical) came from us and not the baby daddy...so our feelings about the new baby were mixed...of course babies are bundles of joy and a sign of our continuing on but you are probably thinking about your having raised your kids and now...
I wish you so much peace as you go through the anger and guilt and surprise and happiness dealing with the news. There is nothing like a new baby to make us face our mortality and make us realize that all we have and are is never truly ours...it's theirs.
Good luck and if you need a texting buddy to just vent...message me your number and I will add you to my text list and you can text away and I can say, I know what you mean.
In the meantime..congratulations...Benny Boy will be so happy to have a play mate.
Vickie-
WOW you blew my mind when I read this. I will keep you and your future grandchild in my thoughts. My grandmother was bi-polar but I never experienced the dragon. My dear friend has a daughter with the illness along with alcoholism and drug addiction.
I would strongly encourage you to go with Butch on the camping trip. You need time alone to get your heads together. Also while a shock it's not all about Christie. Whomever suggested getting her tubes tied has a good idea. I know that sounds harsh but the reality is that she's not responsible and this could happen again. Also I wouldn't be actively planning the nursery setup, in my opinion that enables this behavior. Leave for the weekend, go camping and let her make a list of what she thinks she needs for the baby.
Okay that's my final opinion statement and I'm switching to support for you my friend. Skip the brownies have a glass of wine. You'll be in my thoughts my friend.
Cindi
