Old vs New Compromise?

I have been reading the posts the past couple days with interest.    I have been around for almost 8 years.  I enjoyed and got a lot of support our of the old style  forum.  made some friends though I wasn't the most prolific  poster I was around.  I learned a lot.   i Miss so many of the old friends who no longer are here.

I also enjoy the new column just being friendly  getting to know each other and being there .  

Why not have both  threads?   there is definately room for both. then we can participate in what ever we want  to participate in and leave the rest. that's what we did before   I can remember that sometimes there were several different posts a day,

I am glad Jeannie started this.   Jeanie and I  have had a difference of opinion a couple of times.  and that's what it was   a difference of opinion.  We simply have different ideas or beliefs about things.    I don't believe she was  whining  I believe she was stating her opinion.  isnt that what this board is all about? 

Good morning Jo!

I love your attitude this morning.  I agree with you.  Having 2 or more daily threads is a great compromise.  I have no problem with that.

I love this forum and I don't like it when there is tension here.  That said, I would like to point out that we rarely have any tension here, except when someone gets on here and stirs the pot.  This happens periodically, and when it does, we always lose new members who think this board is just like all the others--full of drama and pettiness.

My objection isn't to having multiple daily threads.  My objection is being lectured to.  I'm rather tired of hearing about the glory days of the "old timers" and the glaring inadequacies of the "newcomers".  If someone is unhappy with the current forum, I repeat: they have a couple of options.  They can start posting the daily threads that they feel are important and relevant (without lecturing the rest of us on our shortcomings), or they can start a new forum and run it the way it suits them.  Or they can just shut the hell up.  Really.

 

New thought here!!!

My whole idea of starting a new thread was compromise not to keep stirring the same old pot!!!

Oh, no, Jo!  I didn't think you were stirring the pot!  Never meant for you to read it that way.  I like your idea of compromise.  I think it's a good one.

I didn't take it the wrong way Jo honest I didn't!!!

HUGSSSSSSSS

I beleive you judy  I knowq you didnt

Ladies-

I don't see anything wrong with two threads.  In fact if I recall when I first joined there were two threads.  One was posts about mindful eating and another generally friendly sharing concern.    What's wrong with two threads.

Cindi

Hey Cindi
Yes, a long time ago we had a couple of threads that were widely different. One of them was a " what are you eating"thread started by a lively lady who isn't longer here. After Linda left, personal reasons, not related to the board, I picked it up and started doing. After a couple of months the replies started to dwindle, but I forged on, sometimes I'd be the only one who apparently ate...lol. Then, life became busier and I felt that there wasn't any point in continuing if no one else wanted or needed the accountability, so I quit doing it. Over the years I tried to start it up again to no avail.
The other thread is what we have today, a what's up where or daily lives were discussed.
Through this board some of us have made life long friends whom many of us have traveled across the country to meet. Those of you who are current members have probably formed the same type of relationships, but in both instances, the commonality has been WLS.

I am nearly seven years post op and have had many, many ups and downs. Last year I gained 11lbs in 5 weeks. No one had an explanation for me except my Gastro who told me that nearly every patient she has seen who has had WLS most of them experienced the same thing because our bodies adjust to the newly routed intestines.
My point of this is that I don't think that there are many here who are as far out as Jeannie, Laureen, Annette, Karen, Connie and I. We have had experiences that newer people haven't had because they are too new to have had it happen to them. They say things like "she must not be following the rules" or "that will never happen to ME".
Well, I can tell you exactly what I ate for breakfast 4years ago yesterday, 5 years ago today, because I do follow the rules and it did happen to me!
But...when one of us " old timers" comes here and offers suggestions, or just life's lessons, we're criticized or ignored. Doesn't take too many knocks on the head to make a person stop doing what caused the knocks to happen, ya know. So...we go off the board because we don't feel our suggestions or opinions are welcome. When we try to step a toe into the water, an alligator bites it off, so off we go again.
I'm not trying to stir the pot, start a fight, ask for an apology just offering my 2cents worth, which is about all it is worth.

Susan what did your Gastro doctor suggest you do?  I have heard this before about the body adjusting to the re-routed intestines.

In essence what she said is pretty scary. She explained that the avioli in the new section of the rerouted intestines grow in size to absorb what the body should be absorbing, essentially returning to the size they were before surgery. This isn't the actual explanation, ind you, but what I understood.
So, after about three years, this is about when it begins to happen, we have to then wrap our heads around that the honeymoon is over, and have to use the tools we learned from when we first had surgery to live up lives the way anyone else does....eat sensibly and move more.
Yes, we will still have malabsorption of vitamins and minerals, and yes, we might dump, but the days where we only absorb a percentage of what we eat are pretty much gone and its up to us to monitor our intake.
I have yearly appointments with a nutritionist where she assesses my resting metabolic rate and determines how many calories I need to maintain my weight. To maintain my 140#, it's 1300 calls a day.

An observation: as a Bariatric Support Post Op leader, we see a significant drop in membership of people when they reach about the 18 month point. Instead of staying around and getting the help they might need because they are starting to struggle, they quit coming because they are embarrassed and think they're a failure. This is exactly when they need us the most. And also the same thing that I have seen happen here year after year. If they don't get the help they need, they give up.