Sunday Morning

Good Morning,
I am so sick of Mom it's not funny. She compares the way my kids treat me to how I treat her. She's oblivious to her behavior. I had to work hard to earn my kid's respect and trust. I used to act just like Mom, but I changed. I admitted to my kids I was wrong and took responsibility for everything I'd done in their childhoods. My older son once told me if I had not done that, he and my daughter would not be in my life. That means I wouldn't know my grandchildren. I've worked hard at my relationship with my kids. Mom has no clue what she has done. She truly believes she deserves respect and to be treated the way my kids treat me simply because she's my Mom.

Anywho. I hope to go to an AA meeting this afternoon. It's an anniversary meeting where they give out coins to people who celebrated an AA anniversary in January. I wasn't able to attend last year because of the surgery on my leg. I intend to go this year.

Have a blessed day.

Hugs,
Trish

Trish...HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS My goodness!!! HOW can your mother be so mean? I know maybe she was treated like that by her mother? I don't know for sure but its possible. I am so sad for you! Hope you get to that AA meeting today so you can get your coin!! CONGRATS!!!

So far the sun is out BUT we are supposed to get some freezing rain about 6 pm tonight and then turn to rain all night and all day tomorrow. Just great!!! The plow guy DID come back and clean up that sidewalk!!! And NO calls about it being blocked!!!  WOW!!!

Yesterday we took off for about 5 hours just to get away from things here. We also went out for supper at Applebee's. We had the steak. It was COLD and so were the potatoes. Waitress asked how everything was and I told her sort of cold. She asked if we wanted it warmed up. No. How about new food. No we need to get back home. OK she would mention it to the manager then. Fine. He came over to us and asked us again what she just did. He then offered to take half off our bill. OK. Seems no matter which Applebee's we go to either the food or the service stinks. We had a gift card for the place and so it wasn't our choice. Nothing like a cold steak...yuck!

Bought the yarn for the afghan and got started on it last night. Be nice working on it and keeping warm at the same time once it starts getting large haha.

I see the temp is going up...was 10* when I turned my pc on and its now 18* wow!! Heat wave!!

Bandit wants to go potty walk so need to get my clothes on and get him outside.

Thoughts and Prayers for ALL that need them!!

HUGSSSSSSSSS

Morning,

Trish, I applaud you!!! To step up and take responsibilities in your own hands and change things is very difficult. When you talk about your mom I sometimes feel your talking about my mom. She's been gone for 25 years but I still act like her sometimes and I know how hard it is to change. It's a great day when as people we can realize that we are responsible for our own actions and take those steps to change.  Good for you! Hang in there hopefully this is almost over.

Wow, Steve took Krissy and  I out to dinner last night. We never go out. To be taken out for lunch on Friday and dinner last night was such a treat. It's so darn expensive to eat out if your not eating fast food. Getting ready to put a pot of Jambalaya in the crock pot...new recipe it has over a 1000 reviews that are positive, I'm making rice on the side for the family and I'll make Quinoa for me. Hope it turns out. 

Have a great Sunday, God Bless

Debbie

Hello sweet sistas!

I feel like I've been on the phone all day.  Spent an hour on the phone with Butch (which was great!) and then Mom called, and I spent another hour on the phone with her.  My ear is sore!  LOL!

Trish, I can only imagine your frustration in dealing with your mom.  Hang in there, hon.  You know you'll be getting away soon.  The end is in sight now.  Don't give up.  You know, my mom was a great mother, but HER mom was a nightmare.  Mama told me one time that you either turn out just like your parent, or you go the other way.  That can be good or bad.  I was blessed that it was good for me.  Motherhood is a hard, hard gig.  It's so easy to draw on the example you were given.  Good for you for breaking the cycle!  I always find so much to admire in you.

I made good progress on my "great house project" yesterday.  I got the entry hall all clear out--FINALLY.  I got Benny's toy boxes and toys all organized in the bottom of his closet.  I'm down to just a couple more "problem" areas to deal with.  I think I can . . . I think I can . . . !

Today I plan to make a run to the storage building with a few more boxes, IF I can get Christie to help me.  They're her boxes, but they're too heavy for me to manage on my own.  Then I will have ALL of Christie's crap out of the house!  Hurray! 

I started a new baby afghan last night and I just love it!  It's a pineapple filigree stitch in sport weight yarn.  I've never made one like this before and it's just lovely.  So I've made a worsted weight blanket and now I'm making a sport weight blanket for my friend who's having her first baby in her 40's.  I also bought some flannel to make her a couple of receiving blankets.  I guess I'm worried her baby is going to be cold!  LOL!

Anyway, I plan to sit and stitch most of today.  Chris is home to mind the baby, so I have the day off.  Thank goodness!

Love you all!

P.S.  I forgot to tell you about my cold sore.  I didn't have any medicine here for it yesterday, but I did have some Mentholatum.  I put Mentholatum on it continually all day yesterday and today it is GONE!  How 'bout that!?

Good afternoon  Trish and everyone....

Trish.....I am just so proud of you for so many reasons. Keep one foot in front of the other....you can do it!!!  Enjoy your meeting today!

Vickie......can you bottle up some of that energy and send it to me.....PLEASE!!!

Judy......hang in there friend.....you are fighting lots of battles!

Debbie....WOW...two meals out....you are special...at least that is my opinion!!!!

I am waiting for my grandson Nic to get here. He is going to put my luggage back up on the garage shelf. He is great with cars and I want him to listen for a noise I am hearing. Then he is going out to my storage unit and unload all the things of Pam's mom's from my trunk!!  It will be good to have an empty trunk again!!

Wishing you all a wonderful day!!  Prayers for many in need.

Love and hugs to all....connie d

Hi Trish and my OFF family:

Trish, so sorry your mom is so mean ... you have done well to earn your kids' respect. Moms have to earn respect, they don't get love just because they're moms. I love my mom but sometimes she can try my patience. 

Like now ... my brother says Mom is not progressing in her rehab after the pelvic fracture and elbow fracture. She won't do anything for herself. I think we're looking at nursing home if she refuses to do her therapy. The 24/7 caregivers are doing everything for her ... she won't get up by herself or feed herself. 

Last night was a long one at work ... I had to do the local late shift, so I had to hang around and wait for papers. Didn't get out til 12:45 a.m. and didn't get home til 1 a.m. I was pretty tired. Hopefully, tonight will be an earlier night.

Hope everyone is good. I forgot who posted. Have a good day.

Trish I can feel for you.  My Mom is nuts.  I spent lots of time in therapy trying to get over her and my childhood.  I had come to a livable terms about her.  Than she did something unforgivable.  Back to therapy I went.  The Therapist agreed that I may just need to let go altogether for me.  I am no longer in her life.

Take care and a big hug.

Hi Sistahs,

I flew to Denver yesterday for my friends 60th birthday. made for a very ling day. 7 hours of travel. An afternooon of visiting and eating and what not. then I spent the night with a friend. 

Im here till Wednesday. 

I wish I had my mom. I lost her when I was ten. But i can empathise with you guys cause my stepmother was a witch from hell! I couldnt get aliong with her most of the time! I think she was bipolar and didnt know what medicine was in those days! she was up and down in her mood all the time!

I am seeing my surgeon here on Tuesday cause I think i blew out the hernia I  had fixed in September!  so my dr at home wants him to check it out!

Talk to you later.

Carla

 

 

Trish, I am so sorry that you are being so hurt by your mom’s behavior. I have been there and done that and even bought the t-shirt!

 

It is obvious that your Mom has mental/emotional issues. The best thing that YOU can do is to make a big effort to understand that it is her ILLNESS that is speaking and that it is NOT the truth.  You know yourself and you know how hard you have worked to “make things right” between your children and yourself. That must have been difficult but that shows great courage, Trish, KUDOS TO YOU!

 

Obviously, your Mom is not capable of doing so.

 

Picture putting a mirrored wall around you when she speaks unkindly…visualize her words bouncing onto the mirror and away, off the side …never piercing the mirror into your spirit.  Stay strong, this too shall pass. *gentle loving hugs*

 

Now I feel nudged to post something but I want you to understand that I am not trying to hurt anyone….I will post that tonight(morning)..it’s about positive thinking and other issues so I beg you to not take it personally…it is just my perspective. You do not need to "OWN" her words.

*sending loving healing energy and prayers*

 

Nancy B