Tuesday What's Happening?
Vickie....can't Chris get public housing and help from the county? Sounds like you are really going through a rough time. I remember the year I went through!!! Loved being with my grandchildren but couldn't do it anymore.
I continue to keep all of you in my prayers. I am so glad your hubby and you can have little getaways. Time to relax and re-group!!
Love and hugs....connie d
I continue to keep all of you in my prayers. I am so glad your hubby and you can have little getaways. Time to relax and re-group!!
Love and hugs....connie d
Good Morning Trish, Nancy, Vrinda, Vickie & Those who've yet to arrive. . .
Trish I am really hoping that your son gets it this time. For years, when I lived in NYC, I went to NA and that's where my recovery process began and one of the readings state, "that alcohol is a drug, that we are people who suffer from the disease of addiction, who must abstain from all drugs in order to recover. . ." However, what I can say is that while I accepted that concept, I never saw my drinking as being the issue since it was another substance that brought me to my knees, but years later, after receiving many of the gifts living a life based in the 12 steps brings, moving 90 miles from all I knew, finding fault with the fellowship of NA in my local area, eventually thinking I could get by on knowledge alone, because in AA back in the days when I got sober, they did not want us "addicts" in their meetings and would tell us to shut up and we don't want to hear about that **** here, plus I remember some older men talking about taking sleeping pills in a meeting one day and thinking, they don't have a clue. . . I was not well (lol), so I did not think I could fit in AA meetings here in my current environment, anyway, two years later, the thought occurred to me that I could handle a drink, but that I needed to make it to 20 years in order to prove to myself I had a handle on things. . . my life was out of control in every way, but I had not picked up, I told a friend in recovery my thoughts and she laid it out very clearly to me.. . said, maybe you can handle drinking, but didn't you ever do anything under the influence of alcohol that you would not have done sober, of course I laughed at that one, who hasn't? But she gave me something to think about, that not attending meetings and being reminded of how powerful and cunning this disease is, I had forgotten. . . well the gift of all that was my ability to become an AA member and after returning to meetings in early August of 2006, feeling like a newcomer, listening and hearing what people were saying, I came to the realization that I was alcoholic, my career started with alcohol and it was always a part of things, heck my substance use was all about being able to use alcohol without getting falling down sloppy. My point is, hopefully, your son is ready to accept his disease and realize that in reality, it is a wonderful disease to have, because by using the tools of recovery, the life we can have is simply amazing! At least he has begun the process with admitting he has a problem. . . best wishes and prayers for you and him!
My day today is about work, noontime AA meeting and Tony is coming down for dinner tonight and I am looking forward to that part of the day for sure!
As for food and the many challenges we face during emotional and festive times, heck anytime, we are after all food addicts (most of us), I was discussing the way I've been dealing with things lately, which has been really well, and for me it comes down to the concept of "mindful choices", I generally eat what I want within reason, making choices and decisions, rather than mindless eating, which is what I do when I feed my emotions or stress eat and the truth is, it never satisfies me when I eat like that, so I wind up defeating the whole purpose of my healthy choice to have WLS. . .
Wishing each of you the best day possible, for those of you facing the life challenges you have, I wish you continued peace and strength to get through those!
Much love, Laureen
Trish I am really hoping that your son gets it this time. For years, when I lived in NYC, I went to NA and that's where my recovery process began and one of the readings state, "that alcohol is a drug, that we are people who suffer from the disease of addiction, who must abstain from all drugs in order to recover. . ." However, what I can say is that while I accepted that concept, I never saw my drinking as being the issue since it was another substance that brought me to my knees, but years later, after receiving many of the gifts living a life based in the 12 steps brings, moving 90 miles from all I knew, finding fault with the fellowship of NA in my local area, eventually thinking I could get by on knowledge alone, because in AA back in the days when I got sober, they did not want us "addicts" in their meetings and would tell us to shut up and we don't want to hear about that **** here, plus I remember some older men talking about taking sleeping pills in a meeting one day and thinking, they don't have a clue. . . I was not well (lol), so I did not think I could fit in AA meetings here in my current environment, anyway, two years later, the thought occurred to me that I could handle a drink, but that I needed to make it to 20 years in order to prove to myself I had a handle on things. . . my life was out of control in every way, but I had not picked up, I told a friend in recovery my thoughts and she laid it out very clearly to me.. . said, maybe you can handle drinking, but didn't you ever do anything under the influence of alcohol that you would not have done sober, of course I laughed at that one, who hasn't? But she gave me something to think about, that not attending meetings and being reminded of how powerful and cunning this disease is, I had forgotten. . . well the gift of all that was my ability to become an AA member and after returning to meetings in early August of 2006, feeling like a newcomer, listening and hearing what people were saying, I came to the realization that I was alcoholic, my career started with alcohol and it was always a part of things, heck my substance use was all about being able to use alcohol without getting falling down sloppy. My point is, hopefully, your son is ready to accept his disease and realize that in reality, it is a wonderful disease to have, because by using the tools of recovery, the life we can have is simply amazing! At least he has begun the process with admitting he has a problem. . . best wishes and prayers for you and him!
My day today is about work, noontime AA meeting and Tony is coming down for dinner tonight and I am looking forward to that part of the day for sure!
As for food and the many challenges we face during emotional and festive times, heck anytime, we are after all food addicts (most of us), I was discussing the way I've been dealing with things lately, which has been really well, and for me it comes down to the concept of "mindful choices", I generally eat what I want within reason, making choices and decisions, rather than mindless eating, which is what I do when I feed my emotions or stress eat and the truth is, it never satisfies me when I eat like that, so I wind up defeating the whole purpose of my healthy choice to have WLS. . .
Wishing each of you the best day possible, for those of you facing the life challenges you have, I wish you continued peace and strength to get through those!
Much love, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Good mornin' ya'll.
Wow, it sounds like everyone but Vrinda is having 'family' problems. But it also sounds like each of you have a happy side in your life. A son with a big problem, but at least you have your volunteer work to keep you sane. An adopted daughter who gives you grief, but you have your genetics study to give your family hope, and a son who is making you so proud! A daughter who is driving you nuts, but you have an understanding DH who is trying to keep you sane! All of you girls deserve your happy side, and with that I know you can endure your problems. I hope everything gets better for everyone.
Vrinda, sounds like you have it all under control!
My daughter is still handling her soon to be X without killing him. He called and raged at her for telling the lawyers HE had all the info they want. She said he does. It's all in the filing cabinets in HIS house. He thinks she should take the time to come find them. She points out she works, he does nothing all day. She went to his house to pick up their daughter. Their son began getting in her face, screaming at her and pulling his arm back like he was gonna hit her, for some slight he imagined. Her X said, I can't believe he treats you that way. She said yeah, he does it all the time, but usually when no one was around. She said their son had been watching him treat her that way for years and now he thinks it is acceptable behavior. Later, the X came over to her place and sat in the parking lot crying. She went out and told him to get it together and leave. Their daughter said don't be so mean to Dad!! He spent $400 to sign up their daughter for a basketball camp. He had asked our daughter and granddaughter first. Granddaughter said no, she just finished summer school and feels like she has no summer. Our daughter said no, we can't afford $400, and she can't guarantee she can help getting her back and forth with her crazy schedule this month. He did it anyway!! Is this so he can point out to his lawyer that our daughter isn't there to do things for the kids!! Grrrr! More $ to lawyers, no progress in the divorce!!
My happy side. I stopped taking those green coffee bean capsules and my weight is heading down again. Woohoo!! My DH and I are gonna try the Sensa our daughter sent. But 2 weeks supply cost her $90 (this was back when she had $). The instructions say to get the full affect you need to use it for six weeks. THAT won't be happenin'.
And I started a new afghan.
Everyone have a fantabulous day!
Wow, it sounds like everyone but Vrinda is having 'family' problems. But it also sounds like each of you have a happy side in your life. A son with a big problem, but at least you have your volunteer work to keep you sane. An adopted daughter who gives you grief, but you have your genetics study to give your family hope, and a son who is making you so proud! A daughter who is driving you nuts, but you have an understanding DH who is trying to keep you sane! All of you girls deserve your happy side, and with that I know you can endure your problems. I hope everything gets better for everyone.
Vrinda, sounds like you have it all under control!
My daughter is still handling her soon to be X without killing him. He called and raged at her for telling the lawyers HE had all the info they want. She said he does. It's all in the filing cabinets in HIS house. He thinks she should take the time to come find them. She points out she works, he does nothing all day. She went to his house to pick up their daughter. Their son began getting in her face, screaming at her and pulling his arm back like he was gonna hit her, for some slight he imagined. Her X said, I can't believe he treats you that way. She said yeah, he does it all the time, but usually when no one was around. She said their son had been watching him treat her that way for years and now he thinks it is acceptable behavior. Later, the X came over to her place and sat in the parking lot crying. She went out and told him to get it together and leave. Their daughter said don't be so mean to Dad!! He spent $400 to sign up their daughter for a basketball camp. He had asked our daughter and granddaughter first. Granddaughter said no, she just finished summer school and feels like she has no summer. Our daughter said no, we can't afford $400, and she can't guarantee she can help getting her back and forth with her crazy schedule this month. He did it anyway!! Is this so he can point out to his lawyer that our daughter isn't there to do things for the kids!! Grrrr! More $ to lawyers, no progress in the divorce!!
My happy side. I stopped taking those green coffee bean capsules and my weight is heading down again. Woohoo!! My DH and I are gonna try the Sensa our daughter sent. But 2 weeks supply cost her $90 (this was back when she had $). The instructions say to get the full affect you need to use it for six weeks. THAT won't be happenin'.
And I started a new afghan.
Everyone have a fantabulous day!
Grammylew in Jax
Being a Grandma is hard, hard, hard!! With our oldest grandson we lived about 2 houses away since the time he was born. I babysat while both parents worked. When our son got divorced we had him for some part of every day. Then he got a girlfriend and she was not happy with us having him so often. We spoiled him. By the time they got married we were no longer welcome in our grandson's life. We haven't spoken in 20 years. That taught us a lot!
When our daughter got married, again we lived close by and I was her babysitter. We NEVER had any problems. When she moved 2 hours away I had a bag packed in my trunk at all times. If she called to say the kids were sick and she couldn't take them to daycare, I was on my way in minutes. My granddaughter is EXACTLY like her Momma. She knew how to push everyones buttons before she was 2. THAT my daughter and I understood. I still go out there to 'babysit when she is on a business trip if her DH went with her.
With our oldest son we only got to see the kids when they came by on their way to new duty station or when we went to visit them. We moved 6 doors away from them 7 years ago. I have been able to cook for them, taxi for them, 'babysit' them. Now they are grown and almost all gone. The youngest leaves for college next month!!
So we have run the gamut. And it's never the same! Never easy!
When our daughter got married, again we lived close by and I was her babysitter. We NEVER had any problems. When she moved 2 hours away I had a bag packed in my trunk at all times. If she called to say the kids were sick and she couldn't take them to daycare, I was on my way in minutes. My granddaughter is EXACTLY like her Momma. She knew how to push everyones buttons before she was 2. THAT my daughter and I understood. I still go out there to 'babysit when she is on a business trip if her DH went with her.
With our oldest son we only got to see the kids when they came by on their way to new duty station or when we went to visit them. We moved 6 doors away from them 7 years ago. I have been able to cook for them, taxi for them, 'babysit' them. Now they are grown and almost all gone. The youngest leaves for college next month!!
So we have run the gamut. And it's never the same! Never easy!
Grammylew in Jax
Good morning Trish.....
Trish......so sorry for all the pain you are having concerning your son. I will be adding him to my prayer list. I don't know how parents don't do anything for their children once they are grown. The love never ends. We are always "MOM".
The weather changes are really causing my Fibromyalgia to flare up. Wish the temps would stay one way for more then a couple days!
I have an eye appointment soon so this will be short today. I will be back later to check on other posts.
Wishing you all a great day! Prayers for many in need.
Love and hugs to all......connie d
Trish......so sorry for all the pain you are having concerning your son. I will be adding him to my prayer list. I don't know how parents don't do anything for their children once they are grown. The love never ends. We are always "MOM".
The weather changes are really causing my Fibromyalgia to flare up. Wish the temps would stay one way for more then a couple days!
I have an eye appointment soon so this will be short today. I will be back later to check on other posts.
Wishing you all a great day! Prayers for many in need.
Love and hugs to all......connie d
Hi Trish and my OFF family:
Just a quick hello ... have to be at work early. I was up early today to do some errands and once I got home, was so hot from being outside and running in and out of stores and buildings ... it is 95, feels like 102. I got home at 11 a.m., was so sweaty and sore and miserable, I had to drink a lot of water and sit with ice packs to chill. Still feel miserable, but a little better ... not so hot.
Have a good day ... it's my Friday unless the schedule gets changed again ... my boss screwed it up and someone will have to fill in. I can use the money so I'll be glad to work some OT, but I need at least one day off to do laundry etc.
Just a quick hello ... have to be at work early. I was up early today to do some errands and once I got home, was so hot from being outside and running in and out of stores and buildings ... it is 95, feels like 102. I got home at 11 a.m., was so sweaty and sore and miserable, I had to drink a lot of water and sit with ice packs to chill. Still feel miserable, but a little better ... not so hot.
Have a good day ... it's my Friday unless the schedule gets changed again ... my boss screwed it up and someone will have to fill in. I can use the money so I'll be glad to work some OT, but I need at least one day off to do laundry etc.
Hi All,
We got home at midnight last night. My cat was all over us.....Bentley came home around 10am. He is chillin on the couch.
My cousin cleaned up my house!!!!! Carl left it a wreck..... I guess men cant clean before they leave!!!!! Especialy mine!!!!!
I cant wait to go and get a massage tomorrow!!!!! My neck is killing me!!!!! Sitting in the car for 12 plus hrs driving doesnt do it justice. Just saying!!!!!
And im going to do it again in 8 days......
I med Jo from Michigan such a sweet soul.......I cant wait to see her again.
Carla
We got home at midnight last night. My cat was all over us.....Bentley came home around 10am. He is chillin on the couch.
My cousin cleaned up my house!!!!! Carl left it a wreck..... I guess men cant clean before they leave!!!!! Especialy mine!!!!!
I cant wait to go and get a massage tomorrow!!!!! My neck is killing me!!!!! Sitting in the car for 12 plus hrs driving doesnt do it justice. Just saying!!!!!
And im going to do it again in 8 days......
I med Jo from Michigan such a sweet soul.......I cant wait to see her again.
Carla
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