Happy Friday! What is going on with you??

Hello, everyone! I hope that all my American friends had a wonderful and safe holiday! We in Canada celebrate CANADA Day on July 1^st so, because I live close to the Ontario/New York border, I get to see both holiday fireworks!  It has been so hot and humid here....we desperately need rain. Imagine that some people actually refuse to believe in global warming!!   My lymphodema really acts up during this hear and humidity and my legs throb, making it difficult to be mobile or to sleep.   We are constantly refilling water bowls and pails for the animals outside and LilyRose and Oreo seem to drink a lot more inside as well. In this heat I have a lot of trouble eating but I do drink a lot of water to prevent dehydration. Been trying to make it easier on myself by drinking a lot of fruit smoothies with fat-free yogurt, skim milk, frozen sugar-free fruits  and  the tasteless protein powder and share them with JB as he doesn’t drink enough water (my personal opinion, not his.  It’s been a hectic stress few weeks.  Last weekend, two other members plus myself attended our Provincial Conference and National Convention for four days out of town in London, Ontario. This was for our BPW-Business & Professional Women’s Club, an international women’s advocacy group.  We debated and voted on many resolutions such as Medical & Palliative Care for Vulnerable Canadians, Cultural Abuse of Women, Raising Seniors out of Poverty and Enhanced Canadian Pension Plans.  These were all carried (some with friendly amendments) and will be now presented in a “Brief” directly to the appropriate Provincial or Federal Government Officials. We were inspired, excited, empowered and exhausted by the time we all got home Sunday evening.   

That night I unpacked, washed laundry, re-packed and the very next morning, John and I drove to Quebec (an eight hour trip) to disperse my adopted sister’s share of Mom’s estate. We had finally received the last documentation several days before…took well over a year to get her estate all settled. 

  

Long story short: my adopted sister B showed her true colours, she had already called and demanded the contact information of the lawyer, then called again demanding that we bring the will too(which, of course, we already had copies for both sisters)…talk about a sense of entitlement.  She called us SIX times duroing out trip up there to see if we were still coming with “her money” and she even called the motel to check on when we got there!  She said she was just worried about us…yeah, right!  This is the one who almost bankrupted Mom before I found out what was going on.  

  As soon as she signed off the legal documents (so she cannot sue me for more money), she as much as kicked us out the door. We had given her some cash for gas and food til the cheque cleared (about 5 business days) because it was for a large amount- $15,000.00. The next morning, she was already seen at yard sales buying up a storm, at the local hotel drinking and called my cousins to ask if the bank might give her an advance on the cheque!  She also told my cousins that if she never saw me again, it would be too soon. So much for all the “I love you, doll” lines that she always used.  I hadn’t had my butt down on the car seat when B was already calling my other sister, S, to tell her about how much they were both getting. That sister lives closer to me and was the one who never had anything to do with my parents for 25 plus years tho she lived four blocks away. She refused to come to Mom’s 90th birthday tea party and did NOT attend Mom’s funeral. She swore that she did not want a penny from Mom who S claims to HATE.    Then morning after we got back home, S calls my house and asks John when she gets the cheque!!  JB made an appointment to go to their place and I stayed home..I just wrote the cheque. S didn’t want me there and I didn’t want to go. Well, the one who did not want any of Mom’s money, signed the release forms and took the cheque!  S also got $15,000.00.  The two sister had been gossiping and  hatefully accusing me of stalling and of stealing THEIR shares! But now we have both of their signatures guaranteeing that neither can sue anyone, not me, my estate, the lawyer, the credit union for more money.  I FINALLY have completed my responsibilities to Mom’s will and estate and to my two sisters who now hate me more than ever. They now know that Mom left me 80% of the estate (which I didn’t know until we found her handwritten wills after she had died (yes, that’s a plural- she kept changing her mind who should get how much) and they each got only 10%.   

My sisters say that I took care of Mom for sixteen years, just for the money!  I took care of Mom because she was old, disabled, alone and needed protection from the emotional abuse, thefts of family heirlooms, Dad’s tools and fraud that B did to both Mom and Dad. I do not need Mother’s money and I had often told her that. I had suggested that she leave her estate to the five grandchildren and skip our generation. But Mom was still trying to “fix” my drug addict sister B and changed her mind over and over apparently.

  Anyway, I am FREE!!!!  Sad how hypocritical my sisters are. But I can sleep at night knowing that I fulfilled my duties as a daughter, power of attorney, caretaker and executrix of Mom’s estate with honour, honesty and integrity. 

Please forgive me for this long story. I am now beyond emotion. I have let go of any anger & resentment because it will only cripple me as it is doing to my sisters. But there are some of you who have heard all my years of dealing with a drug addicted sister (B) and an enabling mother and a mentally unstable sister (S), and how I got caught in the middle trying to do the RIGHT thing.  Now I can put that all to bed and move on.

  

This is a new day and I am finished with the negativity, anger and greed of others. It’s a GREAT day!!!

  

PLEASE STAY WELL HYDRATED IN THIS HEAT!

  Nancy B

Good morning Nancy and all who will follow!  Nancy, I'm so glad that is over for you. 

I haven't been on for a few days, just so busy with school and helping my hubby!  I'm trying to get some extra work done this morning because my sweet Grandson will be here this evening from Florida!  He's 2 1/2 and so much fun and is always so happy to see his JuJu and Grand-pere, as we are to see him!  Thank goodness for Skype or I'd really have a hard time going our usual 6-8 weeks without seeing him. 

Enough, I've got to get to work.  Everyone have a wonderful day and stay cool! 

Oh Vickie, I love your new picture of Benny - what a cutie!

 Good Morning Nancy and OFF,
Nancy, I am so sorry your sisters are so selfish and have acted that way to you.  Other than Mom, I have nobody else from my family of origin, but my sister.  Both of my brothers are gone.  

I went to New York last night, because my son got really sweet seats to the Phillies/Mets game.  They included an air conditioned lounge, with a hot food buffet and a nice restroom with a bathroom attendant.  My son offered to get me a room, or have me crash on his couch, but I was anxious to get home.  I already had somoene to watch Utley, but was too hyped to go to bed after the game.  Well, what a mistake.  I got stuck in the worst traffic jam getting out of Manhattan, I was a wreck by the time I got to the Jersey Turnpike.  I did not feel safe driving the rest of the way home, so I got off the turmpike and got a room, and am getting ready to get home now.  To add to the pitiful drive home, my Phillies lost again.  

When I get home, I have to get my bloodwork done, and then get home to tidy.  

Hope everyone is staying hydrated.

Hugs,
Trish

Hi Nancy and my OFF family:

Nancy, so sorry you are going through this with you family. I already told my mom I don't expect anything when she dies; she has already given me too much and I feel bad everytime I have to ask for money from her. Glad you're through with it.

I have been dealing with issues with Juliette, my poor itchy cat. Turns out she had fleas. I thought maybe she was diabetic from all the prednisone and cortisone, etc., that she was getting. She had been hiding ... still is ... under the sink. Then she was drinking a lot. Then she wasn't drinking at all. But she seems to be OK now. The vet found flea dirt on her and thinks she is severely allergic to flea saliva. So he gave her a cortisone shot and an application of Revolution to kill the fleas. He also allowed me to make a partial payment. I'm so broke it's not funny. I paid $60 and hope that will do for now. Still owe a lot. I love Juliette, but this allergy problem is a real whopper. I can't control it. I've never had a cat with this problem. I hope this solves it.

Back to work today. Did laundry all day yesterday, or it seemed like it. One of the dryers didn't dry again, but I had enough quarters to redry. Just ****** me off. The White Sox swept the Rangers, so that made me happy. Sorry to hear about your Phillies, Trish. They are not having good luck at all this year.

Well, have a good day.

Good LATE afternoon Nancy and OFF family that posted and any yet to show up...

Nancy...CONGRATS on a job well done for your mom!!! I am proud of you!!! HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!!!!!!!! You did your mom proud!!!

It is so hot here right now that I just hate the thought of going outside for ANYTHING!!!!!! Its 100* now and  sure do NOT want to know what the heat index is!!! The mailman went to take a package to a tenant and came back to tell me she was incohearant (sp) and I quickly called 911 to come check her out!!! I then went over there to see if she was ok!! She was out of sorts and refused to go to hospital!!! I called my boss and she called the old managers that used to be here which are her relation...they were supposed to call her...not sure if they did or not. Her aid was just here...asked if her relation called her...she said she doesn't remember. I told her she needs to call her family and see what they say to do then. I can't do anything. Sighs.......

Well guess its time to figure out what to do for supper...so dam hot not sure what we want to eat. New Cantina Bowl from Taco Bell looks interesting...got a coupon buy one get one free...

Thoughts and Prayers for ALL that need them!!

HUGS

UPDATE ON TENANT....nurses aid called 911 back again...they took her to hospital! Shealso called her family...guess what? They YELLED at her for BOTHERING them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!! Now how would you like them for your POA??????? Not me!!!!!!! Hope this poor woman will be ok!!! I sure understand now why she said there is NOBODY to call for an emergency!!!!!!!!!!

Good afternoon Off Friends.
Another hot one all over the place !    Here in Michigan this is supposed to be the hottest yet and to marrow we are going to be in the mid 80s which is norm for here,   that is certainly better than  this 103! 
Just a quick run by from Owosso MI today to wish everyone a safe day today with the heat and a good weekend!!