Just a quick update
It's late and I'm exhausted, but I doubt I will have a chance to post tomorrow, so let me do a quick update now.
Christie is okay. She had a moderate concussion and has had a terrible headache all day, but no other injuries. He didn't use his fists on her, but he did bang her head repeatedly against a wall until she could break free from him and run. Benny, thankfully, was asleep through the whole incident.
So, we are moving Christie and the baby and as much of her stuff as we can manage here to the lakehouse as a temporary measure. It is quite stressful, as we are trying to move her out of their house "on the sly" before John figures out what we are up to. Most of their furniture and stuff is hers anyway, and all of the kitchen stuff is hers, and of course, there's all of Benny's furniture and things. We rented a Uhaul truck and a Uhaul trailer and we filled them both up this evening. But we didn't get everything. The plan is to get up very early in the morning, unload the truck and trailer, and head back to San Antonio for a second load. Hopefully we will get it all out before John figures out what is going on and pitches a fit.
I need to get some sleep, so I'll close now, but I wanted to just let you all know we are okay. The tornados up near Dallas were awful today, but hundreds of miles away from us. Thank you for all the prayers. Please continue to pray for our family. This crisis is far from over, but we are coping as best we can.
Love you all!
Christie is okay. She had a moderate concussion and has had a terrible headache all day, but no other injuries. He didn't use his fists on her, but he did bang her head repeatedly against a wall until she could break free from him and run. Benny, thankfully, was asleep through the whole incident.
So, we are moving Christie and the baby and as much of her stuff as we can manage here to the lakehouse as a temporary measure. It is quite stressful, as we are trying to move her out of their house "on the sly" before John figures out what we are up to. Most of their furniture and stuff is hers anyway, and all of the kitchen stuff is hers, and of course, there's all of Benny's furniture and things. We rented a Uhaul truck and a Uhaul trailer and we filled them both up this evening. But we didn't get everything. The plan is to get up very early in the morning, unload the truck and trailer, and head back to San Antonio for a second load. Hopefully we will get it all out before John figures out what is going on and pitches a fit.
I need to get some sleep, so I'll close now, but I wanted to just let you all know we are okay. The tornados up near Dallas were awful today, but hundreds of miles away from us. Thank you for all the prayers. Please continue to pray for our family. This crisis is far from over, but we are coping as best we can.
Love you all!
Vickie
Glad you got a load out with your U-Haul yourselves yesterday ...Hope there is no trouble today as furniture and stuff are only things, and your safety comes first...things can be replaced....Hope your daughter and her baby remain safe and she dumps the husband for good...
When I moved out years ago ( early 80's) on my abusive husband, it took some planning: I used a moving company and they do this sort of thing all the time they told me...They advised me to move out not the first middle or end of the month, but at some weird middle of the week off-day ( I went on a Tuesday 7 May) and they suggested to come at about 10 am when hubby would have safely gone off to work, and they showed up with a double crew and worked fast, we were out 2 and a half hours later. My clothes were thrown onto huge furniture blankets and just folded into big swags and put into their truck ( I didn't mind the creases, and it all went really fast)...And just to be sure they had called me from a corner store before arriving, ( pre cellphone days) to check if the coast was clear and if a man answered at my home they would hang up and return to base ...I would then have to call the moving company to re-schedule the operation!.
My Dad was concerned for my safety, and insisted I hire a security guard with a walkie-talkie to call police if by chance my husband doubled back in case he suspected something . In the days prior to moving, I bought a huge grocery shop including beer I don't drink, on the advice of 2 male friends ( full fridge and groceries everywhere plus beer in the basement fridge reassured my husband that I was not leaving. I had been letting things "slide" and we were running out of things, which made him suspect I might be moving out and he had doubled back one day at 11 am at the beginning of the month to see if I was moving out). The movers took the groceries and my fridge as well, would you believe they wrapped a dozen eggs in newspapers I had, which arrived safely at my new apt which I had rented and where my dad was waiting for my stuff and I to show up (and the fridge load of food to arrive)... The movers even unscrewed the expensive drapery rods and removed them and the custom curtains and drapes which were mine, from our bedroom ( ex had huge wall to wall windows and patio doors in bedroom and no way to darken for sleep! LOL) I gave the case of beer to the movers as a gift for their fast work!. My Dad loaned me the $1200 I had to pay the movers...it was the first debt I paid back after I moved out....Lawyer's bills came later...I am divorced and staying that way....
I remember it all as though it was yesterday....it all went quick and fast, and ex was furious, his lawyer wrote my lawyer that I had left no food in the house and even taken the fridge, most of the furniture and all the bedroom drapes and all the silverware ....Dad and I laughed ourselves silly with relief when the move was done...
When I moved out years ago ( early 80's) on my abusive husband, it took some planning: I used a moving company and they do this sort of thing all the time they told me...They advised me to move out not the first middle or end of the month, but at some weird middle of the week off-day ( I went on a Tuesday 7 May) and they suggested to come at about 10 am when hubby would have safely gone off to work, and they showed up with a double crew and worked fast, we were out 2 and a half hours later. My clothes were thrown onto huge furniture blankets and just folded into big swags and put into their truck ( I didn't mind the creases, and it all went really fast)...And just to be sure they had called me from a corner store before arriving, ( pre cellphone days) to check if the coast was clear and if a man answered at my home they would hang up and return to base ...I would then have to call the moving company to re-schedule the operation!.
My Dad was concerned for my safety, and insisted I hire a security guard with a walkie-talkie to call police if by chance my husband doubled back in case he suspected something . In the days prior to moving, I bought a huge grocery shop including beer I don't drink, on the advice of 2 male friends ( full fridge and groceries everywhere plus beer in the basement fridge reassured my husband that I was not leaving. I had been letting things "slide" and we were running out of things, which made him suspect I might be moving out and he had doubled back one day at 11 am at the beginning of the month to see if I was moving out). The movers took the groceries and my fridge as well, would you believe they wrapped a dozen eggs in newspapers I had, which arrived safely at my new apt which I had rented and where my dad was waiting for my stuff and I to show up (and the fridge load of food to arrive)... The movers even unscrewed the expensive drapery rods and removed them and the custom curtains and drapes which were mine, from our bedroom ( ex had huge wall to wall windows and patio doors in bedroom and no way to darken for sleep! LOL) I gave the case of beer to the movers as a gift for their fast work!. My Dad loaned me the $1200 I had to pay the movers...it was the first debt I paid back after I moved out....Lawyer's bills came later...I am divorced and staying that way....
I remember it all as though it was yesterday....it all went quick and fast, and ex was furious, his lawyer wrote my lawyer that I had left no food in the house and even taken the fridge, most of the furniture and all the bedroom drapes and all the silverware ....Dad and I laughed ourselves silly with relief when the move was done...
Yes but in hindsight many decades later ,like my Dad said then, personal safety is number one and he urged me just to walk out with the clothes on my back...I did not want to give my ex the satisfaction nor my "things", and I see with Vickie it is the same as she gets her daughter's possessions out of there? Making 2 trips seems like such a huge risk...
I really hope Vickie gets all they want out without any confrontation, it is so not worth winding up in the ER fighting over stuff....
We will hear soon enough how it went....I just told my story in case someone wants to use movers and get it all over in a few hours if ever in a similar situation with a child or family member of a friend...seems movers do it all the time!
But you have to be honest with the mover, mine wanted to know how violent my ex could be....and asked I get the security just in case. Dad agreed and insisted....
I really hope Vickie gets all they want out without any confrontation, it is so not worth winding up in the ER fighting over stuff....
We will hear soon enough how it went....I just told my story in case someone wants to use movers and get it all over in a few hours if ever in a similar situation with a child or family member of a friend...seems movers do it all the time!
But you have to be honest with the mover, mine wanted to know how violent my ex could be....and asked I get the security just in case. Dad agreed and insisted....
Dear Vickie,
It sounds like a hellish thing to go through. Please be careful. You may need a police escort or, if the police won't do it, hired security guards to go back for the rest of the stuff. He has probably figured out by now that she is leaving him. He may do more than just pitch a fit.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Huggs,
Maria
It sounds like a hellish thing to go through. Please be careful. You may need a police escort or, if the police won't do it, hired security guards to go back for the rest of the stuff. He has probably figured out by now that she is leaving him. He may do more than just pitch a fit.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Huggs,
Maria
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