TGIF

Hello my dear friends,

How will you send this last day of the work week?

I am so glad that tomorrow is a day off for me. The week was busy and I got a lot done, but the long days the past weeks have been taxing. I am going out to dinner tonight with my friends and that is always a challenge. I am always the designated driver. We go out every Friday night and are home by 9p. I LOVE that.

Hope all of you have a lovely day.

Be blessed!

Sharon

Good morning Sharon and my OFF sistas,

Busy, busy Friday for us today.  Got a Realtor coming out this afternoon to do a walk-thru of the house and give us some advice on what we need to do to get ready to sell.  Hubby and I are very anxious about the price he suggests.  We have so much invested in this place!  We're hoping he names a high figure.

I want to thank all of you for the phone calls and messages yesterday.  My heart is very heavy right now.  I just really cannot talk about it yet. It was very very bad last weekend. I may not speak with Chris again for a long, long time. I've had enough. My mother, my oldest daughter and I are all in agreement on this issue. We are not taking her phone calls right now. Only my husband is still speaking with her, bless his heart.  As you all know, he's never here, so he hasn't quite been through the same experiences with her that the rest of us have endured.  He still has some reserves left.  I don't. 

I am trying to give it enough time to think what to do about Benny. Right now, every time I think of him, I just get so sad. It breaks my heart.

I'm trying to rein in the eating. I did a little better yesterday afternoon. At least I am aware of it and I'm trying to control it, rather than let it control me. I appreciate your support, your prayers, and your friendship. Thank you, my sweet friends.

Love you all!

Vickie, my heart breaks for you. I have a son who is no longer in our lives. I know how hard it can be.
When you are ready to talk, you know there are lots of us that are willing to listen. Just be aware, I am thinking of you and praying for you daily!

Vickie...so sorry about your daughter. You know you are doing the right thing by not taking calls. I am praying for you my friend and also for your daughter and little Benny. He knows you love him!!
Many of us know how you feel and have been through similar situations. I am concerned for you. Please take good care of yourself. We all care very much about you. I am always available if you ever need me..love you!!

HUGS....connie d

Hi Vickie,

I dont know the story about your daughter but I feel your pain. My beautiful only child (daughter) is 34. I love her so much. She suffers from borderline personality. She is married to a wonderful man and has 2 beautiful kids age 1 and 4.

When she starts thinking of her childhood (which is often) she gets angry feelings and blames me for all sorts of things. She gets angrier and angrier and then calls me and tells me what a terrible person and mother i was. Once it was because I left a bleach bottle under my sink without locking it up, many times it is because I didnt listen to her when she told me a story. These are memories she has that I don't. I have apologized a thousand times, but she cannot forgive me. Sometimes she will not let me see my precious grand-kids. One day I will get a 5 paragraph e-mail telling me why she cannot forgive me. A month later I get  phone calls telling me I am the greatest person she has ever known and why haven't I been over?

I always thought I was a great mom. I did not know how she felt until she was in her mid20's. Before that we had a great, very close and loving relationship. 

She once took my grand-babies away from me for 18 months because I was not a stay at home mom when she was small.

I have asked God to reveal to me the thing(s) I have done that I have forgotten that may have caused this. Her dad and his family all suffer from this condition and her dad left us when she was 6.

I have read a book that has helped me tremendously, "Creative Grandparenting: How to Love and Nurture a New Generation" by Jerry and Judy Schreur.

I know God can fix this. I have given it to Him.

I pray your situation with your child gets better.

Prayers,

Sharon

 Sharon,
I have borderline personality disorder, and have recovered from it to the point where I have a wonderful relationship with everyone in my family, except my mother, and it is not from a lack of trying.  Mom has been bipolar since I was an infant, and I think she is also borderline, but never diagnosed.  She never had any intensive psychotherapy, like I have had.

My husband and I are divorced, yet we are friends now, and I am friends with his second wife.  The best part is, my kids have forgiven me for raising them in such a chaotic home, with my constant temper tantrums, and rage.

Know that there is nothing you can say or do that will change your daughters' views of you.  Her extremes are typical, and you can apologize till you are blue in the face, and it will be for naught.

Two books to help you stay sane are "Stop Walking on Eggshells" and "Boundaries."  Borderlines have no respect for boundaries, and having and maintaining healthy boundaries with her will help you and your family gain some sort of sanity.

God bless.

Hugs,
Trish

 Hi Vickie,
I am so sorry that you are going through this time in your relationship with your daughter.  It is difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with someone who does not want a healthy relationship with you.  I have that same dynamic with my mother.  She is unable to say kind things to me, and finds fault with everything I do.  She also has been showing overt favoritism toward my siblings and my nephew my entire life.  There are times when I must keep my distance, or lose what little sanity I hold.

Know that we are here for you.

Hugs,
Trish

Dearest Vickie,

     I love you very much as we all do. I am so terribly sorry about the situation you and your family are dealing with. Due to my bi-polar I can see both sides of your story. She has no free ticket to treat you this way. Sometimes we use our mental illness as a free pass. Telling ourselves that we can't help how we are, but that's not true. We have so much more openness about our disease than ever before. New and better treatments available. You are in my heart and prayers.... Mag

Good mornin', ya'll.
I am packed and ready for my trip to OR tomorrow. Sunday my daughter is having a Super Bowl party so in the morning we will be busy putting together food. No one coming really cares about the teams that are playing but it is a nice excuse for a party.
I can't decide whether or not to take my crochet on the plane or just read my iPad. I have a 3 hour layover. Seems like all the layovers these days are only 45 minutes or 3 hours. Whatever happened to the 1 hour layovers when you had time to leisurely get to your next gate/terminal and still have time to pee! And those carts that used to be zipping around everywhere are very sparse these days.
For special instructions when my daughter registered us for the CMAs she said her mother was 'elderly' and needed an aisle seat at the concerts and a room near the elevators. Not sure if I should be hurt or grateful?! Should I take my cane?
Anyhoo, a slow relaxing day here. I am packed, I have run and unloaded the diswasher, washed folded and put away clothes and made sure all MY favorite shows are set to record on MY DVR in the living room. What else is there?

‎"Never let go of hope. One day you will see that it all has finally come together. What you have always wished for has finally come to be. You will look back and laugh at what has passed and you will ask yourself... 'How did I get through all of that?'" -Unknown

Everyone have a fantabulous day!

GL, I  frequently take my cane with me when I am flying. People are so much more kind and don't ask questions and push in front of you. I also can use the handicapped entrance to go through the security line some airports. I say take the cane....we are Senior Citizens ...take advantage of it.