Happy Sunday, Everyone

grammylew
on 1/15/12 8:52 am - Jacksonville, NC
Connie, minute to minute is GOOD! Soon that adds up to hour to hour and then day to day.
I know this is so very hard for you. Please, hang on by your fingernails if you have to, but hang on! It is NOT easy.
I had a brother who committed suicide when he was 17. After talking to my sister on the phone 10 years ago, I knew she was at the edge. I called her boyfriend and he was able to get to her and get her to an ER to get the pills pumped out of her stomach in time. I have had 2 cousins and an uncle who thought that was the only way. That route is not the answer. No matter what you think it will NOT make your daughter happy. Think of Grace.
You are scaring me with your talk. You need to talk to your therapist. Perhaps have your meds tweaked. You are a loved and valuable person. I am constantly praying you will to find the strength that you need! You are not alone!

Grammylew in Jax

 

poegirl100
on 1/15/12 11:10 am - Cibolo, TX
No, honey, it's not easy.  I never mean to trivialize your pain.  I know how real it is.  But you just remember your grandchildren and how much they look up to you.  Ready or not, you're their role model right now.  You just keep doing the best you can.  Minute to minute is just fine for now.  We're all here for you.

Vic
lightswitch
on 1/15/12 1:19 pm
Connie, I know how hard this is for you.  I also know that you are caught between a rock and another rock.  It is so hard to put ourselves first.  In order for you to and your daughter to rebuild your relationship, you must get away.  I know how hard it is to walk away from the grandkids, but you cannot take the abuse that she is dishing out to you.  Send cards to the kids and call them and in time, go visit them, but your grandkids need you to be their stablizing force and one that is around for a long, long time.  When my daughter and I were in the custody battle for my grandson and I took him away from her; it was the hardest thing that I have ever had to do.  I had to watch my daughter cry like a wounded animal, and much later, I had to hear her say how much she hated me and how she wished I was dead.  Then, when she kidnapped him, I worried night and day that she was not going to take care of him, but she pulled herself together and I missed him so much but I couldn't fight that battle any longer.  So, every day and night I kept him in my heart and when I was finally able to see him, and when she moved in with me, I took her horrible remarks and listened to her start her rants, and finally, one day she crossed the line and I said to her, I am not taking this **** from you.  I love you and I love my grandbaby  and I missed him and will miss him again, but I am not going to let you verbally and emotionally abuse me.  I guess when she realized that I wasn't going to allow her to hold me hostage any longer, she came around.  I hope that your daughter comes around.  I hope that she realizes that she has a limited time left to teach her children how to be good adults and treat their mother well.  I believe she will come around.  I believe she will want to fix this.  But if she doesn't, you will be sad, and you will miss her and the kids, but you will have to live in their hearts and you know my mother died when I was a child and she has been in my heart ever since…not the best place, but it is the warmest and most felt place to be.  You will be fine and you will fight this battle and win.  Plus, you know and I know that daughters have one person they think of and call out to and that is their mamas.  She will call…you'll see.  In the meant time think of one really cool thing that you wish you would have done before and can do now without having to deal with society's pressure…like a really cool tatoo.  Sleep well tongiht and tomorrow face the day headon…there is life to live and no one can live that life as well as you.  
Connie D.
on 1/16/12 12:36 am
 Jeannie...you are my light at the end of that long dark tunnel. I am fighting with every ounce I have left.

Thank you so much...love and many hugs....connie d
carlak
on 1/15/12 2:25 am - Bradenton, FL
Eileen and all to follow, I am glad you are doing well in Indiana, I am heading to Denver on thursday or 10 days. I cant wait to get there to have girl time with my gal pals!!!!! Carl is driving me nuts.
it is very cold here today about 32 about an hour ago and I was going to go bke iding but Ill wait a bit to see if it warms up.
My cousin gave me a bike and I am a bit wobbley on it but I can ride it......
Well better get back to looking flr a job.
carla
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