Opinions/Judgments: Mindful Eating
Happy Saturday Mindful Eaters. Good read! Hugs Debbie
What about your judgments of yourself? If I had a dime for every time I heard someone describe themselves as "bad" because of something they ate .... I would be rich, rich, RICH!! How about you? How many times in the last two days have you said (to yourself or someone else) that you were "bad" because of something you ate? And on the flip side: How many times in the last two days have you given yourself a mental high five for an eating behavior?
You are the best person to give yourself positive feedback -- mostly because you know if it was genuine (or not). Research indicates there should be 7 positive interactions for every one negative interaction if one wants to have a flourishing relationship with another person or group of people. (if there are never any negative interactions -- we assume that person is just blowing smoke. And if there are more negative interactions, the quality of the relationship degrades)
I'm not sure there has every been a study that looks at ratios of interactions one has with one's self. But I bet a similar ratio holds true. We all need to give ourselves well-deserved credit when we behave in a positive manner and constructive criticism when we don't.
How many of us can say we are consistently good at that? Hmmmmm....food for thought.
Spend some time this weekend assessing your internal dialogue. Start a tally list -- what's your ratio? Or maybe, a more easy version is it write down the date and time of every negative self-directed thought. If it takes you all weekend to gather some -- hooray! you're probably hitting a pretty solid positive/negative ratio.
But if you end up needed to write down the hour:minute:second of each negative thought to keep them straight, perhaps you have some work to do in reframing your dialogue with yourself.
First things first -- spend some time investigating what you're currently doing. Don't assume you know! You may be surprised at what you learn about yourself!
Posted: 16 Sep 2011 03:09 AM PDT
So yesterday we talked about getting untangled from other's opinions and judgments. Sweet! You've got that mastered now, right? Well....maybe not but......What about your judgments of yourself? If I had a dime for every time I heard someone describe themselves as "bad" because of something they ate .... I would be rich, rich, RICH!! How about you? How many times in the last two days have you said (to yourself or someone else) that you were "bad" because of something you ate? And on the flip side: How many times in the last two days have you given yourself a mental high five for an eating behavior?
You are the best person to give yourself positive feedback -- mostly because you know if it was genuine (or not). Research indicates there should be 7 positive interactions for every one negative interaction if one wants to have a flourishing relationship with another person or group of people. (if there are never any negative interactions -- we assume that person is just blowing smoke. And if there are more negative interactions, the quality of the relationship degrades)
I'm not sure there has every been a study that looks at ratios of interactions one has with one's self. But I bet a similar ratio holds true. We all need to give ourselves well-deserved credit when we behave in a positive manner and constructive criticism when we don't.
How many of us can say we are consistently good at that? Hmmmmm....food for thought.
Spend some time this weekend assessing your internal dialogue. Start a tally list -- what's your ratio? Or maybe, a more easy version is it write down the date and time of every negative self-directed thought. If it takes you all weekend to gather some -- hooray! you're probably hitting a pretty solid positive/negative ratio.
But if you end up needed to write down the hour:minute:second of each negative thought to keep them straight, perhaps you have some work to do in reframing your dialogue with yourself.
First things first -- spend some time investigating what you're currently doing. Don't assume you know! You may be surprised at what you learn about yourself!
Your posts are always so thought provoking. When I first had my WLS and didn't feel like I was loosing fast enough, I read an article about positive reinforcement for ourselves. I put sticky notes all over the house that said 'credit' to remind myself to give myself credit for what I HAD accomplished each day. My DH noticed them and asked if we were having problems with our credit cards! Nope.
Grammylew in Jax
Debbie...guess I shouldn't of went back to MN....now I am more depressed then I was before. I am just MN homesick. Not even close to eating right and I just don't care. Hope I can turn this around again. I was doing so well with my Eliptical and eating.....guess I am punishing myself!!
Thanks for caring.....love your posts......hugs....connie d
Thanks for caring.....love your posts......hugs....connie d
Connie it's okay to be homesick.
It's okay for you to feel "blue" right now.
You will turn your sadness to happiness in time.
So today I'm going to challenge you my friend.
Get on that elliptical for only 10 minutes...that's doable.
Tomorrow try 15 minutes...that's doable.
Tuesday I'm pushing you to 20 minutes.
Know what your going to be feeling if you give me 20 minutes of exercise?
I'm thinking it will uplift your spirits.
These are baby-steps my friend to get you back in the groove!
You deserve to be happy. Exercise in this case will help you.
As far as your eating...start back with Mindful Eating. No food is off limits here. No food is "bad" for you. Jus****ch your portions and drink your water. Mindful Eating is not easy to follow when your depressed or "blue". So don't beat yourself up over eating, I won't let you. We have beat ourselves up enough over our lifetimes in regards to food....and I say STOP right now!
I'm right here for you Connie. It's time we really deal with food issues.
It's time to know when we are sad and depressed no amount of food will "fill us up". Food really is not the reason why we are eating, it's how we are feeling.
You are such a cutie patootie Connie. You have a lot going for you and that wonderful bright smile of yours is pure sunshine. I think if your not writing down what your eating/when/and your feelings at that moment of eating, it's time to pick that back up. Reflect on it.
Isn't it wonderful you have us as your support system. Some won't agree with what I have to say and that's fine too. What works for one might not for others. What will help your Connie?
You know your body and mind better than any one else. Hugs my friend. I'm holding your hand right now. Close your eyes now and say "I'm worthy"! YOU ARE! Debbie
It's okay for you to feel "blue" right now.
You will turn your sadness to happiness in time.
So today I'm going to challenge you my friend.
Get on that elliptical for only 10 minutes...that's doable.
Tomorrow try 15 minutes...that's doable.
Tuesday I'm pushing you to 20 minutes.
Know what your going to be feeling if you give me 20 minutes of exercise?
I'm thinking it will uplift your spirits.
These are baby-steps my friend to get you back in the groove!
You deserve to be happy. Exercise in this case will help you.
As far as your eating...start back with Mindful Eating. No food is off limits here. No food is "bad" for you. Jus****ch your portions and drink your water. Mindful Eating is not easy to follow when your depressed or "blue". So don't beat yourself up over eating, I won't let you. We have beat ourselves up enough over our lifetimes in regards to food....and I say STOP right now!
I'm right here for you Connie. It's time we really deal with food issues.
It's time to know when we are sad and depressed no amount of food will "fill us up". Food really is not the reason why we are eating, it's how we are feeling.
You are such a cutie patootie Connie. You have a lot going for you and that wonderful bright smile of yours is pure sunshine. I think if your not writing down what your eating/when/and your feelings at that moment of eating, it's time to pick that back up. Reflect on it.
Isn't it wonderful you have us as your support system. Some won't agree with what I have to say and that's fine too. What works for one might not for others. What will help your Connie?
You know your body and mind better than any one else. Hugs my friend. I'm holding your hand right now. Close your eyes now and say "I'm worthy"! YOU ARE! Debbie
Debbie....thank you so much....I WILL get on the Eliptical tomorrow. Right now Nic is in that room with his friends and I am going to bed.
I am overwhelmed with emotions. I am very angry at myself and how I am treating my body. I don't know how to pull out of this. I will do my best to take on your challenges. I just can't make any promises right now.
Hugs and love....connie d
I am overwhelmed with emotions. I am very angry at myself and how I am treating my body. I don't know how to pull out of this. I will do my best to take on your challenges. I just can't make any promises right now.
Hugs and love....connie d
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