Hodgkin's Lymphoma

seasheleyes
on 7/30/11 10:17 pm - Manteca, CA

That is my Mom's diagnosis. It's kind of rare in a woman of her age but it has been confirmed by several pathologists. I guess it doesn't matter in the end except to explain some of her symptoms and test results. Today is her 85th birthday "party". Her brother is here (he is 20 years younger that her- a change of life baby) so all told there will be eight of us at the rehab with her. She is not talking much anymore- yesterday she mouthed "I love you" and said "NO" when I got up to leave. Tomorrow I meet with Hospice and sign the papers for that. We won't put her through chemo at this stage. I just hope it won't last too long. I don't want to lose her but I wouldn't put her through this if we had better options. I keep remembering my Darla (my old dog) and how we rushed to the emergency vet to put her to sleep. When you love someone you can't stand to watch the suffering. That is where I am now....the vacation was good... now I am walking the valley.
Julia

Pat R.
on 7/30/11 10:42 pm - Sturgis, MI

RNY on 08/17/07

Morning Julia,
So sorry to hear your Mom's diagnosis. You are doing the right thing by not putting her thru treatment....just let her enjoy the time she has left .

My Mom was diagnosed with age-related leukemia at age 92. She was a vital and healthy person even at her age, and within 4 months she was gone. It was so hard to see that.

I pray for comfort and strength for you and your family during this time. Know that you have many friends doing the same.

Sending gentle cyber hugs,

Pat R.

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Nancy H.
on 7/30/11 10:52 pm - Traverse City, MI

RNY on 10/05/05

Julia, I am so sorry. You made the right decision for your mom. I have seen so many older people talked into treatment that is actually worse than the desease. Both of my parents. You are in my prayers as is your mom. for acceptence and for peace.
Nan

ShirleyG
on 7/30/11 11:47 pm - HALFWAY BETWEEN ATLANTA AND BHAM , AL

Morning Julia and all you beautiful ladies
So sorry about your mom ... I know how you must be suffering as it is so hard to lose our loved ones to anything ..
My mom too is failing at 76 so I am selfish . I want her with me for a long long time but know I have to decide someday what is best for her.
You cant stand the suffering but you cant let go is my problem..
Being the child that has to MEET THE HOSPICE, make decisions and so on is so hard too as I did that once with Dad ..
I am praying for you and your family though and just know that I am lifting you in prayer today ..
Have a blessed and happy day when you can ...
I am back from my moms today and the car ride although only 2 1/2 hours one way and then back last night was hard on this body this time ...Sure am aching this am ,,CRAP , is that a sign of age creeping in LOL
Just going to do some grocery shopping today and watch a movie and get ready for work tomorrow ,,,,Slept in so I missed church this am ...HATE when I do that ...

Hugs
Shirley

Connie D.
on 7/31/11 12:18 am

RNY on 08/29/07

Julia.....I am so sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis.
I have been keeping her in my prayers and will continue to do so. God Bless you both!

You are doing the right thing. I am going through this right now with my BFF's mom. Just last week she was diagnosis-ed with lung cancer. They have also decided no chemo. She is in her late 80's and is a frail little lady of barely 100 pounds.

Prayers and hugs....connie d

Laureen S.
on 7/31/11 1:25 am - Maple Shade, NJ

RNY on 10/16/07

Julia,

I am sorry to read this, but I think in your heart you knew something more was going on and you know you've done right by your Mom, so please just try to take this one day at a time and be kind to yourself in the process. My cousin is going through very similar things right now and I know it is very difficult, you have us for support as you go through this difficult time.

Hugs, Laureen

My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen

"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland

poegirl100
on 7/31/11 1:41 am - Cibolo, TX

RNY on 02/22/11

Oh, Julia, I'm sorry! I don't know why dying has to be so hard for some. I'm sure you feel like you ought to be doing more for your sweet mother right now, but all you can do is make the best decisions you can at the time you make them.

Supporting you and your family in prayer. Hugs and love to you!

Vickie

Eileen Briesch
on 7/31/11 1:49 am - Evansville, IN

RNY on 06/29/04

Julia, you are doing the right thing, and you know it. She doesn't understand what's going on anyway, so let her live what's left of her life.

Strange how we are allowed to put our dear pets to sleep but our dear loved ones we have to watch suffer. I was happy my dad went quickly at the end.

You and your mom are in my thoughts. Hang in there.