My decision...for now.

I had a really good talk with my daughter on Friday, and I won't be moving to Michigan anytime soon.  For a lot of reasons, she is not happy in Michigan, and has recently pursued job leads here in the Philly area.  She shared her heart with me about how my living in Michigan would create a situation where she may never get out of the situation she is currently in.  It's too complicated to go into in writing, but I respect my daughter very much, and agreed that I would not complicate her situation anytime soon.  I did say that I would probably be visiting more, especially now that the kids are getting bigger. 

Thanks for all the feedback from you wonderful people.  I appreciated the time you all took to help me weigh the pros and cons.

Hugs,
Trish

Oh Patricia...I'm so glad you had this talk with your daughter before up & moving.  Not that I thought you'd do that without  lots of prayer & thought but sometimes our longing to be with family gets in the way of good logical thinking, well for me at least.  The talk you had with your daughter is probably a talk I need to have with my daughter.  If/when we move back to GA, you can bet your bottom dollar that Samantha & I will have a huge talk.  That will weigh heavily on if we'll move back or not.  But moving isn't in our future right now...probably next year...we'll see.

Anyway, I'm happy this decision is laid to rest for you, for the time being anyways. 

Have a great evening!! 

Cindy

Thanks Cindy.  I am glad my daughter opened up about what is going on in her heart.  It gave me more insight, and also gave me more to pray for her about.  I will plan more trips out there. 

Hugs,
Trish

Patricia, I am glad you and your daughter are both happy with your decision!
When we moved from OR to NC, it took us months of talking to both our kids, and much praying, to make the final decision. Our daughter had moved 2 hours away. Her DH quit his job and was a house husband and we weren't needed as much. In NC our grandsons were in elementary and middle schools, our son was being deployed yearly, and our DIL was working full time. We could help with getting kids to and from all of their activities. We had no house to sell, we had been renting in OR for 23 years. We were both retired and didn't need jobs. Our daughter had the means to fly us back to OR a couple times a year to babysit or just visit. There was a house for auction on our son's street. It seemed that someone was directing us to make this decision. Now, we are all so very glad we did. We have gone from being able to help care for our son's family, to his family being there for us when we have needed
the help.
I fully believe that if you take everything into consideration, weigh all the options, get everyone's honest input, pray about it, the correct decision will be shown to you. And, of course, all of us that believe in a "higher power", know that even if it looks like you are not getting what you asked for, in the end, the reason is shown to you. For those who don't believe in God, or a higher power, you still need to ponder all of the ramifications.
Sorry, Patricia for the long drawn out post.
I'm sure you have made the decision that is right for you and everyone involved!

Thanks Grammylew,
I am a firm believer in God, and in seeking His guidance in my daily life.  I appreciate knowing that there are others here who appreciate prayer, and seek Him as well.

Hugs,
Trish

Trish,

So happy to read that you and your daughter spoke openly about her challenges and that she was able to communicate to you what her plans are.  Hopefully, she will figure it all out and you, her and your munchkins can be closer in distance so that they and you can enjoy more special moments. . .  Now that you've done that you can plan your future accordingly and heck, it would have been difficult for you to leave those hot Phillies behind (lol), what a miserable team root for, last night's game just another kind of game that has me wondering why I am a MET fan. . .  loyalty runs deep I guess. . .  besides my b/f would kill me if I became a Phillie's fan (lol). . .

Laureen

Yes, Laureen, I would have had a hard time leaving the Phillies behind.  I would have immediately subscribed to MLB.com, like my son, who lives in Queens, does.  Ironically, he is on vacation in Curacao this past week, missing all the hot action, including the 19 inning game, and of course, the wins against the Mets, which would bring a smile to his face.

I understand loyalty.  Being a fan of a team from childhood is almost like a birthright.  It is in your blood.

Thanks for the support.

Hugs,
Trish

Knowing, understanding, finding out what WE want is SO hard. Grateful in my heart and soul you took the time to listen to your inner voices. WE all sure pitched in with OUR concerns because we help sustain each other in true caring.

Thanks Monica.  This group has been such a neat support for me.  I love my PA forum for the local support, and if I were to avail myself of face to face, I would see many at the Barix support group at the hospital I had my surgery.  But this group is special, because everyone truly understands my situation and can relate.

I would love to meet so many of you, because of that special bond.

Hugs,
Trish