SATURDAY MORNING ALREADY
Good morning, ya'll.
When my DH and I sold almost everything to move from OR to NC, we had a huge sale. I took care of the sale in the barn, he took care of the sale in the house. That way we weren't too attached to whatever WE were in charge of pricing.
I don't know if I have mentioned it or not, but our daughter is having quite a time with her 16 year old son. Both of her kids go to parochial school and they have to work hard. They are to expect 3 hours of homework a night. Her son is very smart, but also very lazy. He doesn't do his homework, but the aces his tests. But a 95 on a test doesn't cancel out all the late assignments. His parents check online every week to see what assignments are missing, THEN make him do them. Of course, points are taken off for being late. When progress reports come out and he has D's, they take
everything away from him (phone, video games, tv, etc), he brings the grades up, gets his stuff back, and the cycle repeats. I suggested they get a tutor, but she says he understands the work. Which is true, but obviously he needs someone to sit beside him every afternoon to be sure he is doing his assignments. Of course, he says he got most done in study hall, but no one asks to see it. He can't get his license until they see his final report card. He wants to go to public school! He has neighborhood friends who go there and he knows they don't have much homework and the classes are easier! Our daughter thinks the answer is to send him to a military summer camp, so he can learn to be organized and budget his time. He would get help in his 2 worst clasees then it'ts like a regular military school. His Dad thinks the answer is to make him work this summer and pay them back for every class he gets less than a B in. It costs them about $700 a class. He's OK with any of those things if it means he doesn't have to do homework!! The thing is, the kid has always been headstrong but knew just what he could get away with. He used to bite himself if he couldn't get his way, or
swear and throw fits. This was when he was very little. But he was a dream and well behaved in preschool. They took him to a psychologists who said it was a phase. As long as he knew his behavior was inappropriate he would outgrow it. Well, he doesn't bite, swear, or throw fits anymore. He is just rebelling in another way!
Sorry, I have run on and on. As a Mom, I don't really want to get too involved and tick everyone off. It isn't my responsibility! But I am frustrated for all of them.
Have a fantabulous day!
When my DH and I sold almost everything to move from OR to NC, we had a huge sale. I took care of the sale in the barn, he took care of the sale in the house. That way we weren't too attached to whatever WE were in charge of pricing.
I don't know if I have mentioned it or not, but our daughter is having quite a time with her 16 year old son. Both of her kids go to parochial school and they have to work hard. They are to expect 3 hours of homework a night. Her son is very smart, but also very lazy. He doesn't do his homework, but the aces his tests. But a 95 on a test doesn't cancel out all the late assignments. His parents check online every week to see what assignments are missing, THEN make him do them. Of course, points are taken off for being late. When progress reports come out and he has D's, they take
everything away from him (phone, video games, tv, etc), he brings the grades up, gets his stuff back, and the cycle repeats. I suggested they get a tutor, but she says he understands the work. Which is true, but obviously he needs someone to sit beside him every afternoon to be sure he is doing his assignments. Of course, he says he got most done in study hall, but no one asks to see it. He can't get his license until they see his final report card. He wants to go to public school! He has neighborhood friends who go there and he knows they don't have much homework and the classes are easier! Our daughter thinks the answer is to send him to a military summer camp, so he can learn to be organized and budget his time. He would get help in his 2 worst clasees then it'ts like a regular military school. His Dad thinks the answer is to make him work this summer and pay them back for every class he gets less than a B in. It costs them about $700 a class. He's OK with any of those things if it means he doesn't have to do homework!! The thing is, the kid has always been headstrong but knew just what he could get away with. He used to bite himself if he couldn't get his way, or
swear and throw fits. This was when he was very little. But he was a dream and well behaved in preschool. They took him to a psychologists who said it was a phase. As long as he knew his behavior was inappropriate he would outgrow it. Well, he doesn't bite, swear, or throw fits anymore. He is just rebelling in another way!
Sorry, I have run on and on. As a Mom, I don't really want to get too involved and tick everyone off. It isn't my responsibility! But I am frustrated for all of them.
Have a fantabulous day!
Grammylew in Jax
Grammy just remember that all of the hassel with your grandson is usually not that serious.
My son was like that about homework and studying in general...he hated it altho he did like yours and could ace the test. but had low grades that didnt reflect how smart he was....until his school started having electrical classes. and he feel in love with the complexieties of elect and the computers at that time , which was in late 1970s so computers were pretty basic no internet or nothig at that time . he totally turned his life around from being lazy and uncaring to a kid that wanted to go to school every day and i used that to my advantage ....if he didnt keep his other grades above a B then he couldnt take the electronics classes ...lol just a way to blackmail him lol....
My son was like that about homework and studying in general...he hated it altho he did like yours and could ace the test. but had low grades that didnt reflect how smart he was....until his school started having electrical classes. and he feel in love with the complexieties of elect and the computers at that time , which was in late 1970s so computers were pretty basic no internet or nothig at that time . he totally turned his life around from being lazy and uncaring to a kid that wanted to go to school every day and i used that to my advantage ....if he didnt keep his other grades above a B then he couldnt take the electronics classes ...lol just a way to blackmail him lol....
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Hi Grammylew,
Your 16 year old grandson sounds like both of my sons. They are gifted, and hated doing homework, partly because it was boring, and tedious. They understood the material and found the homework to be a waste of time. We tried grounding one son for not doing his homework, and it backfired. He still refused to do it, for an entire school year. We ended up sending that son to a private school, where there were only nine kids in his graduating class. The personalized attention helped some.
The best suggestion I can make would be a counselor to help him set goals, and work through why he is not doing his homework. It could be boredom, rebellion, or both.
The one thing my older son says now, at the age of 33, is that the more he worked in school as a kid gave him the opportunity to get his degrees, and find work he says is satisfying, and now he works less in one sense, but uses his brain a lot more. He is an executive with Nielsen Corporation. Youngest in the executive track.
Hope this makes sense.
Hugs,
Trish
Your 16 year old grandson sounds like both of my sons. They are gifted, and hated doing homework, partly because it was boring, and tedious. They understood the material and found the homework to be a waste of time. We tried grounding one son for not doing his homework, and it backfired. He still refused to do it, for an entire school year. We ended up sending that son to a private school, where there were only nine kids in his graduating class. The personalized attention helped some.
The best suggestion I can make would be a counselor to help him set goals, and work through why he is not doing his homework. It could be boredom, rebellion, or both.
The one thing my older son says now, at the age of 33, is that the more he worked in school as a kid gave him the opportunity to get his degrees, and find work he says is satisfying, and now he works less in one sense, but uses his brain a lot more. He is an executive with Nielsen Corporation. Youngest in the executive track.
Hope this makes sense.
Hugs,
Trish
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Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not the only one with a kid like that in my family. You are right, part of the problem is, he is just too durn smart and finds homework a waste of time. Although the teachers say they would rather have 10 students like his sister than one like him. She really has to work for every B she gets. But she is eager to do it, and really learns the stuff.
Another problem is, their Mom (our daughter) never went to collage. She began working as a crew member at a Taco Bell when she was 16. It is a family owned corp and she has never worked for anyone else. She is 42 now and the company COO and they have 30 plus Taco Bells and Long John Silvers in 2 states. She is a franchisee in 8 of them. She makes very good money (she paid $125,000 in taxes this year). Her DH also never went to collage and is a stay at home Dad. So it's hard to tell the kids to work hard so they can go to collage and get a good job!!
Another problem is, their Mom (our daughter) never went to collage. She began working as a crew member at a Taco Bell when she was 16. It is a family owned corp and she has never worked for anyone else. She is 42 now and the company COO and they have 30 plus Taco Bells and Long John Silvers in 2 states. She is a franchisee in 8 of them. She makes very good money (she paid $125,000 in taxes this year). Her DH also never went to collage and is a stay at home Dad. So it's hard to tell the kids to work hard so they can go to collage and get a good job!!
Grammylew in Jax
They don't generally wake up til almost noon. They should be straggling in soon. Biscuits and sausage gravy this morning so I expect at least 2 grandsons and one who isn't, but calls me grandma anyway. Our son and DIL have probably had breakfast but will be down for a biscuit and gravy lunch. I'm ready for them all. I have my biggest pot full of gravy and 2 dozen biscuits ready to go in the oven. The oldest NC grandson turns 20 today, so he gets a candle in his biscuit!
Grammylew in Jax
Hubby loves biscuit and gravy. He has deep mid-west roots on his Dad's side. I have never been able to make this dish with luck and I am a good cook. Please share your recipe and secret with us.
Happy Bday for your NC grandson. Snuggle his neck for me like when he as a baby and got those special kisses.
Happy Bday for your NC grandson. Snuggle his neck for me like when he as a baby and got those special kisses.
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Monica, I have no recipe. I learned from watching and helping my Grandmas, Momma and various aunts. There is a look and consistancy to the gravy and a feel to the biscuits. I have tried to show my daughter and DIL, but they would both rather just eat what I make. I do have some hope for my SIL, though, he is a very good cook. About 10 years ago I gathered recipes from as far back as my great grandmas and put together a cookbook of favorite recipes. I made one for each of my kids, and each of my grandkids. Many of them are a pinch of this, a handful of that. As I find fantastic recipes I add to my own book.. I'm hoping someday my granddaughter will catch the bug. Our oldest NC grandson and his girlfriend quite often plan and cook a meal for his family or hers. Maybe he'll be the one who gets my love of cooking.
Grammylew in Jax
I know of what you speak. My catholic east coast MIL taught me how to make her learned mid west chix & dumplins. After many mistakes, I got it. It is all in the consistency. The eggs, chix stock, flour & sour cream are the stuff of the dumplins, but the amounts are what change. Knowing in my hands and eyes when they are just right for dropping into the boiling chix broth is the key. I have tried again and again to show my daughters but they too prefer I just cook it and serve it.
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This is just my opinion and remember that I work at a public school, but three hours of homework a night is too much. Homework is just to practice what you've learned and for a very bright young man three hours of it would be torture. Now that he is 16 he is rebelling as a teenager will...one of the things I remember about high school (a million years ago) is that the Catholic school kids would transition to public high school because the Catholic school ended at 8th grade. Those kids were crazy rebellious- they were the wildest teens in the whole school. I'm sure that I can only remember the group that went crazy and not all did. If the Catholic schools could be a bit more flexible with their policies a smart boy like your grandson could excel. I hope I don't make you angry. There is a Catholic school across the street from my public school and I work there sometimes- I cover their speech kids. So I meet with the teachers and principal and I know some of the parents.
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