Today's Reflection
When we do for other people what they should do for themselves, we both stay stuck.
Perhaps it's human nature to grow and change only when we have to. Unrelenting pain can serve as a motivator. Sometimes ultimatums are effective too. But making excuses for others or taking over their responsibilities, even when it's for their benefit, never inspires change. We're learning that the only change we can be certain of is one we make in ourselves.
One of the first changes we can make is to let go of others: their opinions, their behavior, and their responsibilities. Our need for them to fulfill our expectations is related to our insecurity, not theirs. Every time we preach or take on others' duties, we must recognize that we are preventing much-needed growth, ours and theirs.
Our intentions might always have been good. But the time has come to let others live their own lives. It's quite enough to take care of ourselves.
I will not do someone else's task today. Growth comes from each of us being responsible for ourselves.
Perhaps it's human nature to grow and change only when we have to. Unrelenting pain can serve as a motivator. Sometimes ultimatums are effective too. But making excuses for others or taking over their responsibilities, even when it's for their benefit, never inspires change. We're learning that the only change we can be certain of is one we make in ourselves.
One of the first changes we can make is to let go of others: their opinions, their behavior, and their responsibilities. Our need for them to fulfill our expectations is related to our insecurity, not theirs. Every time we preach or take on others' duties, we must recognize that we are preventing much-needed growth, ours and theirs.
Our intentions might always have been good. But the time has come to let others live their own lives. It's quite enough to take care of ourselves.
I will not do someone else's task today. Growth comes from each of us being responsible for ourselves.
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Loved this one Laureen, thank you!
I'm reading Influence The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Caildini, Ph.D
It's really good, it's explains persuasion, explains the psychology of why people say yes and how to apply these understandings.
So I'm currently learning the six universal principles, how to use them to become a skilled persuader, and how to defend yourself against them.
I'm finding this book hits me on the head, as I am a people pleaser and someone who usually says yes!!
I'm learning to say no and feel good about it.
I'm reading Influence The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Caildini, Ph.D
It's really good, it's explains persuasion, explains the psychology of why people say yes and how to apply these understandings.
So I'm currently learning the six universal principles, how to use them to become a skilled persuader, and how to defend yourself against them.
I'm finding this book hits me on the head, as I am a people pleaser and someone who usually says yes!!
I'm learning to say no and feel good about it.
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