Today's Reflection
Even if you understand and follow all of the rules for more effectively engaging manipulators, life with them is not likely to be easy.
--George K. Simon Jr.
Sometimes they want something. Sometimes they want someone to give them something or to feel a particular way. They want power in some way, shape, or form. Manipulators prey on our weak spots.
Obsession and guilt are weapons. Manipulators get us to use these weapons on ourselves.
Sometimes we can disengage from manipulators - walk away, set a clear limit, be done with them. Other times, it's not that easy. We may be at least temporarily stuck with a boss or authority figure that indulges in heavy manipulation. One of our children may be going through a relentlessly manipulative period. We may have a parent whom we care about deeply who has adapted manipulation as a way of life.
Learn how to effectively deal with manipulators. Not everyone means what they say. . . Learn to recognize when others are telling you what they believe you want to hear. Learn to not react, stay clear, practice nonresistance, and stay true to yourself.
Be gentle with yourself if you have a manipulator in your life. You're not responsible for the other person's attempts at manipulation. You're responsible for staying clear.
God, help me let go the weak spots in myself that allow me to fall prey to manipulations. Help me stay clear of guilt and obsession so I can decide what's best for me.
--George K. Simon Jr.
Sometimes they want something. Sometimes they want someone to give them something or to feel a particular way. They want power in some way, shape, or form. Manipulators prey on our weak spots.
Obsession and guilt are weapons. Manipulators get us to use these weapons on ourselves.
Sometimes we can disengage from manipulators - walk away, set a clear limit, be done with them. Other times, it's not that easy. We may be at least temporarily stuck with a boss or authority figure that indulges in heavy manipulation. One of our children may be going through a relentlessly manipulative period. We may have a parent whom we care about deeply who has adapted manipulation as a way of life.
Learn how to effectively deal with manipulators. Not everyone means what they say. . . Learn to recognize when others are telling you what they believe you want to hear. Learn to not react, stay clear, practice nonresistance, and stay true to yourself.
Be gentle with yourself if you have a manipulator in your life. You're not responsible for the other person's attempts at manipulation. You're responsible for staying clear.
God, help me let go the weak spots in myself that allow me to fall prey to manipulations. Help me stay clear of guilt and obsession so I can decide what's best for me.
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Dear Laureen,
I had a manipulator...my ex hubby! Now that my ex MIL died last week and the ex told me not to go to the funeral (he manipulates my ex BFF bigtime) I for the final last time let him manipulate me. The door has been closed with a big bang if I say so myself.
I even sent an email to my ex BFF and told her not to contact me until my ex is out of her life totally. I'll see if she complies to my boundaries I set for her. I am now free of my ex.
I kept in contact not with him but with my ex BFF because I loved my ex MIL.
Now I know she is at peace...and so am I.
In fact I'm going to copy and paste this to my ex BFF. Hugs Debbie
I had a manipulator...my ex hubby! Now that my ex MIL died last week and the ex told me not to go to the funeral (he manipulates my ex BFF bigtime) I for the final last time let him manipulate me. The door has been closed with a big bang if I say so myself.
I even sent an email to my ex BFF and told her not to contact me until my ex is out of her life totally. I'll see if she complies to my boundaries I set for her. I am now free of my ex.
I kept in contact not with him but with my ex BFF because I loved my ex MIL.
Now I know she is at peace...and so am I.
In fact I'm going to copy and paste this to my ex BFF. Hugs Debbie
Well my son's father(for lack of another kind description) was the pro on manipulation. I learned alot. How to spot them and how to get away from them. He has not been in our lives from the beginning since I became aware of his manipulating, and controlling behavior. But I have to thank him for the education for future reference. And yes it was a great day when I took the power back that he so gluttonly counted on to control me.
thanks
Sharon
thanks
Sharon
smck_52
sweet laureen...are you watching my life on webcam or soemthing????
my mother is manipulating now and i caught her in a lie the other day....and its all about----well never mind
with my mom it's the whole she is my birth mom thing
my mother is manipulating now and i caught her in a lie the other day....and its all about----well never mind
with my mom it's the whole she is my birth mom thing
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
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