Today's Reflection
Acceptance frees us.
Conflict can result from trying to change a person or situation that we don't like. And conflict causes stress and agitation, both of which limit our lives. They steal our ability to be open to opportunities for growth and change.
Why is it so hard to accept situations we don't like? Twelve Step programs tell us it's because of our ego. We feel diminished when others don't agree with our plan or our opinion. Our self-worth is tied to other people's reactions.
But we can change. We can let the success stories we hear in this program inspire us to let others be. We will discover how much better we feel when we're not on the battlefield with our friends and loved ones.
I don't have to have conflict with other people today. I can let others be themselves and do what feels right to them. I'll feel more at ease too.
Conflict can result from trying to change a person or situation that we don't like. And conflict causes stress and agitation, both of which limit our lives. They steal our ability to be open to opportunities for growth and change.
Why is it so hard to accept situations we don't like? Twelve Step programs tell us it's because of our ego. We feel diminished when others don't agree with our plan or our opinion. Our self-worth is tied to other people's reactions.
But we can change. We can let the success stories we hear in this program inspire us to let others be. We will discover how much better we feel when we're not on the battlefield with our friends and loved ones.
I don't have to have conflict with other people today. I can let others be themselves and do what feels right to them. I'll feel more at ease too.
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Debbie,
This reading really hit home this morning, because it is why I had to have my roommate of four years leave, I cannot change her, but I also could no longer accept the behaviors that she exhibited. I accepted her as she was for a very long time, but when her behavior made my life unmanageable, it was time for her to go. I am very sad today that it had to be this way, but sometimes the kindest thing we can do is accept that we cannot do anything to help another and choose to do what's right by us.
Thanks for always having something positive to share with me (us).
Laureen
This reading really hit home this morning, because it is why I had to have my roommate of four years leave, I cannot change her, but I also could no longer accept the behaviors that she exhibited. I accepted her as she was for a very long time, but when her behavior made my life unmanageable, it was time for her to go. I am very sad today that it had to be this way, but sometimes the kindest thing we can do is accept that we cannot do anything to help another and choose to do what's right by us.
Thanks for always having something positive to share with me (us).
Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
I totally understand about the roommate thing. Mine was my ex BFF were were closer than sisters. All during my 1st marriage she would ask me why I stayed, being treated like you wouldn't believe. Then I finally leave and now she is my ex's "surrogate wife" no sex but making decisions for him, and my ex MIL. Hell...she had my ex MIL cat put down without telling her (she is now in a nursing home, 94 and very confused) or my ex hubby. She brings me down and I get so depressed even talking to her. She has never married and her health is bad. I asked her what she is getting out of all of this dysfunction in an email but haven't heard back from her. In my last email to her I said I just couldn't be around her for the reason's I stated above. I know I hurt her feelings but I'm not going to be caught in the middle of my "old life". I have to move on. We were friends for over 30 years.
Yes Laureen, your post spoke to me today very loudly. I needed to hear it. I don't need to feel guilty about letting her go.
Yes Laureen, your post spoke to me today very loudly. I needed to hear it. I don't need to feel guilty about letting her go.
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