What's New Sunday?
Good to hear from you Debbie. How was your first week at work? How you liking VT? Thought of you often this week. Our son, Angus, age 27, lives in Burlington. He says it has been cold.
Not much planned for today. Going to church this morning.
I get to wear "The Bra" today. No one stole it last night. Sun just coming up over horizon here. Expecting rain and strong winds later today. I see that many are getting bad weather.
Went to pool yesterday, got good sun. Hubby gave me a kindle like product last year. Wish I could find free books to download online. I am sober 39 days and loving it.
Happy Sunday to all. Monica
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Are you able to access the local library? Even my little town has many books that can be "checked out" and downloaded for 2-4 weeks at a time. Free. Once you get the access codes from the library you can download then right from your computer at home.
I've been thinking about a Kindle or the like for a couple of years, but I really like the feel of the book in my hands. Old fashioned, I guess. Or just old... Space isn't a concern in my house, but if I was anyplace smaller I wouldn't have room for all of the hundreds of books that I have all over the house. Or thousands.
Congratulations on 39 days. Good for you!
Candy
I'm up to let out the dogs and then it's back to bed for a few more hours.
I admire you for having the courage to just pick up and move - not sure that I could do it.
I just took possession of a two bedroom condo and will go over today (it's 5 minutes from my house and 2 minutes from work) and clean the floors, windows, kitchen, etc. I'm going to rent it out and hopefully find responsible tenants to live there. I may move into it in a few years, but it's on the second floor and I don't like the thought of hauling groceries up a flight of stairs - we'll see.
I turn 60 tomorrow - and it's turning out to be one of those birthdays that seems very significant and not for a good reason. I know that it's just a number; however, that number is causing me to reflect on my life and I don't like what I see. My life doesn't seem full of very much meaning - divorced, no kids. I'm wondering what, if anything, I'll leave behind and who will miss me. Because I'm feeling like this, I've made an appointment with a therapist that I like, and I intend to work with him on this issue.
I tend to isolate myself from others, except at work where I am around hundreds of students every day, and I know that that isn't good. It's difficult for me to find the time to socialize with other people because of the demanding job that I have, but I think that making more friends and going out with them might be part of the answer for me. Ugh! I'm dreading tomorrow.
How's this for an uplifting message? Sorry - this too shall pass.
Have a good day everyone.
Margaret
SW: 240
CW: 173.8
GW: 150
The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated.
Mohandas Gandhi
I have to say I have many of the same feelings. IE: WLS when I decided that if I ever did have grandkids I wanted to play with them and not be the fat granny in the W/C who couldn't do anything with them.
When I decided last year I didn't want to go thru bankruptcy (but did anyway) and started looking for another job so I can "double dip".
When I decided to move to Vt and take this job. I had pretty much decided I was always going to be in Ohio. I knew if I didn't do this now I never would and I have always wanted to live on my "own" as it were and in the northern US. I just always thought it would be in the UP, but I have to tell you, this is great up here.
I turn 59 in April, so I know from whence you come. When I turned 50, I was just glad to still be alive, that was a year from heck with multiple serious health issues.
I feel older then I did 5 years ago, and I think it is because I AM older and fibro, myofascial pain and arthur visiting so much more now! But this too shall pass as you say! Take care and be kind to yourself. remember we all make decisions based on the best information we have at that time. you don't have kids? you have had thousands of them and touched so many more lives then you realize. I'm done with the soapbox now, next??????? LOL
Debbie G
Lap RNY 12/12/05
320 highest, 302 consultation, 289 surgery. Total weight loss:165lbs.
I know that I have had interactions with many wonderful people in my teaching career, and as I got to like myself more, I seemed to like everyone else more (funny how that happens, eh?? LOL)
Every student has taught me something about myself, and if they feel half of the thankfulness for me as I've felt for them, I am indeed very blessed. Thanks for reminding me.
SW: 240
CW: 173.8
GW: 150
The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated.
Mohandas Gandhi
Margaret,
It is so "normal" to have these feelings but it doesn't make it any easier to handle. You are being proactive and seeking out someone to talk to. Winter always does that to me.
As a teacher I concur that you have touched many lives and you will certainly leave a legacy behind in those whose lives you have become a part of.
It doesn't sound like you have a lot of time but sometimes reaching out to a family in need, becoming a "foster grandparent" perhaps to a neighbor child or someone in the community who doesn't have a "grand" might be rewarding for both of you. Sometimes if you contact a local school or social agency you might be able to connect with a family that way. Or anonymously through a church you could make someone's family feel better. That always makes me feel better.
You are around a lot of people every day. I think it's perfectly normal to want some alone time. However, if you feel the need to "connect" then get out there and do it. I joined a local group called "Fun, fit and over 50." There are no real requirements that you have to keep. Just be involved as much or as little as you wish. Hikes, walks, book discussion groups, social mixers, camping trips. . . . Something for everyone. You might google it and see if there is something similar in your area.
Get out there and give away smiles today! You never know when you may brighten someone else's day!
Karen C
I will probably volunteer on Christmas day at my church where we supply dinner for people who have no one else. That's always a good way to get out of myself for a while.
I've also got some ideas for volunteering - I just left this page and volunteered for Habitat for Humanity. We've all heard of the organization and this one works locally on building housing in my area. I think that it will be an intereresting place to volunteer, and it looke like there are things to do besides putting up drywall!!
Thanks to all of you - this group always comes through!
Love you all
Margaret
SW: 240
CW: 173.8
GW: 150
The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated.
Mohandas Gandhi
Margaret, I would consider this a "wow" moment for you also. Volunteering to do home construction in any phase is work. Would you have even considered the possibility a couple of years ago? Before WLS I had to rest on the way into my classroom. This should be a great way to make new friends also. I'm sure they'll find all kinds of things for you to do and will lucky to have you. I love how pro active you are about the "blues." Instead of having a pity party you are looking around to see what you can do about it.
Karen C
